Just venting.

girlwithcurls2

Feel the love. You’re in good company. The support you have is real and you deserve it. You are no less a beauty than anyone. Own your goodness. Be your own best friend ❤️

elisa123gal

weight loss and fitness is a journey. We start motivated, we get into a new way of eating.... then there are the times when you can go back to the old ways and the new you sees the red flag. Even if it is for one meal, day, or vacation. These revelations are part of getting there. Cut yourself a break..move on and get back on track.

For me, I rule out all buffets and all you can eat restaurants, for obvious reasons.

liz0269

I am two week past my first planned two week diet break. For two weeks I tried to eat at maintenance. I actually ate above most days and I beat the crap out of myself for it.
But the scale didn't blow up. I was able to get right back to it when the two weeks were up.
And I learned from it. I learned that I have much more control over my eating than I thought. If I hadn't gotten right back to it, I wouldn't have learned that.
I am learning from this community that I have to develop lifelong habits if I am going to be successful.
I think it was normal for me to beat myself up for overeating because I lived like that and hated myself for it for so long. Of course I would react the same way. Until I went through it to the other side and learned that things are different now. I can indulge once in awhile without it destroying my overall plan.
It's like when I quit smoking. I was told that I was reprogramming my brain. Because of this, all of those firsts would be difficult because my brain was trained to smoke in those situations so I would have cravings to overcome.
Overeating is the same thing. Your brain is used to shaming you for eating a lot of food. Of course it would react that way to a large decadent meal.
I guess what I am doing a really bad job of trying to say is that your depression is a normal reaction for you. But now your brain knows that it can trust you to stay the course even if you indulge once in a blue moon. So hopefully next time you won't have the same reaction.
So much of weight loss is the mental battle. You won this round. Hopefully the next one will be easier.

MichelleMinn

elisa123gal wrote: »

For me, I rule out all buffets and all you can eat restaurants, for obvious reasons.

Believe it or not, those work great for me since all I ever want is a little of what looks best to me. Do I end up overeating? Yeah, but not by much since I love veggies so those make the cut, and I walk out with happy taste buds.

elisa123gal

MichelleMinn wrote: »

elisa123gal wrote: »

For me, I rule out all buffets and all you can eat restaurants, for obvious reasons.

Believe it or not, those work great for me since all I ever want is a little of what looks best to me. Do I end up overeating? Yeah, but not by much since I love veggies so those make the cut, and I walk out with happy taste buds.

It is such a personal journey... and it is interesting that what works for on person doesn't for another. That's why finding what works individually..really what gets results I guess I should say.. is what matters.

floofyschmoofer

MichelleMinn wrote: »

elisa123gal wrote: »

For me, I rule out all buffets and all you can eat restaurants, for obvious reasons.

Believe it or not, those work great for me since all I ever want is a little of what looks best to me. Do I end up overeating? Yeah, but not by much since I love veggies so those make the cut, and I walk out with happy taste buds.

I read this and laughed out loud because a buffet is basically Open Season for me.

Golden Corral is what comes to mind, and I can easily pack away 4-5 yeast rolls, a pile of mashed potatoes + corn, probably with ranch because ranch is the ultimate condiment. Meatloaf or maybe some fried chicken. A small salad-- drowning in ranch. Bourbon. Street. Chicken. -- on white rice, of course! More yeast rolls, and dip them in ranch. And then dessert-- cheesecake or ice cream, or maybe both. Dipped in ranch- KIDDING. Not to mention the sweet tea!

But yeah no, I do better with a menu or a set course. If I know I'm going out to eat in advance, I'll pull up the menu on my phone and decide what I want before-hand, ideally while I'm full, and just stick to it.

MichelleMinn

Well, yeah ... Golden Corral. Only been to it once, and I discovered candied bacon.

floofyschmoofer

I have to thank you guys so much for the encouragement you gave me a couple of months ago.

I took this tonight and wanted to share it here. I stuck with things and have lost 22 pounds so far. Same outfit, same jeans but a genuine smile on a whole new woman. And I have 35 more pounds until my first Big Goal.

nighthawk584

floofyschmoofer wrote: »

For what it's worth, I think you look very confident and beautiful just get back on track and you'll be fine :-)

PKM0515

floofyschmoofer wrote: »

I have to thank you guys so much for the encouragement you gave me a couple of months ago.

I took this tonight and wanted to share it here. I stuck with things and have lost 22 pounds so far. Same outfit, same jeans but a genuine smile on a whole new woman. And I have 35 more pounds until my first Big Goal.

Look at you! There is a NOTICEABLE difference, and I love the confident smile!

ravengirl2014

Pretty then...pretty now 😁

brenn24179

you are so cute, dont worry about 1 night. Get back on track and do your logging. You are so honest. Emotional eating really gets me sometimes but I am doing better with it. I journal alot and tell myself I dont want to wake up and feel sad and guilty when I get on those scales in the morning! seems to work

todds404

Sorry that meal made you feel that way. It sucks when you start a nice cheat meal thinking it’s a celebration and in the end you just feel guilty. Just count it as a reward. It’s not your new normal. You shouldn’t feel guilty. You sound very aware of your actions and how important it is to be consistent. Don’t worry, you’ll make it.