Why I don't want any friends here

bosque1234

I've been on MFP a couple times, once for a year or more. Back here for the past 60 days and I'm doing it very differently this time. Like many of you, (maybe) I am on other social media spaces like Twitter, IG and FB. The last 'lengthy' time I was here I was posting my food, reading and commenting on my friend's meals and progress and it began to feel like another social media place when I had far less time.

This go round I'm doing great actually, losing steadily. I don't interact with folks except here in forums if I chose to. I record my macros and meal details, look at my reports, and don't spend time socializing with everyone else's days and foods. This has been really freeing for me. I had wonderful MFP pals the last time, I just didn't want to come back and get hung up on hours of unproductive activity here. This might sound a bit 'antisocial' but I've really changed my way of food shopping, cooking, eating.

So far this works great and it's the only way I'll do MFP for the future. If some of you feel like MFP takes too much time overall, you might think about doing the same thing. Check into the forums when you want to connect, so you're not duplicating groups of friends like other sm spaces.

Happy trails--

dm01234_1

Any and all forms of Social Media can consume a great deal of time, if you allow it to.

People use it differently at different times of their life as well, I know I do. Over the years I've come and gone from here as my life schedule allows. Friends list here are optional and sometimes can be very helpful, but it's situational by user.

I've been here where all I've done is participate in the forums as well (no friend list). There was no need since I didn't have the time to keep up daily with them.

Before I leave I always delete my account since I never know for sure if I'm going to come back. There are other sites related to my hobbies that I used to visit way more frequently than here. Many of those I haven't even peeked at in 5+ years.

Use it in the manner it works best for you.

Katmary71

Glad you found what works best for you. I personally feel inspired by my friends, I've made some really good ones. It doesn't take me long to post a little something on their progress, but can see where it can become time-consuming. Best of luck to you on your health.

LyndaBSS

Whatever works for you. I don't use other social media. I like interacting with people here who are on the same journey towards a healthier lifestyle. ☺

elisa123gal

what I get from your post is that this time you're actually losing the weight by doing the work you always needed to be doing instead of thinking be active on MFP was enough.

I come here for support..not that I need relationships with other members. But, I find just reading the posts and continuing threads keep me focused on health and fitness. I also learn a lot from others on here. I just started working out lifting weights and the fitness forum is wonderful and it got me started on the right foot.

BasedGawd412

Do whatever that's in your best interest. I enjoy the community here and seeing others success brings me joy.

cheriej2042

What’s great about MFP is you can do whatever works for you. There are all sorts of groups here some you may ultimately want to join later but don’t have to join now, I’ve never sought friends here and the two I have are no longer active. I prefer just looking at the forums and replying or reading the ones that interest me. I have enough to do just food logging, weighing myself and keeping track of my exercise.

glovepuppet

I post occasionally, but don't do the friends thing. Previously, I've accepted requests only to receive snotty, entitled messages from them, instructing me to open my diary, and lecturing me on accountability. I don't need to deal with that kind of cattle excrement.

You don't owe anyone anything here. Give as much as you feel like giving.