Friends etiquette - you want support, so give it back!

FeelingLessChubby

Has this happened to you?

You've received friend requests from people you don't know. Groovy.
Your friend list has grown and you're getting those updates on the home page feed. Lovely to see how everyone is doing.
You leave supportive messages under those updates and messages. Fab!
You get nothing back...

It's only polite to return the support when you regularly receive it from your MPF friends!

So a bit of an etiquette summary: if one of your friends comments and supports you, comment back - it only takes a moment and it's much appreciated. Don't make it a one way transaction and just take take take, especially as people are wishing you well and congratulating you on your weight loss and progress etc.

workout_ninja

Well if MFP friends do that, why dont you delete them from your friends list? I only have a few friends but everyone comments, and its nice

FixIngMe13

I've deleted people after proving to me for one week they aren't supportive. I actually have a friend now that I'm on the fence about... I want to delete, but don't want her emailing me whining about why I did it... because I did it before and took her back thinking she was going to be way more supportive. She isn't...in fact she is so wrapped up in her own little world I don't even think she realizes she has pals on here that could help her along her way. ((I should just delete her and get it the heck over with since it bothers me so much))

Anyhow... I get what you are saying, and I agree 100%

Unfortunately not everyone thinks the way you and I think... so.... there ya have it. Just delete them and move on with the pals you DO have that support you. I think also if you have like 200 friends it is hard to be supportive of every single one of them. I mean if you can do it, have at it, but I would find that very time consuming and hard... especially if you work a full time job and have children. No one wants to be on the computer all night/day long.

So... cheers to you, best of luck to you, and I really do wish you the best. :flowerforyou:

Eloira

I hear ya! One thing I've found is I have all these lovely new friends but I'm not seeing updates for all of them -.- only a few!! So it probably looks like I'm the "unsupportive one" but yeah I have some of them xD I feel too guilty for deleting heh x

FeelingLessChubby

Well if MFP friends do that, why dont you delete them from your friends list? I only have a few friends but everyone comments, and its nice

Of course I would do that

BonnieandClyde29

I just went through friends that never talk to me, and people who haven't logged on over a month or so!

Ophidion

Nah I just do what I like no etiquette as such...

MinMin97

Well, yes. But.
It takes me a loooooong time to delete someone. I certainly have had my times of being more quiet. But now I am back quite seriously and strong, after some setbacks. I am glad I did not get deleted.

athenasurrenders

I warn people when they friend-request me that I am a bit rubbish at keeping up to date on the friends feed. I just don't always think to check it. I do my diary, pop over to the forums for ten minutes, and that's it.

I try to check occasionally and to comment on everyone from time to time, especially if they've hit some sort of milestone. But I'm not going to respond to every thing posted by every person. It also depends on the friend. I have some people who use it like facebook and write very lengthy posts about personal details of their life that I don't know what to say to. I have some who rarely post anything, and others who pop up every day to say they're under calorie goal - but I feel a bit insincere saying 'great job!' over and over again.

So yeh. People who need comments from me every day should not friend me.

alisonlynn1976

It doesn't bother me. I've only deleted people for sending me inappropriate PMs. I try to look at my feed every day and make some encouraging comments, but I don't pay much attention to how many comments I've given to whom, and I definitely don't judge them for how many comments they've given to me. Because I feel that I'm mainly here to participate in the forums and track my own progress, I see it as a pleasant surprise when someone gives positive feedback to me.