Better, not older

caco_ethes

I see a lot of posts about people feeling old, and I’m at the age now where a fair number of these posts are made by people younger than me. We may not all be the same age but we do have one thing in common, every single solitary one of us: we’re the oldest we’ve ever been. And man does it suck on the days you feel it.

But what are some things that have come with age that have made you better? What have you learned, cultivated, or experienced that make the aging worthwhile?

caco_ethes

I used to feel i had to be perfect to be well liked, when really its our imperfections that make us relatable. Feeling unafraid of being my true self is a freedom i have now that i never had when i was younger, and I wouldn’t trade it

caco_ethes

Another freedom is in just telling the truth. I used to lie a lot, usually out of fear of repercussions or something. Now I’m able to tell the actual truth and not some version that makes me look better.

This isn’t directly due to aging but i had a conversation with a friend about this and we agreed it was easier now

kevont

I'm not that old (mid 40s) but the need to impress people isn't as strong anymore. I wish I could tell my teen-age self that people will come and go. Some will like you some will not. In the long run, be who you are because in the long run you have to live with you are. I hope that makes some sense.

caco_ethes

kevont wrote: »

I'm not that old (mid 40s) but the need to impress people isn't as strong anymore. I wish I could tell my teen-age self that people will come and go. Some will like you some will not. In the long run, be who you are because in the long run you have to live with you are. I hope that makes some sense.

Totally get it. And the people who see the real you and stick around are gonna be the ones you value the most anyway.

Cowsfan1

kevont wrote: »

I'm not that old (mid 40s) but the need to impress people isn't as strong anymore. I wish I could tell my teen-age self that people will come and go. Some will like you some will not. In the long run, be who you are because in the long run you have to live with you are. I hope that makes some sense.

Agreed with this / friends or acquaintances or overrated and come and go - some true friends are not overrated and will be there like fam but not all - so I tell my kids if you lose a few don’t sweat it

laprimaJenny

One of the most important things I realized recently is that there are a very limited number of people in your life who truly love and care for you. People are always there for you when the sun is shinning. The ones that become your light when your world is dark are the people that are irreplaceable. Negative people on the other hand aren't just expendable, they need to be excised from your life. Part of growing older is learning to deal with having less energy. We certainly don't need to be around sullen life draining people that constantly bring us down.

ythannah

I can dress according to my own sense of style without worrying about the opinions of other people. It took me a long time to get to this point. Sadly, I allowed friends to influence me way too much (well beyond the teenage years), and there are still some clothes in my closet that aren't "me".

I'm at the top of my game professionally. My expertise is highly valued. Something that is only achieved with years and experience.

Motorsheen

I got nuthin'.

caco_ethes

My MIL respects me more.

And I respect her more because i get now how hard it is to do this mothering thing

mtndewme

I just care a lot less overall and wow, what a concept.

honeybee__12

Patience, I had a short fuse when I was younger.
Now, I listen more than I talk.
I’m sure there’s more that I can’t remember, lol.

your_future_ex_wife

I have a greater appreciation for youth.

your_future_ex_wife

tinkerhellraiser wrote: »

i’m not great at self evaluation performance reviews but maybe something about how i adopted a growth mindset or realized human potential is not fixed or that while multiple iterations were necessary on the path to final review going forward these changes will provide the information needed to fine tune the final product to best fit the customers specifications

I like thinking that you’re both the product and the customer. ❤️

pizzamyheart

caco_ethes wrote: »

I see a lot of posts about people feeling old, and I’m at the age now where a fair number of these posts are made by people younger than me. We may not all be the same age but we do have one thing in common, every single solitary one of us: we’re the oldest we’ve ever been. And man does it suck on the days you feel it.

But what are some things that have come with age that have made you better? What have you learned, cultivated, or experienced that make the aging worthwhile?

I can outmean, outbitch, outfox, outsmart, outlast, and outwit any of these younger whippersnappers. They only have me beat in the bathroom dept. (I always lose in the "lets see who doesn't pee while doing jumping jacks and laughing and sneezing" contest)

nooshi713

Once I turned 30, I started noticing subtle changes that come with aging like a few white hairs, occasional stiffness, random aches and pains, and I can’t handle liquor any more.

I am 37 but don’t feel or look old. Plus, I’m wiser, more confident, and have my life together now.

GymGoddessGoals

Moving into my late 40's; my IDGAF is so much stronger nowadays.

your_future_ex_wife

Now that I’ve achieved a certain level of maturity I delete more comments than I post.

Ssssss666666

58 and not feeling at all old. I definitely don't sweat the small stuff like I used to when I was younger. All in all I'm probably happier now than I was then🤔😀

CoffeeAndContour

I’ve learned to think first, react second. I used to be so quick to respond, and it definitely showcased the worst parts of me.