I cried when i look at the scale

aedw1122

I’ve been dealing with anxiety for my body since i was in high school.
I was ugly and overweight.
However, due to some bad events in life and a little bit of bullying, i took a lot of self care and i look like this recently! (50,2kg)

My heaviest weight was 59,6kg and my lowest was 48,4kg.
I have never been so happy in my life.
However, my goal was 47kg and my weight NOW is 50.2kg.
I am devastated whenever i look at the scale and became so depressed when i gain weight/when the scale isn’t showing a decrease.
I want to stop being too affected by looking at the numbers on the scales because sometimes it triggers my depression and it makes my cry.
How do you stay positive even after seeing the disappointing numbers on the scale?
If you have some weight loss tips or workout tips that can really help me to lose that 3kgs and build my body muscle, i would really appreciate it!
Thank you

aedw1122

I know I shouldn’t rely too much on the scale but I can’t help myself to be too be affected by the numbers. On some occasions i do cry after seeing the unwanted numbers. I just wanna know how some of you keep the positivity in your journey even after seeing the disappointing numbers on the scale

jenncornelsen

I turned my focus to muscle building intead of just being thin. Once every couple months i measure my body fat percentage with a trainer, seeing as that matters more to overall health than a fluctuating number on a scale. You are obviously already fit and healthy! I hope you can celebrate that

igutt

A number on a scale means nothing for example 90 kilos (200lbs) for me is heavy but Brock Lesnar at 200 is going to be tiny so it’s just a number.

Rely on the mirror more and rely on performance even more and just try have fun everyday

robbell678

A litre of water has a 1 kilogram mass and that's about 2 lbs. Water is biggest enemy of scale peepers,...you look great! I look at my body mass as a sponge, I can adjust its weight by controlling water to some degree. That scale doesn't care about you,..so maybe don't care about it?

ladyzherra

I can really understand what you write here.

So much of my sense of worth has come from how I look, especially my weight.

I am not sure if you have reached a point at which you feel that this is harmful to you -- some people do not reach this point. But it sounds to me as if you are concerned and feel that although you relish your health and how good you feel in your skin, you are concerned about what might feel like obsession. There is a fear that if you don't maintain or continue to lose that you will lose your worth.

Oh, girl. I think a lot of us can chime in that we know what that feels like.

Just recognizing that something feels off here is a good, strong step in the right direction.

You have a history of feeling poorly and worthless because of how you looked in the past, and this motivates where you are now, which is a long way from that. So, give yourself some props. You took control of your life; you motivated to get somewhere where you could feel good.

Now, the challenge is to learn how to appreciate your journey and to begin to detach yourself from connecting weight with worth.

Hey, I'm telling you...it's easier said than done for most of us. I know that for me, it's been a journey across many years. I continue to work on it. I went from about 15 years of fitness and nutrition obsession, and body building myself into sickness so that I was passing out a lot for years, to someone who holds her belly in her hands and offers it love.

It's like....a thing.

Find a way to love your body, not for how thin or light it is, but just for being. There is value in that. There is beauty when you honor yourself.

RelCanonical

Don't rely too much on the scale. It's a guideline not an end-all. It gives you an idea of around where you should be, but go based on how your body feels and how clothes fit, especially if you strength train.

girlwithcurls2

It's a number. I can't give it the power of making me happy or depressed. The number is going to change over time, short time (daily and weekly variances) and long term as I age. If I was going to be depressed because it doesn't give me my weight in my 20s anymore, I'd be on medication. Instead, I focus on being strong and fitting well into my clothes. In my 20s, I was quite sedentary and not very strong. Now, because I strength train and do lots of other activities, I can do what I want, when I want to do it. That's my focus. I'm more upset when I have a crummy run and I know it's because I have slacked off the exercise.

iheartmyyorkie

I also cried when I looked at the scale...at the Walmart deli. It read $9.79/pound for sliced turkey breast.
But you have a lovely physique.

aedw1122

Thank you for the kind words everyone. I will try my best to love my body more and stop focusing too much on the numbers..
Your words mean so much to me.
I hope you’d always find joy in your fitness journey!

LivingtheLeanDream

Could you put your scale away, out of sight? Please love your body and look after yourself.

TravisJHunt

Your body looks great, and I mean that smile on that face is pretty spectacular too. I might get the neon yellow color of the skin on your face looked at though!