I’m a man that almost broke down crying in Walmart trying to find a shirt :-(

pinuplove

CardinalComb wrote: »

Been there done that, except it was a big and tall store.

You can cure your depression just by cutting calories in half and restricting carbs so you’re not hungry all the time. Lost 50lbs in 4 months and I’ve never been healthier - mentally and physically. Don’t listen to the people saying it’s hard and go slow - pro tip: it’s not hard and losing the weight fast will help with your mental state.

Extremely irresponsible and potentially dangerous advice here.

corinasue1143

You have gotten a lot of good, but different advice. I say choose one. Of all the suggestions made, choose the one you can do right now and do it. Be proud of yourself because you’ve taken another step. Look for another suggestion you can accomplish. Do it. Another step in the right direction. Keep going.

candylilacs

cmriverside wrote: »

My depression was being made worse by me. I wasn't getting any exercise, I was eating lots of sugar and very few vegetables unless you want to count tomato sauce or potatoes as vegetables, which...

they really aren't the only plants out there that are edible...

Do not try marijuana. It works as a depressant (and it's making you eat more.)

Muscleflex79

CardinalComb wrote: »

Been there done that, except it was a big and tall store.

You can cure your depression just by cutting calories in half and restricting carbs so you’re not hungry all the time. Lost 50lbs in 4 months and I’ve never been healthier - mentally and physically. Don’t listen to the people saying it’s hard and go slow - pro tip: it’s not hard and losing the weight fast will help with your mental state.

wtf did i just read? he can cure his depression by cutting his calories in half? how do you figure that??

drac2you

I'm so sorry that you are feeling so terribly. You have gotten some wonderful advice here. Trust me, I've been where you are now and worse. It is difficult to overcome, but your family loves you, use them for support. Tell your wife about how you are feeling just as you related above, I'm sure she will be your biggest supporter. Then, please, for your mental health, begin by going to your family doctor to discuss treatment options for your depression and progress from there. No one wants medication and/or therapy, BUT it can truly help you in so many ways; it does not mean it will be forever, rather it is a most useful tool to regain your mental health by changing the negative thought processes/habits we become ingrained in over time. In the meantime, lean on those who care for you, they will understand you cannot be a pillar of strength 24/7 365. Start small as other's have suggested, burn more calories than you consume by using MFP to help you keep track, then progress to trying to increase activity in little increments. Good luck to you and I hope many happier days are in your future.

brenn24179

i noticed you have been on here since 2013, that is when I started also. I feel for you, weight is so depressing and I hate we have to deal with this problem. I lost weight and gained most of it back 2 years ago and then a lady at my gym lost 160 lbs and she inspired me. I logged my calories, watched my carbs 100gr or less and lost the weight. I also did some emotional work, journaling and had to accept how my family was so toxic and I would have to distance myself because I couldnt change them. Very painful but when I accepted the situation and quit argueing it helped alot. Dont know what your depression is about but this is what happened to me. I had 40 lbs to lose so if that lady lost 160 I thought I should be able to do the same.

Italiana_xx79

We have all been there. You are not alone. It takes just one day at a time and being consistent. Don't give up. I am sending you a friend request (if that is okay).

Chas7174

This is my first time ever posting or replying to anything in the forum. I decided to check out the whole community thing out because I too am struggling today. I too suffer from depression and anxiety and I am at my heaviest weight. My depression and anxiety have actually been better than usual, probably due to currently being on an antidepressant that was prescribed for my migraines; but today I had an anxiety attack on the way to work. This caused those worthless feelings to creep back in and honestly I wanted to eat my emotions. I'm sitting at my work desk sipping my protein shake and decided to get on here instead. (Sorry I'm also a bit of a rambler)

I just want you to know you are not alone. Not with the weight struggles or the emotional struggles. We are all traveling a rough bumpy road. You will get past this. But like so many others have said, addressing the depression is the first step. It will help you get over that hump in the road. For me, besides the medication that has helped my anxiety and depression, having an accountability partner really helps. Talk to your wife. She can be such a huge support system for you. My 21 year old daughter is mine. She helps keep me on track food wise and helps redirect my thinking when I'm anxious. You can add me if you'd like. I wish you all the best on your health journey.

snickerscharlie

CardinalComb wrote: »

You can cure your depression just by cutting calories in half and restricting carbs so you’re not hungry all the time. Lost 50lbs in 4 months and I’ve never been healthier - mentally and physically. Don’t listen to the people saying it’s hard and go slow - pro tip: it’s not hard and losing the weight fast will help with your mental state.

Clinical depression is a brain chemistry disorder. It it not 'cured' by losing weight fast or eating less carbs. Millions of people wish it were that simple. Please educate yourself. Both on the subjects of mental *and* physical health. Quick weight loss isn't healthy, advisable or - in the vast majority of cases - sustainable, either.

To the OP: As many have suggested, please talk to your wife *and* make an appointment with your family doctor. You don't have to go this alone.

debtay123

i am sorry you are going though this. Depression is serious and it Is a illness- get the HELp you need- talk to your doctor, talk to your wife- and take it slow and steady- I take medicine for depression and it is the BEST thing i could do for MYSELF you deserve to feel good about life- many prayers for you

Justin_7272

It's very hard-and brave-to write that down.

As wierd and ephemeral as it is, we have a strong support group here. So laugh, cry, rage at life, and we'll be here.

psychod787

No shame in a man crying. I cry at "Old Yeller" till this very day.

lois1231

Just wanted to reiterate what others have said. You are not useless or a waste of space. You are not your weight. Posting here and being vulnerable took a lot of courage. I admire you for your bravery. You have already made the first step. You got this and we are here for you. You can do this. Many of us have been there. For me it was being in high school and trying to find a winter coat that fit. I would always end up with one in green because that is all they had in larger sizes where I lived. You are not alone and deserve to be here.

o0kody0o

CardinalComb wrote: »

Been there done that, except it was a big and tall store.

You can cure your depression just by cutting calories in half and restricting carbs so you’re not hungry all the time. Lost 50lbs in 4 months and I’ve never been healthier - mentally and physically. Don’t listen to the people saying it’s hard and go slow - pro tip: it’s not hard and losing the weight fast will help with your mental state.

Sorry but this is ridiculous, unhelpful, dangerous advice and you know it. I’m actually kind of lost for words. I’m sure there’s a thread called “The Bad Advice Thread” or something along those lines, maybe you should post there.

Peace ✌🏻

ReenieHJ

Please remember that all a scale does is measure pounds. It doesn't measure the size of your heart, the kindness you give others, the happiness other people feel because you're part of their lives, the love you feel.
If you want to, you can change your weight with support, love, inspiration, motivation and a few tools(hint * MFP )but try not to let your weight be who you are while you travel the journey. You are so much more than a size. Stay here with us and we can help.

AliNouveau

As others said I hope you seek someone out to talk to about your depression.

As for the weight we all came here for a reason. To get healthy and fit. You can do it. Start tracking your meals, get moving. While we know eating fewer calories than you use is what causes weight loss exercise is so amazing for feeling good. I've been laid up recovering from some surgery but a workout today energized me, daily walks have been making me happy.

Don't beat yourself up though....you joined here use the tools, you've already taken the first step now it's time make the new you

777Gemma888

Losingthedamnweight wrote: »

This is so embarrassing but I’m in a bad place right now. I’ve been depressed and feeling like a useless waste of space for the past year and I’ve just done the same routine. Gone to work, come home. Had a few days off where I do nothing and make excuses to my wife about why we never go anywhere. Then pretend to be happy when my daughter comes over (cause I can’t bear to let her know how daddy really feels) and rinse and repeat.

I’ve gotten so fat that none of my clothes even fit. My wife has asked me when we go out lately “it’s cold why don’t you put on a jacket” and I’m too embarrassed to say because they don’t fit me.

After work this morning I went to Walmart to try to find something that would keep me warm and just trying on things and looking in the mirror I just couldn’t take it. I guess it’s been awhile since I’ve looked in the mirror for more than shaving but I couldn’t believe how terrible I looked. Just fat and ugly and like nothing I tried on looked good anyway. And I kept having to go a size up and I couldn’t believe I was that big. I looked at myself from the side and couldn’t believe how wide I am. I almost broke down in the store right then. I don’t even recognize this person I am. Seeing me like this just broke me.

I found this huge jacket that I couldn’t believe someone like me would ever wear and left and I just feel like why am I even here right now? I’ve struggled with my weight and depression for so long and even though I’ve had phases where I beat it it always comes back. I’m just a mess right now

I did the opposite to boldened. I beelined for the largest sized coats ... They still didn't fit. Committed to one mile a day walk, plus 8 flights to get to our family penthouse apartment then in LA, and eating from dessert sized plates only ( the middle ground of bread vs dinner).

The rude UPS guy woke me up to exactly how massive I was, even after all my efforts. Announcing it to all and sundry, " Hot damn gurl, you're 5 pounds from a tonne. You're 995 lbs" Gave him a one finger salute, and refused to allow ANYTHING to come between me and reaching healthy weight.

Depression hits many of us, manifesting itself and making landing where it isn't welcomed. Speak to your wife. You NEED someone in your corner, through thick and thin. Mine was my sister. Good luck!!

Eta: My sister told me, not to let anyone steal my light. My me. My essence. Me as my first priority.. This is bible to me today, when moments of my human-ness creeps in to weaken my resolve.

missysippy930

Justin_7272 wrote: »

It's very hard-and brave-to write that down.

I love this! It’s so true. You are very brave to be able to write this down. This is the place to be for support. You can absolutely do this, and always remember that you are worth the effort it takes!!

ReenieHJ

777Gemma888 wrote: »

The rude UPS guy woke me up to exactly how massive I was, even after all my efforts. Announcing it to all and sundry, " Hot damn gurl, you're 5 pounds from a tonne. You're 995 lbs" Gave him a one finger salute, and refused to allow ANYTHING to come between me and reaching healthy weight.


Eta: My sister told me, not to let anyone steal my light. My me. My essence. Me as my first priority.. This is bible to me today, when moments of my human-ness creeps in to weaken my resolve.

Isn't it mind-boggling how people can be so thoughtlessly rude? Have they no filter or sensitive bones in their body??
I used to go bar-hopping a million years ago with a group of friends. I couldn't tell you how many times a bartender would bring up the subject and point blank ask me how much I weighed. My BIL teases my dd whenever she goes to visit him and the man is over 70 yo!! Really?? What are you, 2? Or just a complete *kitten*.
Sometimes I hate people. Best thing to do is rise above them, take care of yourself, and be who you want to be!