I am fat and think fat shaming is ok!

jazzy550

Let's be real here I am fat! It has nothing to do with the color of my skin or my gender. It's because I ate too much. If we can't deal with that then we might as well crawl under a rock somewhere with a large pizza with extra cheese and pepperoni!

LyndaBSS

Any kind of shaming is not okay. It’s bullying at its finest. That’s why it’s called shaming. It’s shameful on the part of the bully.

It’s also very naive to presume that every fat person is fat because they ate too much. I gained 60 pounds in a very short period of time due to a disease.

The title of this thread makes me furious.

nighthawk584

It's not ok to be mean to anyone regardless if you are overweight or not. you don't know their personal story.

healingnurtrer

Speaking realistically about why someone is overweight and what they need to do if they want to change that may be helpful. "Shaming" on the other hand is toxic, unhelpful, abusive. Maybe you're using the wrong word for what you are meaning?

https://psychcentral.com/lib/breaking-the-cycle-of-shame-and-self-destructive-behavior/
Letting go of toxic shame can help someone start to heal from self-destructive behaviors (such as overeating). Self-compassion leads to success and happiness.

sugargrammy45

Shaming has nothing to do with color, gender, size or anything like that. Shaming is about treating another person with contempt and lack of value. The person doing the shaming is heartless, cold, demeaning and lacking in respect for human value.

My heart goes out to those who have been shamed by anyone and may they all heal past the heartlessness of the one who shamed them! To those who have been shamed by anyone, may you finally realize your worth and that you are a person of value! God bless you!

Alex

Hey folks -

We are closing this discussion as it violates our guidelines. We do not body shame here.

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