Rude things people say

ReenieHJ

I shouldn't have listened to complete strangers all these years but they helped shape me who I've become as an adult. And even though my parents tried to let me know I was loved despite my size, those strangers' voices always spoke to me louder. I mean, parents have to say those nice things, right? But if a stranger says it, then it must be true. At least, seen through the eyes of a child or young adult....
I remember people calling me chubby, fatso as they passed me on the street, cat calling out their windows as they drove by, gawking at me, my friend's relatives commenting to me about how much I must like ice cream, etc. The men where I worked 45 yrs. ago calling me Moose. Bartenders talking about weight and asking me how much *I* weighed, nobody else just me. Even a former friend of mine, who happened to be a size 0 back then, telling me I was just jealous of her. My dh used to poke my belly and call me jellybelly.

I wish people knew how hurtful those kind of comments can be. Even said in jest. They hit home. They shape you and mold you. They make you not want to leave your house. They make you shut out everybody, lose out on life and enjoyment, fun and love. Let's face it, if you don't care about yourself it's really hard for others to care about you or for you to let them into your heart. You lose your self confidence and self-esteem. You strive to fulfill those strangers' words and descriptions. You can choose to rise above them(eventually) or let them ruin you. Those comments make you feel ugly, different, unacceptable. And believe me, it's terribly difficult to shake those ghosts.
Here I am at 66, still living under those ghosts. Not like I used to but they definitely still talk to me sometimes, telling me I'm not good enough.

So calling out to anyone who has ever or still does feel even some of those things.....YOU ARE SPECIAL. You are unique. You are worth it. You are someone special to others. Take care of yourself. Reach out to others. There are good people, great people, caring and amazing people out there. People who care. Don't pay attention to those ar$es who make themselves feel better by being crappy people to others. Hold your head high and know you have an important place on this planet!! They are NOT worth it. Rude people $uck, remember? Sad it took me so long to learn that but better late than never, right?

mommabear4315

People are mean. Even loved ones. I grew up with a cynical mother who at every opportunity she got let me know how over weight I was and how my birth made her overweight and ruined her life. I left as soon as I could. Funny thing is she doesn’t remember any of it. Point is people are so unhappy on the inside that they lash out at others to make themselves feel good. I’m sorry you were a punching bag but seems to me you’re a pretty strong person and held on. Keep your head high continue to work on your health which is all that matters. When I finally came to terms and made a change was when I decided I wanted to be healthy. Good luck. 🌻