men or women..which words matter more to you?

Twilightsunflower
Twilightsunflower Posts: 324 Member
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recently I was at a festival and a woman out of the blue came up to me and told me I was beautiful ...I had been walking around in the hot sun.. chasing a two year old and such so I felt like I sweaty sticky mess at this point... anyways her unprovoked words of kindness made me smile the rest of the night and into the next day.. but then I realized that at least two or three times...as I trudged back up the hill to another event location bright red and almost panting.. my hub told me I was beautiful rather out of the blue as well and I more or less dismissed it at the time...

thinking about it now I wonder why did hers seem to impact more then his?? was it just because I have become relaxed and take his (and those who love me) words for granted?? or is there more??

so I ask when it comes to compliments whose words seem to matter or hold more weight to you... men or women??

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  • chubaway
    chubaway Posts: 1,645 Member
    If a woman compliments another woman it's ok . . . you're lucky that way.

    If a man compliments an man, however, well . . . that's just not right.

    So I would rather be complimented by a woman. A compliment like "You sir, are somewhat unrepugnant" would be pleasing.
  • Morninglory81
    Morninglory81 Posts: 1,190 Member
    I don't think it has anything to do with the gender. It has more to do with what we feel they have to say. Someone close to you many times you feel they have to say nice things. A complete stranger going out of their way to speek kind words is in some ways seen as more truthful because there is no expectation of kindness.
  • snazzyjazzy21
    snazzyjazzy21 Posts: 1,298 Member
    Your hubby is supposed to tell you you're beautiful, a strange has no such obligation.
  • FluttershySweetie
    FluttershySweetie Posts: 216 Member
    ^^^ what they said
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    Depends on if they are saying it in a creepy way. Otherwise, I appreciate it from both genders.
  • Mother_Superior
    Mother_Superior Posts: 1,624 Member
    I don't think it has anything to do with the gender. It has more to do with what we feel they have to say. Someone close to you many times you feel they have to say nice things. A complete stranger going out of their way to speek kind words is in some ways seen as more truthful because there is no expectation of kindness.

    ^^This.
  • PaleoChocolateBear
    PaleoChocolateBear Posts: 2,844 Member
    Because it's bolder and more random act by a stranger, when we get compliments from friends and loved ones we are kind of expecting it and sometimes we not so sure how sincere it truly is, but that random act of kindness from a stranger normally sticks with people and gives a great confident boost.

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