I’m always gonna be unhealthy

I am really struggling right now to be happy with my body. All of my weight is in my tummy and I have tried and failed so many times and I just feel hopeless and lost. But here I am trying yet again but I know it won’t last long. I wish I had a better support system because my family is tired of hearing me say that I am getting healthy and then stopping after a week or two

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  • DAN1ELGRU88
    DAN1ELGRU88 Posts: 86 Member
    Same above really. community and support helps loads. Make some friends in here .. try it out.. helps put you in the right frame of mind every day.
  • snowflake954
    snowflake954 Posts: 8,399 Member
    I, too, am confused. What exactly does "healthy" mean to you?
  • dtmwed
    dtmwed Posts: 130 Member
    Try to make small changes first. Also, take it one day at a time. Replace one meal with just meat and veggies then see if you can do another. See if you can meal prep one week to help with the changes. Healthy is very subjective though. What are you looking to do? If you are looking to lose weight you can literally have ice cream every day and still lose weight. You just need to build it into your calories.
    It's a long journey, but giving up won't make it happen quicker.
  • Tim_Veal
    Tim_Veal Posts: 27 Member
    Katie here are some things that I've learned...
    • Life is way harder that I expected. It's tremendously hard, and it's made harder by malevolence and our expectations of instant gratification.
    • But I've also learned that I am way stronger than I expected.
    • The instant gratification thing isn't helpful, but moving the needle in a small way every day eventually gets you to your goal.

    I believe that you WILL be healthy if you decide to be, and make the effort every single day to get there.

    I'd be happy to journey with you - - I'm right at the beginning of the journey also.
  • KyaLeanGreen
    KyaLeanGreen Posts: 17 Member
    I am really struggling right now to be happy with my body. All of my weight is in my tummy and I have tried and failed so many times and I just feel hopeless and lost. But here I am trying yet again but I know it won’t last long. I wish I had a better support system because my family is tired of hearing me say that I am getting healthy and then stopping after a week or two

    Oh hun I’m struggling with the same thing. It’s all about mind over matter. Feed off of their ignorance thinking you can’t succeed. You got this! Add me and let’s do this together ❤️❤️
  • NovusDies
    NovusDies Posts: 8,940 Member
    Tim_Veal wrote: »
    Katie here are some things that I've learned...
    • Life is way harder that I expected. It's tremendously hard, and it's made harder by malevolence and our expectations of instant gratification.
    • But I've also learned that I am way stronger than I expected.
    • The instant gratification thing isn't helpful, but moving the needle in a small way every day eventually gets you to your goal.

    I believe that you WILL be healthy if you decide to be, and make the effort every single day to get there.

    I'd be happy to journey with you - - I'm right at the beginning of the journey also.

    Making the effort most days is good enough. It is not nor does it need to be a perfect process. I have lost a lot of weight not always doing the right thing but doing the right thing most of the time.

    Getting healthier has hard parts but it should not all be hard. If it is it is time to rethink the method. The only people that survive being miserable 24/7 and lose weight are people who are either disordered or thrive on hardship.

    There internet and magazine racks have made a moral good out of fast or flashy weight loss. That type of thing does not usually end in success. However, I a doing quite well with slow, easy, boring, and imperfect.
  • Katmary71
    Katmary71 Posts: 7,041 Member
    I agree with all the advice you've been given, you need to do it for you and making changes gradually would help ease into it. My support is limited. This community as awesome, you have the forums and can post asking for friends, it's very inspiring to see what others are doing, cheer each other on, and get food and exercise ideas. They understand the frustrations as well. I'm not that healthy even at maintenance. I came across an old journal entry where I'd been hospitalized for a week for pancreatitis and my liver enzymes were real high, I was in pain from fatty liver disease and throwing up all the time because of it, just diagnosed with diabetes, and bed-ridden from chronic pain. No one was going to help me, I had to make the changes for myself. most of that is better now, but even now that I'm doing all the right things my blood pressure's up. There's always challenges but it's worth fighting for your health. I decided another year wasn't going to go by with me being as sick as I was and not doing something about it.
  • brenn24179
    brenn24179 Posts: 2,144 Member
    oh you can do it, stop being negative. I have had 30 lbs off that I lost 2 years ago, if I can do it anyone can. I love food. Read some positive stuff like becks diet solution or pull it up on line. You can do this!