Which statement hurts more...

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TheRoadDog
TheRoadDog Posts: 11,786 Member
edited February 2 in Chit-Chat
Got into a conversation with a guy the other day. It ended with him saying "You can be kind of a D*ck."

Told my wife about it later and she said, "You can be kind of a D*ck."

How come her words cut so much deeper?

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  • herblackwings39
    herblackwings39 Posts: 3,954 Member
    The closeness of the relationship maybe or because she confirmed someone else's opinion?
  • JustAboutDelicious_wechanged
    JustAboutDelicious_wechanged Posts: 2,486 Member
    Either way you are a d#ck. Meh. Just get used to it.
  • sarantonio
    sarantonio Posts: 880 Member
    You're being a D*ck... why put this on us??!?!?
  • Fit_NYC_
    Fit_NYC_ Posts: 1,389 Member
    You're being a D*ck... why put this on us??!?!?

    lol... ^yeah, pretty much ^
  • jenjencin78
    jenjencin78 Posts: 4,415 Member
    We always hurt the ones we love... I'd be more concerned if him calling you a d*ck hurt your feelings more than your wife calling you that. She's supposed to love and support you and that's why it stings so much more. More importantly are you self aware enough to realize when/if you are in fact acting in a way that would make people think that of you?
  • Whiskybelly
    Whiskybelly Posts: 197 Member
    We always hurt the ones we love... I'd be more concerned if him calling you a d*ck hurt your feelings more than your wife calling you that. She's supposed to love and support you and that's why it stings so much more. More importantly are you self aware enough to realize when/if you are in fact acting in a way that would make people think that of you?

    Was just going to post something like this. We expect loved ones to always have our backs, but sometimes they need to be tough. If anything; she's saying it because she cares and wants you to address the issue.
  • Some_Watery_Tart
    Some_Watery_Tart Posts: 2,250 Member
    If you're such a d*ck, why does it bother you so much?
  • histora
    histora Posts: 287 Member
    You trust her opinion, which means it rang true or at least his the strong likelihood of being true, while you can brush some guy's opinion off as uninformed.

    Now the question becomes, what will you do about it? Does your wife think it is a bad thing? Do you? I tell my husband he can be a bit of a **** from time to time, but I don't think he needs to change a bit.
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Because you place higher value on what your wife thinks of you.
  • agdyl
    agdyl Posts: 246 Member
    It makes sense, but I'd agree with asking the follow up question of if she thinks there is something you need to change. I mean, everyone ranges somewhere on the spectrum of being a **** to being a pushover so I'd agree it isn't necessarily a bad thing as long as you're not going overboard or hurting people unnecessarily, etc.

    On the bright side, the fact that you're hurt/concerned by it means you can't be that bad. :)
  • SerenaFisher
    SerenaFisher Posts: 2,170 Member
    At least she affiliates you with a desirable part of the male anatomy, I call my SO an "@ss hole", seems much worse :)
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,786 Member
    If you're such a d*ck, why does it bother you so much?

    You're right. Thanks. It doesn't.
  • JenAndSome
    JenAndSome Posts: 1,893 Member
    I hear this all the time. It doesn't usually bother me except when it comes from my kids.






    So kidding. I would rip off their fingernails if they showed me that kind of disrespect. My bf does tell me I'm kind of a d*ck, but he's usually referring to the way I deal with his friends. Trust me, they deserve it.
  • sam308lbs
    sam308lbs Posts: 1,936 Member
    You're being a D*ck... why put this on us??!?!?

    Dont you dare put it anywhere near me Op:angry:
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,465 Member
    Neither, I prefer honesty.
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