shallow?
leadiax3
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Is it okay that i am concerned about my appearance equally as much as my health? I consider myself pretty intelligent and kinda deep, but lately i wonder if i am shallow. Anyone else have this internal debate in their minds?
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Hard for us to tell. When you go out to dinner and there is a mirror near your table, do you look at your friend or do you talk to your reflection in the mirror?
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I think there are a whoooole lot of people on here who feel the same way you do.0
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Having concern about your appearance, and your appearance having an effect on your mental state = utterly normal and healthy.
Allowing thoughts of how you look control your feelings and actions, measuring your self-worth by your appearange, judging the quality of other's by their appearance = shallow0 -
Yes! Very insight guys. I do look in the mirror a lot, but i dont judge anyone by appearance. Perhaps being concerned about the amount of emphasis on appearance vs health vs intelligence is a sign one is not shallow. I appreciate each of your reflections onthis lil debate.0
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I've been having the same problem. I got into my fitness journey because I was tired of boo-hooing about not being able to wear the clothes I want and not feeling comfortable in a bathing suit. My entire life I have been insecure and have craved the confidence of a beautiful, HEALTHY body. Along the way I have reaped the benefits of being healthy, but I'm always focusing my goals and success around my body. My boyfriend keeps telling me I look great, but every time I look in the mirror after a 3 hour work out I think: I could have done more. Sometimes when I worry if I'm being shallow, I just remind myself that I'm doing this for myself and not anyone else. I couldn't give a f if anyone else thinks I'm attractive.
I don't think it's shallow. I don't consider myself a shallow person. You don't sound shallow. I agree with the fact that I don't judge others, but I judge myself a lot.0 -
Sometimes I wonder if I'm shallow because I judge others on what they eat, but I know I only do so because I feel like everyone should eat healthy and I know that it's doable, even on ****ty incomes. I know, because I have pretty much no money and I live a vegetarian lifestyle and exercise. But, I also know that you can't force anyone to do anything that they don't want to; you can only hope for the best.0
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We always recognize those things in others when it's our current area of interest/passion. A car person may get really frustrated with you because out of all the great cars out there, instead you bought what you did. A runner will see your gait and wonder why you don't care enough about yourself to learn and do it the right way. A computer person will wonder if how you didn't flunk out of 3rd grade when you can't connect to the VPN again at work... etc etc.
There are a million passions out there, and for everything you know you're doing right there's a thousand things you could be doing so much better, though you're totally unaware of it. You are thinking of food and fitness though, so that's what your mind goes to when you observe others.
It's natural, but it's only shallow if you judge yourself or others as a person because of what they eat and the quality of their fitness. I'm certainly not a better person because I can do a handstand pushup... I'm just better at fitness than most, end of story.
Also, the next time anyone thinks about berating someone about their health choices, imagine how grateful you'd be if someone came to you and talked about how bad you are at fashion/business/driving/etc.0 -
i think that's pretty normal to go through it recovering from ED. i think if you choose to shortchange your health to achieve a certain look or put yourself in harm's way or maintain an unhealthy bodyfat for the way you look, then you are in trouble. i think your BF looks LOW from your profile picture, but if your doctor thinks you are healthy and you can live life healthily and happily at that weight, then i don't see why it's necessarily bad.0
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I am not shallow. Far from it. But my weightloss is motivated by vanity and wanting to look better. Better health seems to be the only side effect of that, so that works for me :-)0
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Wanting to look your best isn't shallow at all. It's part of having healthy self esteem.0
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Theres nothing shallow in wanting the bestor looking tour best in everything you do!!0
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Looking down and judging others based on THEIR appearance is shallow, being critical of how you look and judge YOURSELF is not.0
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Looking down and judging others based on THEIR appearance is shallow, being critical of how you look and judge YOURSELF is not.
Eric is wise, I agree. Many of us bust our butts through blood, sweat and tears, fighting for a healthier, fitter, hotter version of us. I don't see anything wrong with being proud of the work that we do (even if it is for our own image). And if it is shallow, I'm right there with you!0 -
Looking down and judging others based on THEIR appearance is shallow, being critical of how you look and judge YOURSELF is not.
i like this explanation. I want to be healthy and one day raise a healthy family. But I would also like to wear a bikini for the first time EVER without making people nauseated...I don't judge someone's character by how they look, but how they treat me, others and people in customer service. edit to say i try not to judge period i am in no place to judge. but when it does it's on the things i stated.0 -
Having concern about your appearance, and your appearance having an effect on your mental state = utterly normal and healthy.
Allowing thoughts of how you look control your feelings and actions, measuring your self-worth by your appearange, judging the quality of other's by their appearance = shallow
^^^this^^^0 -
Looking down and judging others based on THEIR appearance is shallow, being critical of how you look and judge YOURSELF is not.0
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Having concern about your appearance, and your appearance having an effect on your mental state = utterly normal and healthy.
Allowing thoughts of how you look control your feelings and actions, measuring your self-worth by your appearange, judging the quality of other's by their appearance = shallow
Truth, yo.0 -
Looking down and judging others based on THEIR appearance is shallow, being critical of how you look and judge YOURSELF is not.
I think this needs a qualifier though. When I was 50 lbs heavier I was not a bad person, I was simply an out of shape person. Likewise, the quoted poster is not a good person because he's extremely fit. (I have every confidence that he's both very fit and a good person!)
You can only judge that facet of your life when you look at yourself. Too many people make sweeping judgements about themselves because of what they see in the mirror, the extreme of which is the person with an ED who can't feel good about themselves because of what they see, no matter how smart or kind or otherwise successful they are.
That's the definition of shallow, only seeing the surface and making assumptions on all the unseen, deeper aspects of that person, be it yourself or others.
It's like that rush of anger you get when some jackhole cuts you off on the way to work. For a brief moment of fury, you are sure that they are the worst Nazi-esque scum ever to crawl the earth, probably drunk, and surely is only rushing home to abuse their family! But all you really know is that they made a bad decision, and at worst may be a bad driver.
Having had an Ex who would go on a depressive spiral if she thought for a moment she looked fat, I think this needs to be exceptionally well-defined.0 -
As long as you aren't hanging all of your self-identification based on your looks, I think you are not shallow. There is nothing wrong with enjoying how you look as long as you don't let it consume who you are, and begin to downplay your other positive attruibutes.
Keep a global view of who you are, and no worries.0 -
I only talk to hot chicks.0
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I only talk to hot chicks.
^ and that's funny because it's so ironic. those of you with a lack of a sense of a humor may not realize that the pic doesn't mean what it appears and is actually making fun of Peter Griffin. Just wanted that disclaimer as I meant no ill will.0 -
I only talk to hot chicks.
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I only talk to hot chicks.
you need a spanking0 -
I only talk to hot chicks.
you need a spanking
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I think there are a whoooole lot of people on here who feel the same way you do.0
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Sometimes I wonder if I'm shallow because I judge others on what they eat, but I know I only do so because I feel like everyone should eat healthy and I know that it's doable, even on ****ty incomes. I know, because I have pretty much no money and I live a vegetarian lifestyle and exercise. But, I also know that you can't force anyone to do anything that they don't want to; you can only hope for the best.0
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I only talk to hot chicks.
I just took my temp, it's 99.8. It's official, I'm hot.
How YOU doin? :flowerforyou:0 -
Is it okay that i am concerned about my appearance equally as much as my health?
No.
Go cry in the corner.0 -
I only talk to hot chicks.
I just took my temp, it's 99.8. It's official, I'm hot.
How YOU doin? :flowerforyou:
Wow. 13 total posts in 3 years, and this? Not that there's anything wrong with that. I just would have expected something more.. profound based on your posting history.0 -
Okay... Bitter much? Do u wanna cry?0
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