is anyone else sort of embarrassed at losing weight?

JaredFat2Fit

I've almost reached my goal weight, but i want to lose more. But, when people start to comment like "have you lost weight?" or something along those lines, i feel embarrassed. So i usually say no but, in actuality i have. like does anyone feel the same way?? I don't know if its shame or anything but, i feel sort of angry at someone for bringing it up. I don't see any weight loss in the mirror but, other people can and i just wish people didn't say anything to me about it lol

jjay23

I dont feel like this but I was having this exact conversation with my sister. she hates when people notice and would rather they didnt. it has in the past made her give up her goals. for her she said it felt like they were saying you looked rubbish and fat before now you dont and that was something she didnt like.Of course that isnt what they meant but when you are insecure the last thing you want is people looking at the change you have made in case they are making a judgemnet you dont like.

Be happy that people notice it means your doing a great job! I am sure they just think wow you look great

mcibty

I don't get embarrassed about people commenting about the weight loss, I live for it! It's when they ask me about working out that I go all shy. People at work ask me, "Do you go to the gym a lot?" and I just mumble something, when, in actual fact, I should be like, YES, YES I BLOODY DO!

I agree with the above, you NEED to hear it, otherwise your brain won't catch up with your body and you could end up going under a healthy weight. Enjoy that they've noticed. A lot of people don't get the comments they rightly deserve!

Carmella9

I think this demonstrates your low self esteem, obviously you have quite little confidence and struggle with taking compliments.
Next time someone ask's, just say...yes thanks for asking, its as easy as that, and you'll feel great about it

SJVZEE

I've almost reached my goal weight, but i want to lose more. But, when people start to comment like "have you lost weight?" or something along those lines, i feel embarrassed. So i usually say no but, in actuality i have. like does anyone feel the same way?? I don't know if its shame or anything but, i feel sort of angry at someone for bringing it up. I don't see any weight loss in the mirror but, other people can and i just wish people didn't say anything to me about it lol

I was very self conscious when people started noticing-I'd literally have 3-5 people every Sunday at church pull me aside and ask what I was doing/compliment me, and since I'm very shy in real life, it was very overwhelming (I didn't even know half of these people!). I still get compliments and a bit of shocked responses from friends/family I haven't seen in a while, but I've been in maintenance for several months now and I'm more used to my body, so it's not such a big deal anymore.

Busymomof003

yes, and I think I'm not used to compliments as well. I usually respond with 'I'm working on it!' and move on. I guess I don't like most people to know how much I struggle and obsess about all of this... and how long I wasn't making progress! Although there's a few people I talk 'diet' to regularly- so I would hope they would notice!

girlinagirdle

People at work ask me, "Do you go to the gym a lot?" and I just mumble something, when, in actual fact, I should be like, YES, YES I BLOODY DO!

This.

But maybe that is because I'm English and it goes against my DNA!

chandanista

Usually I'm quite pleased when people notice; only once recently was I embarrassed. I have some larger sized aunts on my dad's side--not just wide but tall. Throughout the years they've all had some bad health problems that make it difficult to lose weight, and put on meds that make it easy to gain weight. When I attended my cousin's wedding and the aunts started remarking about how great I look, and how hard I must be working, I felt very, very awkward, and yes somewhat embarrassed, because I love those women and know what tough rows they've had to hoe and it didn't seem fair at that moment that I should be able to lose weight so simply and they struggle to maintain.

I hope to avoid some of that side of the family's health problems, in part through my lifestyle change. My mom's side is naturally thin built and gravitates towards being healthy so I have a chance...

MickeyBoo

I have experienced that and I think some of it is actually accepting that yes you were that fat to begin with, I always had a large part of me in denial about my actual size so although I couldn't see a big change, when others noticed it made me realise just how big I really must have looked before.

I also hate the follow up questions, how are you losing it, how much have you lost, what's your secret, how much do you weigh, sometimes rude and it gets annoying being on repeat, "eating well and exercising!"

Colorfan

Yeah, I feel a bit embarrassed when people point it out or ask what Ive been doing, etc.

Its not that I dont want to share, because I do. Its more that Im kind of shy in person and Im also not used to attention. So used to being ignored and left to my own devices.

bob_day

Once you've reached your goal weight, work on maintaining
that weight. Then after a year or two, that will be the normal
you, and people won't comment about it any more.

I worked very hard for about 10 years to go from overweight
to a few pounds above underweight. But my weight loss was
so slow that no one ever noticed my weight loss, and I was
actually a little disappointed that no one ever commented on it.

jimethanowen

I agree, it's a compliment and may motivate others...embrace it and say, "yes, thank you"!!!

RunningSwede

I just tell ‘em: I’ve been exercising more.

beachgod

Hell no. It took a lot of effort on my part and I'm proud of my accomplishments and am looking forward to continual improvement because I am far from finished.

HerBravado

lmao, I kinda feel good about it. I have people who haven't seen me since high school who're like-- "OMG YOU LOST WEIGHT." & I don't really know what to say, so I just...say yeahh. I like when people notice because it gives me a sense that I'm doing things right & even if I don't see much of a change-- others do.

tanyadolan1

You should think of it as a compliment. Some people don't even notice when you have lost weight. Hold your head up high and go...Yes I have lost weight and I am very proud of myself for achieving it.

sevsmom

It was a bit much when people would refer to me as the shrinking woman. A) I didn't think I looked THAT bad before losing weight and I was easily embarassed.

I've been at this weight for over a year now, and not too many people say much about losing weight. I do still get complimented on how trim I am or if they know about my running, they'll compliment that. I just learned to say, "Thanks! Been working hard at it." And then move along.

randomtai

Nope why would I be embarrassed? It takes a lot for me to feel embarrassed.

Rozieq84

I have this same problem. The things I hate are, "Did you lose weight?" No I just woke up one morning 3 sizes smaller!? OF COURSE I LOST WEIGHT! Another one is, "How much have you lost?" Sorry, my dear, I don't care how much I like you unless I choose to share that information with you, it is none of your damn business. I just can't take that people need to quantify your achievements with a number, as we all know, it's SOO much more than that.

The other one that I hate is, "How did you do it?"... um, the way anyone who hasn't had medical intervention does, by working REALLY hard, and by watching what I eat & trying to be more active. They never seem to like that answer.

Hearing that you look great, healthy, or fit is fantastic; those I'll take. I just wish people would realize how stupid they sound when they pose these questions and how obnoxious it is to the people they ask.

Doone33

yes, and I think I'm not used to compliments as well. I usually respond with 'I'm working on it!' and move on. I guess I don't like most people to know how much I struggle and obsess about all of this... and how long I wasn't making progress! Although there's a few people I talk 'diet' to regularly- so I would hope they would notice!

This is a good comment and appropriate! You don't want to say no if it is obvious you have... Just acknowledge them and move on.... I too hate comments.... I have a booty... always have, My cousin came up to me and loudly announced... you lost weight... and your butt is finally getting smaller.... I thought it was rude... and so did my father who was there at the time.... I could not believe she said that and personally... I was upset that she felt like she had the right to think just because she liked being a rectangle box, That I would take her statement as a compliment, because I love having hips and a booty..... makes me feel like a woman!

smaihlee

I completely understand this, and for me it all depends on the context of the situation.

If I'm at work and trying to just do my job and someone I don't really know goes out of their way to stop me and make a comment, I get freaked out and I'm thinking, "CREEPER! HOW DARE YOU LOOK AT ME!!!", and can't get away fast enough.

On the other hand, if I am going to be in a situation where I want to show off, it goes the complete opposite. Last night I went to a picnic at my son's school and made sure I was put together and wearing newer clothes that fit me properly. Ran into a friend I haven't seen in a while and we talked for probably 30 minutes. Toward the end of the conversation we got on the topic of exercise. She made an off-hand comment to the effect of, "yeah I can tell you've been doing something". To which I just wanted to shake her and say, "I HAVE LOST THIRTY-SEVEN POUNDS AND I AM WORKING MY AZZ OFF!!!!"

All of this to say, I recognize I have seriously distorted thinking and need to focus on being more humble and appreciative. I'm working on it

FaithfulToIt

I think once you are totally okay with who you are overall a compliment won't hurt you. Clearly there are other issues you are dealing with and losing weight might help you with those issues and learn to cope. I am assuming you have worked hard and did this with diet and exercise, instead of pills and supplements. If so learn to embrace your accomplisments in life overall. Besides there are many many people who are struggling with tougher issues. Be thankful that your's is a simple compliment.:ohwell:

drojen

Not sure embarrassed is the right word for me personally, but while I appreciate the compliment, I'd rather not be noticed. I don't like attention on myself - yes, very likely due to esteem issues and being painfully shy when I was younger. I was also teased a lot when I was younger, so I think that plays a part. I had a lot of negative attention, so I'd rather not have any good or bad. I also find I put pressure on myself once people notice - like I have to do it or I'll be a disappointment. Yes, yes, this goes back to childhood issues at well, LOL. then with the added pressure I put on myself, I start to self sabotage. At least, that's what I've done in the past.

This time, I'm trying to remember it's not about a number on the scale. It's about better health. I still have a lot to lose, but my health has improved - no longer pre-diabetic, cholestrol is better, blood pressure is better etc. So, I could stay this weight and as long as those factors remain good, then I'm in better health than I was before. The weight loss is a side affect of better eating and exercise, but it's not my end goal this time around.

ngyoung

My wife now has lost a lot of weight and is pretty much at goal (5'3" 120lbs) and is mainly now just focusing on eating healthy and toning muscle. The one thing that bugs her is some of her family members always ask "Are you done dieting yet? How much more are you going to lose?"

For me what bugged me once my weight stabilized for a over a year the same people kept commenting that I lost weight. Like their mental picture of me is stuck on an image when I was overweight. I don't mind it much now again since I refocused to get down another 20lbs of fat and build strength.

Mady1911

You should be proud of yourself and keep up the good work until and after you've reached your goal weight. Good luck in your journey!

ames105

I'm not embarrassed at losing weight. I'm embarrassed that I was as heavy as I was before I started losing the weight. I'm proud to have lost the weight because I know how hard it is and how hard I have worked at it. I'm not proud that I was more than 100lbs overweight. I am proud that I've lost 58 of those pounds.

People say stupid things, they talk without thinking of how it might make someone feel. Don't let people's comments change the way you feel about yourself. Be proud of losing weight.