I can't wait to see what I really look like.

Behavior_Modification

For those that have lost 100+ lbs, I applaud you and appreciate you sharing your before and after pics. It gives someone like me much to hope for. Please don't any of you take this the wrong way, but I think every one I've seen the person looks like a whole different person in the new pics (and SO much younger too!). Some of them are so unrecognizeable, I'm amazed that it is the same person even sometimes.

I can't help but think...what am I going to look like? WHO am I going to look like? Are people going to start acting differently towards me because I look so different? I've never known what it is like to be at a healthy weight and I know by this time next year I will have accomplished that. I can't wait to see my own transformation. For those of you who have had such a dramatic transformation, have any of you had an identity crisis?

Sarandipity

I don't recognize myself in my before pictures :laugh: :laugh: I have a friend that is still curious to what I am going to look like when I am done after another 45-50 lost. As I have lost my confidence has increased to that to some extent changes who I am and how people react to me. :happy:

chulie

I just wanted to say congrats on all the weight loss...and I think wether you lose 25 lbs or 200 lbs....everyone has an identity crisis...haha...i know 25 lbs isn't a lot..but on my body frame it was especially once I toned up. There are times I'd walk by my reflection and not even realize it was me...or catch my reflection and think...wow..I almost would call myself skinny...of course I don't because I'm so hard on myself.....Not going to the xl section immediately, spending 10 times longer to try on 1 pair of pants because I start at 14, then go to 12, then down to 10 because I'm still in denial I can sometimes fit a size 10....it's a long process but so worth it in the end...and I'd rather have that frustration then the crying frustration I used to feel when I would pull out summer clothes and cry because they were too small..... Good luck on the rest of your journey....

futureredheadhottie

I have been wondering the same thing I started at 371.6 and I want to get to 140-160lbs That is a whole adult male. I am worried about extra skin and not knowing myself and other people treating me differently especially the ones that I know.

supersarah14

Wow, I feel the exact same way. :happy: I don't have 100 to lose but I do have 70 total. I've never been thin so, in part, I am doing this to see what I really look like. It's crazy isn't it? I don't even know what shape I'm supposed to be, or if I have cheekbones. I'm halfway done and I've already noticed things that I haven't before. I actually have a long neck! My mom has one but I never saw mine because of all the fat that hung out around my neck. Now that most of it's gone, it's quite suprising!

I've even taken pictures with people who, right after the picture is taken and they see it, to stop making that face...or stop doing that thing with your neck. It's quite funny really! :laugh: I tell them I'm not doing anything but they don't believe me.

On the other hand, my sister is having a hard time becoming comfortable with how different I look. She says she wants me to be healthier but she says it won't be the same anymore, that I won't be me. My reply is, well maybe I'll be more like me. Maybe I'll be the real me. After all, no one want to be identified by their weight.

supersarah14

And congrats on you're loss!! :flowerforyou: I've lost about the same amount and I know how tough it is!

rockinright

I'm male so my perspective might be different.

I've never really thought about this...I used to be fit, and used to have hair...LOL...but my face never really got "fat" aside from a slight double chin. So, I'll look mostly the same but with more chiseled features, and without the big belly.

RedneckWmn

I've had people tell me that just losing 50 pounds I look like a totally different person. You do gain more confidence as you go along. I know I have gone through a slight identity crisis. I feel like I have found myself now, or am continuing to find myself. I have enjoyed watching myself transform into this whole other person. As far as the skin, at 50 pounds I haven't noticed that too much. I do use skin firming lotion on my stomach and other areas. I don't know if it helps but it's not going to hurt! Good luck and congrats on your loss this far!

jackpotclown

Actually what I get is that I look exactly like I did in high school, because I was around this weight in my senior year, so basically it's like rolling the clock back, but either way you look back and think "geez, that was me"....or at least I do

Behavior_Modification

Actually what I get is that I look exactly like I did in high school, because I was around this weight in my senior year, so basically it's like rolling the clock back, but either way you look back and think "geez, that was me"....or at least I do

I'm already starting to look like I did in H.S. And I wouldn't mind looking 10 yrs younger at all. Last week some random lady that I started a conversation with at the mall told me I looked 40! 40? C'mon!

mamagooskie

I can't wait to see what I look like this time around either.

I lost 86 lbs 10 years ago and got down to 145 and was fairly thin......so I guess I kinda already know sorta what I might look like.....but I was bigger this time when I started my weight loss journey and thus have more to lose, and I have had 2 kids so there will be more loose skin around my stomach, so that does worry me a bit, but I am still excited non the less.

I am planning on doing more weight training this time so even when I get to where I was 10 years ago I'll hopefully be more toned overall and hopefully in better shape.

so far I've lost 66 lbs and I want to lose 99 more.

IsMollyReallyHungry

Diane,

People will definitely treat you different believe me. I am still obese but at 300 something vs. 600 something -- people treat me different. So whether you are going from 300 to 150, people will treat you different. At 1st it is hurtful and you are resentful. But I got over it soon. I could not dwell on the vainty of people and their aversion to obese people. But you will see the difference. Especially with men. It is what it is and find the blessings in the mess. Dwell on your success, not others reactions.

Another thing will happen also. You will have problems seeing yourself smaller. It took me forever to realize I was still not 600+. I kept worry about chairs breaking. I still kept pulling the large sizes off the rack at stores, etc, etc. It will take you a minute for it all to digest in your head, heart and mind. You will still see the fat girl. It takes effort to get out of that mode.

I think that was the demise to my relapse, but now I am ready for my 2nd transformation. I look forward to see more of your after photos also. Keep up the good work!!!

Ashykins

I really can't wait either! That what pushes me to eat right or exercise when I don't want to, the success of achieving my goal. I've lost 24 so far, but I haven't went down in size and I still look the same kinda...so I really can't wait for that to start kicking in.

Ashykins

I really can't wait either! That what pushes me to eat right or exercise when I don't want to, the success of achieving my goal. I've lost 24 so far, but I haven't went down in size and I still look the same kinda...so I really can't wait for that to start kicking in.

Ashykins

I really can't wait either! That what pushes me to eat right or exercise when I don't want to, the success of achieving my goal. I've lost 24 so far, but I haven't went down in size and I still look the same kinda...so I really can't wait for that to start kicking in.

Ashykins

I really can't wait either! That what pushes me to eat right or exercise when I don't want to, the success of achieving my goal. I've lost 24 so far, but I haven't went down in size and I still look the same kinda...so I really can't wait for that to start kicking in.

HealthyChanges2010

For those that have lost 100+ lbs, I applaud you and appreciate you sharing your before and after pics. It gives someone like me much to hope for. Please don't any of you take this the wrong way, but I think every one I've seen the person looks like a whole different person in the new pics (and SO much younger too!). Some of them are so unrecognizeable, I'm amazed that it is the same person even sometimes.

I can't help but think...what am I going to look like? WHO am I going to look like? Are people going to start acting differently towards me because I look so different? I've never known what it is like to be at a healthy weight and I know by this time next year I will have accomplished that. I can't wait to see my own transformation. For those of you who have had such a dramatic transformation, have any of you had an identity crisis?

ah YES! Still having one,:laugh: I don't know if everyone does but I've seen/heard many ppl share it occurs with them. I don't know the key to stopping it to share with you yet. When I hear from someone what works, you'll be the 2nd to know, right after me.

I think lots of photos, particularly pinned to the mirrow you use most often can help loads, learning to ACCEPT compliments instead of blowing them off, if you don't believe it yet, ALLOW the giver to give the gift anyhow. They are telling the truth and it is a gift they are giving, if we learn to accept it we then learn to take it in internally. Collages work great I'm finding, starting to cut OK, I'm tearing them out in excitement, when I find phrases in mags like "Train Hard-You're a Winner!" I yank it out, "Grab Life" "You Matter" etc etc., anything that hits a spot in your mind or heart, tear it out and start placing them around your house where you'll see them every single day. Even a poster board is perfect!

What we say about ourself is very important, if we say negatives, even little ones, they keep us down, instead of a 'gee I wish I would have lost 2 more lbs. this week' could be changed to OMG, I am doing so great, I'm so proud of myself! If we learn to BE HERE NOW in our lives we can learn to beat down the negatives so they begin to not crop up but positives crop up first instead.

Any of this make sense for you? I do hope so, you're pretty special to me and I want you to see yourself as BEAUTIFUL right now Diane, a beautiful heart, a beautiful smile, a lovely personality, a great sense of humor, you are beautiful from the inside out, it is beginning to manifest itself outwardly now. You've always been beautiful on the outside Diane. But the world doesn't help us in seeing that, it wants us all cookie cutter shaped. I don't know about you, but I'm not a cookie cut that wants to be stuck in a drawer most of the year. lol

Another way I am learning more about myself is posting when others succeed, are having bits of trouble, etc. noticing others around us on their/our journeys is vital to learning more about ourselves. I am finding this is working without ever having given thought to it. I simply am who I am and then to find out you can reap beautiful positive benifits from kindness is a pretty neat reward in itself.

Watch your finger, your toes, your nose, all the changes, your body knows what it's doing and where it is going!! You hair will change and shine far more, your face will change, you skin is loving this healthy food. Think on how far you've come in endurance with working out since day 1!!

We're amazing creatures and God make each of us so individual, never compare yourself, you're becoming beautiful exactly as you're intended.

I too was there 200 lbs ago wondering OMG, what will I look like, will I look like I did before I gained? Will I be a different person, will ppl still be nice to me, what about the ppl that weren't nice to me, how will I handle that. Questions many of us larger folks have/had, it's like a puzzle and we have some of the pieces and we are seeing glimmers of the beauty, and some of the pieces haven't arrived yet. That can sometimes leave us a wee bit frustrated, but if we concentrate on the pieces we do have, and what we are doing positive in our lives to put more pieces together....ahhhh then it takes away some of the anxiety and brings on more of the excitement.

Thinking positive thoughts for you on your journey:flowerforyou:

Ah, what was the question again?:blushing: :smokin:

Love you Diane xo
Becca

Behavior_Modification

Becca, you're the best! :flowerforyou:

sandra80

I have been wondering the same thing I started at 371.6 and I want to get to 140-160lbs That is a whole adult male. I am worried about extra skin and not knowing myself and other people treating me differently especially the ones that I know.

at my highest i was 360 and i'm terrified of extra skin too. i'm down to 284 right now and thus far things seem to be sucking back in.

kerrymh

I'm the same way. I mean I know I look very different than I did @ 390lbs when I started. BUt I still have about 90lbs to go..and I can't even picture what I'll look like at all. I always think when I see the finally of the Biggest loser that some of the people are totally unrecognizable. I don't think I want to look so completely different. I like my face..but hey I want my body to be transformed and I have zero concept of me as a healthy wt..I have never been a healthy wt other than early childhood.
Its going to be interesting to meet this new face/body for sure.

chanson104

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melodyg

I haven't really wondered what I'll look like... because I've been that weight before (though it *was* 13 years ago, so I suppose time has had its effect). I do wonder how things will be different though. My lowest weight over the past 13 years has been about 40 over my goal weight. I looked great then... and I didn't realize it at all. Unfortunately, that also meant I gained weight back without really realizing it either. (This time, I'm still weighing in at least once a month!).

I can't wait to be able to shop in regular stores and actually like looking at pictures of myself. I'm thinking that is about 60 pounds away at the earliest though!

futureredheadhottie

That is awesome news I am hoping to get to 280 or 260 in time for my cruise in January.

I have been wondering the same thing I started at 371.6 and I want to get to 140-160lbs That is a whole adult male. I am worried about extra skin and not knowing myself and other people treating me differently especially the ones that I know.

at my highest i was 360 and i'm terrified of extra skin too. i'm down to 284 right now and thus far things seem to be sucking back in.

HealthyChanges2010

Becca, you're the best! :flowerforyou:

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