I am Fanny and I am 41.

neganthacker1

I know I introduced myself once but did not seem to get any response or friends. So let me tell you a little bit about me and my life. Why I am doing what I do. 2020 has been the worst year of my life. February 1st my baby brother overdosed and passed away. Found on some guy's porch. He has been homeless for years and l and my boyfriend tried helping him over and over again. Then on February 17th my baby sister overdosed and passed away. She also was homeless and selling herself for money. This has been my worst fear come to life. My sister a year before tried killing herself but was found in time but her boyfriend had already passed. So my older sister and I begged her to change her life. she did great for a year living with my older sister but 30 days of moving out she was homeless and dead. I am sure nobody wants to hear about this but this is the reason I am reaching out for support. I have been sober 7 year's and I am preparing for gastric bypass surgery. Because of all my health issues and my knee problems the doctor is the one who suggested I do it. I am on disability because of my health problems but I am ok to work so many hours a week. so trying to keep my mind clear I am working, joined the gym and stay busy as much as possible. Only thing is I have no support during the hardest time in my life. For the first time in my life I am focused on making everything about my life possitive. Life is too short to be unhappy. Losing my siblings and saying goodbye is the hardest thing I have ever had to do but I try to act like it didn't happen. This is why I am not just physically changing myself but mentally and emotionally. I want to be a better person all the way around. I want only positive people in my life. I know there are still lots of good people in this world. Just sad I had to lose so much to really put a fire 🔥 under my butt. My boyfriend doesn't want me to have the surgery. Any one else on here have gastric bypass or the sleeve surgery? Please tell me about you and friend request me. I need good positive people to talk to about this weight loss journey I am going through cuz I do not have it at home. Really hope to hear from lots of you. Recipes, some nice words or if you also need just friendly support or advice. Not on hear for drama so please if you don't have something nice to say keep it to urself...

MaltedTea

Welcome to the MFP forums 👋🏿

My condolences on the passing of your siblings @neganthacker1

Your focus on personal positivity is fetching. Not everyone can do it though and, my goodness, it can be a challenge to maintain.

Be gentle with yourself along the way.

Not everyone "friends" on MFP but if you interact in the forums, people will get to know you that way and respond publicly...then some will eventually friend.

btw, there are a few threads on gastric bypass so I would encourage you to do a search and see if any of those posters have some tips for you!

Best of health to you, whatever you decide 🤗

watts6151

I have nothing to offer on the gastric bypass situation bu can certainly empathise with the sibling situation, feel free to add me for encouragement and if u ever need to chat vent