Anyone have a friend who is awesome to be around, is funny and easy to get along with, but at the same time, constantly makes you feel like you’re in competition with them? That you have to have something to brag about at all times?
I have that friend.
Now don’t get me wrong - it’s great to have something to brag about now and then. But I’ve dealt with stupid competition with other friends, or my sister, all my life and I’m sick of it.
March of 2020 I had my first baby. I only gained 29 lbs despite the fact that I ate horribly and hardly exercised 🙃 I used to be a lot better at exercising (I was a power lifter and did a bodybuilding competition) but I had a surgery in 2019 that threw me off course and then found out I was pregnant a month later haha.
Now, January 2021, I’m pregnant with my second, due in July
Nothing makes me happier than growing a healthy strong baby. I lost the baby weight the first time and know I can again.
But I just found out my friend is pregnant too. And so now the competition begins all over again.
She’s a baby ahead of me, so this is her third. And she makes it seem like she knows all there is to know about being a mom.
And she loves bragging about how quickly she lost all the baby weight both times around, how she has no stretch marks, has six pack abs again etc. etc...
Whereas I have stretch marks, saggy skin, didn’t get back in shape the way I wanted, don’t have abs...
Something that should be so great is now somewhat cast in a shadow because every time I see her she’ll have SOMETHING to brag about and I just don’t know how to let this crap go.
Please. Any advice. Anything.
I know everyone’s journey is different, especially through pregnancy, and I am determined to be healthier and more active this time around, but how do I deal with the competition that I don’t even what to listen to or be a part of?
Thanks for reading all the way through, if you made it this far 🙏🏻