Fail and give up so easy 😞

Kelly_candothis

Hi all

My name is Kelly, I’m single mum to 4 kids and work full time for the NHS. I live in Surrey just outside of London.

I have been on some form of diet for so long and want this to be successful and the last.

I have a fair bit of weight to lose. Approximately 7 stone and seem to have a blip and then throw the towel in so quick.

I need to lose this and would love to find buddies along the way.

Tips and anything you can offer would be appreciated

🙂

Kelly

karl05_

Just starting up again myself , feel free to add me .
One step at a time , you will get there 😊

AnnPT77

Tips? Think about ways to make the process easy, rather than ways to make it quick. (That can be especially important with the kind of busy life you mention having!) Learn from past attempts: What derailed you, and how might that be avoided by approaching the process differently this time?

I'm not a great day-to-day MFP support friend, more of a Community forum gal stilling hanging around MFP in weight maintenance (5th year) after many previous decades of obesity. IMO, success involves making the process easy, and tailoring strategies to our own individual inclinations, preferences, strengths and limitations.

Wishing you permanent success, this time around!

ninerbuff

My tip: it sounds like ALL OR NOTHING to you each diet. Progress happens with CONSISTENCY even if you fall back. Think of playing an instrument. If you start and practice everyday, you'll slowly get better at it. But there might be a time where you may struggle with a piece and get frustrated and stop altogether. But then you have to start all over again to get used to being consistent, whereas IF you had continued, you'd have likely aced the piece by now. Weight loss is really no different. Repetition with consistency sets you in the correct direction. But that's up to you. You have to WANT this to be one of the most important things in your life or it's always going to be that piece of music you never finish.

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yirara

What the others said: Don't go for quick and all or nothing. Set a lower rate of loss and stick with that. Say 1lbs per week? That means you eat 500 calories less per day. Is that still too much? Chose a rare of loss of 0.5lbs per week, which is 250 calories less. While it sounds like you might be doing this forever just imagine you'd done that a year ago. Even with the lowest loss rate you'd have lost around 25lbs now. Slow and steady always wins the race, also when it comes to weight loss.

What you could also do: Try to find lunches for work that you like, that keep you full and that are easy to prepare. bring them along to work. This way you're in control of how many calories you eat even if you can't measure your intake at that moment.

MsCzar

Good advice above ^^^ Since May, I'm down 5 of 7 stone. I know how hard it is to get that start to take root.

The all-or-nothing mindset is a major diet slayer. I'd suggest making very small changes a little at a time. You don't have to be anywhere near perfect, just consistently keep at it.

How I started:

For two weeks, I made no attempt to consciously cut calories. But I bought a good digital food scale and logged every morsel that crossed my lips - even if it was greasy take-away, eight candy bars or a whole frozen pizza. By the second week of faithfully logging, I'd lost two pounds without even trying. Becoming acutely aware of exactly how much I'd been eating put the brakes on some of the more mindless and boredom-inspired calorie consumption.

After that, I worked on small victories. It was easy to find ways to cut back on my massive calorie intake. Maybe I shouldn't bake myself and entire cake, eh? To start, I decided to try limiting my daily calories to under 2000. I got that right about half the time.

I stopped eating after 8PM.

Made better food choices and swapped out for lower calorie foods whenever I could.

Eventually, I set a calorie deficit number I could live with and the numbers on the scale began to shift in the right direction.

I started sluggishly working out on a rebounder - beginning with a whopping 5 minutes a day and barely enduring for that long!

Pre-planned meals for the next day - adjusting as needed to fit in my calorie goals.

Soon I stopped eating after 6PM.

Took up the habit of having a huge mug of green tea with matcha powder shortly after dinner.

Started reading here at MFP of how others managed their weight and fitness issues. Found a Facebook group of people matching my daily calorie deficit target and clean eating goals. Began searching online cookery sites for low cal recipes.

Realised that occasionally eating too many calories isn't the end of the world. The past ain't nothing but over.
Onward!

girlwithcurls2

You can do this. You have good advice to make it as easy as possible. One thing I am doing is losing at a painfully slow rate (painful mentally and emotionally). I used to be all in, and wonder why my body wouldn't respond as quickly as my mind did. I'm working at losing .5 lb/week. Because of that slooow rate, I have stopped weighing myself. It's going to be masked (either good or bad) by weekly fluctuations. I'm taking this journey 90 days a a time. I'll weigh after the first 10-12 weeks and see where I am. I still might not see much of a difference, but the time will pass whether or not I start chipping away at it.

Make tiny, easy changed that you can live with. Long term, they'll have a major impact

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