I'm not ambitious and I'm not into 'stuff' - but I own my house, which I did care about, we're financially stable with enough to pay the bills and do the fun things, and I get to work doing things I'm passionate about. I have a good friend group, and a good relationship with the family I have a relationship with and the toxic folks were cut out many years ago.
3 graduate degrees and endless late nights later - doing what I wanted. Does not come without its challenges. I think it’s a personality trait to be goal-oriented, because now I’ve worked through some new goal posts I’m hoping to achieve.
So define "the dream?" My understanding is working the job you love, living in a home where you want to live, being with the person you want to be with, having a family (if that's part of it), and having good health.
Mine all match.
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So define "the dream?" My understanding is working the job you love, living in a home where you want to live, being with the person you want to be with, having a family (if that's part of it), and having good health.
Mine all match.
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I'm retired: so happy most of the time with that but I do miss parts of my former life
My home: as I said my dream has always been living out in the country without close neighbors but I don't foresee it happening
Person I'm with: well, it just is. I tried changing that once and it didn't work out
Family: love them, miss them, wish my kids lived closer
Health: Pretty lucky there
I guess if I could change anything it'd be my perspective about it all. Increase my gratitude, stop whining like a 3 yo and love what I already have. Grass isn't always greener....
I should be living the dream: I’m healthy, engaged to be married, good family, almost a million in the bank, own my own house but I’m just not. I feel useless at work, I know I react badly to any critical, I go from appearing confident and an annoying know it all to absolutely rock bottom where I know I’m a horrible person without a personality. I’ve friend but feel disconnected from them. I worry nobody will come to my wedding. I hate myself and my life.
I should be living the dream: I’m healthy, engaged to be married, good family, almost a million in the bank, own my own house but I’m just not. I feel useless at work, I know I react badly to any critical, I go from appearing confident and an annoying know it all to absolutely rock bottom where I know I’m a horrible person without a personality. I’ve friend but feel disconnected from them. I worry nobody will come to my wedding. I hate myself and my life.
Gotta fix that first. You can always improve from where you are. It won't always be perfect, but you first gotta start "Liking yourself unconditionally." When you start that and believe it, things that try to derail you in life aren't as hard to face.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer IDEA Fitness member Kickboxing Certified Instructor Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
I should be living the dream: I’m healthy, engaged to be married, good family, almost a million in the bank, own my own house but I’m just not. I feel useless at work, I know I react badly to any critical, I go from appearing confident and an annoying know it all to absolutely rock bottom where I know I’m a horrible person without a personality. I’ve friend but feel disconnected from them. I worry nobody will come to my wedding. I hate myself and my life.
And honestly, the only one that matters that shows up to your wedding is your future spouse. Someone loves you and wants to be with you forever, i wouldnt worry about any of the others that may come and go in your life.
Essentially, for me, it's what many of you have already stated and I'd only
add that it's the delayed gratification as a result of a couple few decades
of hard work, and learning from stupid decisions, that makes every day nearly
perfect to me.
Just about each of what y'all wrote applies to me and why I'm living my dream.
Bought your dream house? Yep, check. Is it perfect? No, It's exactly where I
want to live but I want more land. I'll get it though... Delayed gratification.
Work your *kitten* off day in and day out only taking Sundays off for years at a time? Yep, check.
Fit, healthy, non-materialistic? Yep, check. Only time I am am not fit or feeling healthy
is when I go FBR and do something extremely stupid to myself. Like move an 800# fountain by
myself. I could buy anything I want but, neigh neigh moose breath. Some would call me frugal.
I'm just cheap about most things, pay for quality, and won't make snap purchases.
Do I love my career? Yep, check. Do I love my job? H E Double Hockey Sticks NO!
I hate my job. But, I put up with it because like someone else said, I'm respected. And, I get
to do whatever I want most of the time which affords me the opportunity to do what I really like;
whatever floats my boat at that moment in time.
Delayed gratification...
It's all about the delayed gratification. In comparison, life is relaxing and easy now.
I've gotten to do and see some of the coolest *kitten*, IMHO, that extremely few people get to
experience because of seemingly insignificant things I worked hard at decades earlier and I
wouldn't trade any of it for an easier life.
The best part... I can drop anything to go help ol' girl when her roof blew off, or who was pulled over
at the end of my drive changing a tire, or help ol' boy repair his mini-bike engine when he had it
ripped apart on the side of the road, or even just go sit at the gas station at closing time when
one of the young ladies is closing by her self and doesn't feel comfortable alone at 2200 going from
the building to her car.
And this, is why I'm lovin' life and living the dream each and every day. I guess because I get
to help people; many of them I have never met and probably won't again.
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I'm not ambitious and I'm not into 'stuff' - but I own my house, which I did care about, we're financially stable with enough to pay the bills and do the fun things, and I get to work doing things I'm passionate about. I have a good friend group, and a good relationship with the family I have a relationship with and the toxic folks were cut out many years ago.
that's... really all I want.
Such is life ..
Mine all match.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
I’ll give it thought because it deserves an honest, well thought out answer.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
And honestly, the only one that matters that shows up to your wedding is your future spouse. Someone loves you and wants to be with you forever, i wouldnt worry about any of the others that may come and go in your life.
Essentially, for me, it's what many of you have already stated and I'd only
add that it's the delayed gratification as a result of a couple few decades
of hard work, and learning from stupid decisions, that makes every day nearly
perfect to me.
Just about each of what y'all wrote applies to me and why I'm living my dream.
Bought your dream house? Yep, check. Is it perfect? No, It's exactly where I
want to live but I want more land. I'll get it though... Delayed gratification.
Work your *kitten* off day in and day out only taking Sundays off for years at a time? Yep, check.
Fit, healthy, non-materialistic? Yep, check. Only time I am am not fit or feeling healthy
is when I go FBR and do something extremely stupid to myself. Like move an 800# fountain by
myself. I could buy anything I want but, neigh neigh moose breath. Some would call me frugal.
I'm just cheap about most things, pay for quality, and won't make snap purchases.
Do I love my career? Yep, check. Do I love my job? H E Double Hockey Sticks NO!
I hate my job. But, I put up with it because like someone else said, I'm respected. And, I get
to do whatever I want most of the time which affords me the opportunity to do what I really like;
whatever floats my boat at that moment in time.
Delayed gratification...
It's all about the delayed gratification. In comparison, life is relaxing and easy now.
I've gotten to do and see some of the coolest *kitten*, IMHO, that extremely few people get to
experience because of seemingly insignificant things I worked hard at decades earlier and I
wouldn't trade any of it for an easier life.
The best part... I can drop anything to go help ol' girl when her roof blew off, or who was pulled over
at the end of my drive changing a tire, or help ol' boy repair his mini-bike engine when he had it
ripped apart on the side of the road, or even just go sit at the gas station at closing time when
one of the young ladies is closing by her self and doesn't feel comfortable alone at 2200 going from
the building to her car.
And this, is why I'm lovin' life and living the dream each and every day. I guess because I get
to help people; many of them I have never met and probably won't again.