How do you get yourself into right mindset?

LiveOnceBeHappy

I am my only motivation. No one else can do any of this for me. I am 100% choosing the carrot over the cookie for ME. I don't look to anyone but myself for my motivation. I want what I want. I have been pretty independent my whole life.

ALG775

"As a 30+ year maintainer, I say my weight is a constant battle -- a battle I am winning! -- but a battle nonetheless"
Agree! I have a propensity to tend towards overweight/obesity. It is unlikely for me to suddenly become someone who finds it easy to maintain. And during Covid and some stressful relationship issues, I lost the willpower to work at it. (As @ahoy_m8 says, mental energy is limited and sometimes other things take over the weight struggle). But I come back to a few things that motivate me:
Wanting to be healthy, wanting to be able to dance, walk, ride a bike and hike with ease, wanting to look good in clothes, wanting to have the ability to buy regular sized clothes, and wanting to really enjoy the food I do choose to eat.

Rachelmilloy

I have been on MFP for about 10 years, and have had lots of success losing and maintaining… but have certainly had some challenging ‘regaining’ periods as well!!!

When I’m in that delicate period - the first day or two of living a healthier lifestyle, I have noticed how easily I am swayed by my inner elf filling my head with the memory of the Belgian chocolates I’d been eating just a day or two earlier, and suggesting I go get some more… that I could just delay the start of my healthier lifestyle by another day or two, and all would be well! My inner angel might chime in with some doubts, but the more I yielded to the inner elf, the harder it was to say “No!”

Just as young children learn very quickly that if their parents eventually give in to their demands, then time spent badgering them is time well spent, I finally realized that my inner elf knew there was likely gonna be a payoff for its badgering. And therefore, if I drew a line in the sand and said, “I’m doing this, not THAT!”, and consistently maintained that stance, the badgering would stop. And that helped me enormously!

All the best! 🌸🌺😊