Help

auke9491

So i was on a good streak of loaing weight til i had tooth pain and had it roved havent been back to gym since and gave up. Anyone got any tips

I wanna get back to it im hating self hating body and cant stand being told i look good when i know i dont. And makes it worse when my fience doesnt hardly touch me.... so can i get some help

Redordeadhead

What got you motivated last time?

You don't need to go to a gym to lose weight, focussing on reducing the calories you eat is enough. Or get outside for a walk in the fresh air for exercise, or do something else you enjoy. It doesn't have to be a slog!

rosebarnalice

You know you know how to lose weight, but maybe first you could try giving yourself some grace.

You just went through a painful and stressful time, and you need some time to feel better both physically and mentally.

Now is not the time to beat yourself up, use the word "hate" about yourself or your body, and dismiss others for saying what you don't see in yourself.

JBanx256

auke9491 wrote: »

And makes it worse when my fience doesnt hardly touch me

This is more concerning than the underlying issue, IMHO. Your weight/body issues can be fixed, but a dude who withholds attention or affection because your physical appearance has changed a little bit? NOPE. Even if a magical weight loss fairy descended upon you tonight and VIOLA, you lost weight overnight, guess what? We all age. Our bodies change. Are you gonna have a kid with this guy? If so, you realize your weight/body is gonna change a lot more than it did when you had your tooth pain problem. Whether or not you have a child, is he just going to ignore you for the rest of your lives when your body inevitably changes as you get older? I think THIS issue needs to be addressed ASAP - counseling, whatever - before you marry this guy.

I also think his treatment of you may be contributing to the massive lack of self esteem and body-hating you've got going on right now. If you nip the relationship issue in the bud, you may realize that your worth - as a human and as a woman - does not hinge on a number on the scale.

springlering62

JBanx256 wrote: »

auke9491 wrote: »

And makes it worse when my fience doesnt hardly touch me

This is more concerning than the underlying issue, IMHO. Your weight/body issues can be fixed, but a dude who withholds attention or affection because your physical appearance has changed a little bit? NOPE. Even if a magical weight loss fairy descended upon you tonight and VIOLA, you lost weight overnight, guess what? We all age. Our bodies change. Are you gonna have a kid with this guy? If so, you realize your weight/body is gonna change a lot more than it did when you had your tooth pain problem. Whether or not you have a child, is he just going to ignore you for the rest of your lives when your body inevitably changes as you get older? I think THIS issue needs to be addressed ASAP - counseling, whatever - before you marry this guy.

I also think his treatment of you may be contributing to the massive lack of self esteem and body-hating you've got going on right now. If you nip the relationship issue in the bud, you may realize that your worth - as a human and as a woman - does not hinge on a number on the scale.

@JBanx256 one of the best, most intuitive, most tough love responses I’ve ever seen here.

OP, please read and reread this. And read it again!