I messed up. Can I fix it?

Losingthedamnweight

I was so on point with my calories today and I was totally fine. And then my wife suggested getting Dairy Queen over and over and I caved and ate like 1500 calories. Ahhhh

It’s like 6pm. Do you think I could just mark it as tomorrows meal and pretend like it never happened? And just eat a light dinner tomorrow to be at my calorie budget. Or does that not make sense?

westrich20940

I'd log it. You at it so log it. One time of eating over your calories isn't going to ruin anything. Eating more than your TDEE consistently will cause weight gain. If the number on your daily calorie thing being red is going to really trigger you though, don't log it at all. Move on and forget about it.

In the future --- plan what you'll be having at Dairy Queen ahead of time so it fits into your calorie goal. Also...maybe have a talk with your wife and talk about the importance to you to stick to your plan and how she fits into that/can help you.

My advice is --Never try to 'make up' for overeaten calories by eating less on another day or working out more than typical. Both lean towards creating a bad relationship with body image, weight, food, and exercise.

Everyone is just doing the best they can - and that includes you too.

goal06082021

Log it and move on. If this kind of thing happens fairly often, asking your wife to give you more notice for these kinds of things (and/or respecting your "no" when you decline) is a good next step. You may need to explicitly tell your wife that she is allowed to go to DQ by herself even if you don't want to go, if you don't think you can go with her and not get anything because you're out of calories for the day.

If these things happen *predictably,* consider calorie-cycling - let's say that, for whatever reason, Wife consistently starts jonesing for DQ on Saturday nights. Eat a little less each day during the week, like 100-200 calories under your goal, and "save" those couple hundred calories each day to "spend" them on Saturday at DQ.

I do this; I prep breakfast and lunch for the week, and cook dinners that yield leftovers for weeknights, so I can pre-fill my diary for the whole workweek on Sunday night, including snacks and dessert. You can have up to 6 meal categories in your diary - I have Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner, Snacks, Dessert, and Banked. After inputting my menu for the day, I'll round whatever's left over down to the nearest hundred and then Quick Add that amount to Banked, to subtract that amount from my goal for the day. Then I'll add up all the Banked calories for the week and distribute them between Saturday and Sunday, using a custom cardio exercise called (in a fit of creativity) "Banked Calories," so that will add the total to my goal for the day. I've also done this for planned mid-week feasts - my birthday and my anniversary fell on Tuesdays this year, so I banked my cals for the week and then split that total between Tuesday, Saturday, and Sunday, giving myself about 500 extra to play with on Tuesday and about 300 each for Saturday and Sunday.