Please reply and give me your tips and tricks. I need help😢

nauguste2006

Hi, I am a woman that is depressed, tired, and hanging on for dear life... I was doing so well with my weight loss until school came around. I started eating school lunches, candy, pretzels and gained 20 lbs in 3 months. I use to weigh 181lbs but now I am 204lbs. I just stepped on the scale and I cried for hours thinking how life would be if I was skinny, healthy, and even happy. My doctor is going to be very disappointed in me and tbh I am scared to even go out in public. I have become insecure about my body these past few months and obsessing over BMI, my calorie intake, my measurements, and the list goes on. I just want guidance from you guys to help figure out a plan before it's too late.

Weight-204
Height- 5'7
obese

monstrance27

I totally understand! I have a similar situation, I am 21, 5'7 and was 180 lbs May of 2020, but after a major life change along with a move, I am up to 230-ish!! (Not good!!) I used to have a disordered feeling weight loss plan at 180 lbs, so I am trying to run a tight ship this time.

Weight loss is different for everyone, but here is my plan of attack. Copy part of if you feel inclined!

- write down your motivations for loosing weight and read them everyday (even the silly ones!)
- stick to your planned calorie intake!!! If you have earned exercise calories only eat back 1/2 of them. (diet soda, tea with no milk or sugar, and sugar free gum along with copious amounts of water help me alot!)
- I use this calculator once a week to make sure that my work out plan and intake is healthy and I am not slipping into disordered eating: https://www.niddk.nih.gov/bwp
(And I stick to the exercises that are on the calculator! 🙂)
- I fast in the morning to make sure I have enough calories for "social eating" at nigh, and make sure I am eating ALL of my planned calories at the end of the day.

Hopefully this helps! I don't know if you are the praying type of person, but know that I am praying for your success and peace right now! 💕

nauguste2006

Thank you so much for your advice and your inspiring tips I apprecitate you. I also hope you have a good journey as well thank you!

88olds

Take heart. No one can change without hope. But you can do this. Trick? The weight loss secret is hiding in plain sight. It’s calorie counting. Calorie counting works but not exactly how most people would like it to.
And certainly not as fast as they would like it to.

Calorie counting works because it’s based on how our bodies are designed. We’re built to store extra calories to help see us through hard times. Fortunately those times don’t arrive for a lot of us. But just like eating just 100 extra calories per day will get us gaining 10 lbs in about 1 year, eating in a 100 cal deficit will get us losing about 10 lbs in 1 year.

Likely your brain is screaming that 10 lbs in a year is way too slow. Faster is possible once you figure out the process. But that’s a matter of personal choice.

But I want to talk you out of something. Unfortunately making goal weight will not necessarily make the world a wonderful place. It doesn’t even necessarily make us “skinny.” I’m not. But I’ve been at a healthy BMI for years. Which was what I wanted. Don’t get me wrong. My life is much better. At 285 I was a stroke waiting to happen. Without change I likely wouldn’t be here to write this. But goal weight will not fix the world.

So the maybe not so good news is it takes time and persistence to lose a significant amount and more persistence to keep it gone. But the good news is you don’t have to wait long at all to start getting some of what you want. You can be happier and healthier starting now.

Have you tried keeping a food diary? Have you used the MFP calculators to calculate a calorie deficit? What happened? If you are like a lot (most?) people you aimed at losing 2 lbs per week and found either you couldn’t live with the calorie target or you hit the target but loss less than 2 lbs and then gave up.

Try this. Calculate your calories to maintain where you are. First thing is to stop gaining. Start a food diary and never stop. Over your number? Log it. Crazy over? Log that too. Log it all, the good, the bad and the ugly.
Weight loss is mostly about problem solving and persistence. Going over our numbers are problems to solve. Solve enough problems in a week and you get a loss. Lose for enough weeks and you get to goal weight. When you have a handle on the process calculate a deficit to lose 1/2 lb per week. Try that for awhile.

Weight loss has 2 parts- eating in a calorie deficit and living with it. People tend to go all in on the deficit and try to beat themselves into living with it. Generally doesn’t work. If you find you can live with a 1/2 lb deficit, try for more if you want. But give up the idea that you need to suffer through this. There’s nothing wrong with doing things the easy way so long as you make it in the end.

You will feel a lot better when you have some control of the process. When your plan seems like it isn’t working, make it better. Never give up. Good luck.