Lost weight? You Liar!

Families_R_Forever

If they have not seen you in 3 years...maybe they need a pic of you at your highest to fully appreciate how you look now. Maybe make an online postcard of a before and after pic...I know they will see the results. However they should be more supportive.

kspeach

I don't really feel like my family is supportive either. (mom, brother) My brother judges based on 'size', so I don't really care too much. If someone doesn't like me simply because I am a size 18 or 20. And my mom made SUCH a big deal out of it when I was there in May.....she had to tell EVERYONE that we saw that I was on a diet. I know deep down she's ashamed of having two overweight daughters. I wasn't asking for special foods or anything. And it wasn't even part of a conversation. Plus, the fact that she complains about being a size 6 right in front of me bothers me.....

Oh well. No, I'm not doing it for them, but it would help for them to be supportive!! I think my other sis (not my mom's daughter...long story) is being much more supportive....thankfully! Plus two of my best friends, my best cousin, and my husband and sons....that's my support group. And don't forget my friends on MFP!

EboniA

You need to just stay focused on your goal! You are not losing the weight for anyone but yourself. You don't have to prove anything to anybody! The next time they see you they will see the new skinny you. They will then proceed to talk about how they hope you can keep it off, etc. They will watch what you eat, if you workout and everything! Do not let this distract you! Some people are happiest whey they are miserable and they want others to be that way too. It is painful to see that family can be so cruel, but the fact is, this is how they always have been, you have just not noticed it. They can be jealous and petty, but you cannot let that hinder or take away from your great accomplishments! I'm sure you have other family members that will be genuinely happy for you. Focus on them and like everyone here has said, WE, your MFP family will always support you and never judge you! Keep up your great work!

I agree with this comment completely!! Stay the course. Part of keeping the weight off is dealing with the emotional issues of life.

Since you didn't exactly ask for their feedback, you could always ignore what they really say and pretend they are saying the nicest things. Like if they say, "no you didn't lose weight" and you say "thank you so much for your support, I knew you would be proud of me".

weaklink109

When your family or anyone else makes a comment like your SIL did, the best way to handle it, for your own emotional well-being is to consider the source--then IGNORE them!!!

YOU are the most important person in the world to please, and YOU are the best one to take care of you. :flowerforyou:

As for the camera, I am voting for the suggestion to sell or return it (if you can tell where it was purchased) and get something to reward yourself. If it were me, I would not consider keeping it, even if I needed it for other reasons, as it would always remind me of a negative event that I am better off not dwelling on.

Congrats, by the way, on your success!!:drinker: :drinker:

Jessica68

I read your post twice and I only got out of it that your sister in law is jealous you lost weight and put her husband up to the idea of sending the webcam because she cant BELIEVE you lost that much weight and wants to SEE you. And maybe she felt THIS way would make it seem like "we miss you" and would l like to communicate this way - but I feel she only wants to SEE you. She's jealous. Thats my opinion.

MakeLifeBright

WoW I did not know this many people would Respond!!
How amazed and thankful I am to every one here, for their positive words to me.
Thank you Thank you Thank you!!

msmonarae

Crazy....I can understand how that would hurt...."Make your Haters your Motivators"

Nina74

Don't they say-- "You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family." Entirely so in this case! I'm sorry you are going through this and I agree with one other poster- sell the webcam on Ebay and buy something nice for your skinny self! Tell them you never figured out how to use it!

60 lbs is awesome! Congrats!

leavinglasvegas

Hmmmm. We might be related.:laugh:

The best advice is to ignore it and let them see you next summer while they spend the rest of the year doubting you. But don't give in and use that camera for what they want. And don't give any more details. Let 'em sweat and then enjoy the success next summer.

There are several fun things that come to mind about the camera.

1. Smash the crap out of it and mail it back with no explaination. They will get it.

2. Sell it and use the money to buy a hot new outfit. Then take a photo of you in said outfit looking hot and send the pic with no explaination except see you next summer.

3. Keep it, but vow to never use it to communicate with your family.

4. Send it to your brother and SIL as a xmas gift.

Overall, I have learned to use these types of situations to my benefit. First off, anyone bringing negative energy into my life becomes no longer necessary to me. Family or not. I just walk away, no need to explain. 2nd, I take the negative comments, depending on what they are, and use them to fuel my motivation. Example, my mom always tells me I'm not "school" material and I should just quit and settle for whoever will take my damaged goods and just be a wife. So, I graduated. That actually pissed her off. 3rd, I don't tell anyone anything anymore. I just do what I do and take satisfaction in the looks on their faces when I succeed. But I never have to deal with the I told you so's if I don't succeed.

MakeLifeBright

Hmmmm. We might be related.:laugh:

The best advice is to ignore it and let them see you next summer while they spend the rest of the year doubting you. But don't give in and use that camera for what they want. And don't give any more details. Let 'em sweat and then enjoy the success next summer.

There are several fun things that come to mind about the camera.

1. Smash the crap out of it and mail it back with no explaination. They will get it.

2. Sell it and use the money to buy a hot new outfit. Then take a photo of you in said outfit looking hot and send the pic with no explaination except see you next summer.

3. Keep it, but vow to never use it to communicate with your family.

4. Send it to your brother and SIL as a xmas gift.

Overall, I have learned to use these types of situations to my benefit. First off, anyone bringing negative energy into my life becomes no longer necessary to me. Family or not. I just walk away, no need to explain. 2nd, I take the negative comments, depending on what they are, and use them to fuel my motivation. Example, my mom always tells me I'm not "school" material and I should just quit and settle for whoever will take my damaged goods and just be a wife. So, I graduated. That actually pissed her off. 3rd, I don't tell anyone anything anymore. I just do what I do and take satisfaction in the looks on their faces when I succeed. But I never have to deal with the I told you so's if I don't succeed.

HaHa Love the christmas gift Idea!!! You know you are right, I was thinking... I should not have even told them anything.
I can not wait to put on a pair of high heels, a hot dress.. and knock on their door unexpected!!
I do not have to prove myself to them. With all the support here, I have turned my negative feelings into
work out fuel

Thank you all again so much, for being there for me!!

iRun4wine

Just wanted to share a quote my dad always told me growing up:

"What's right is seldom easy, and what's easy is seldom right."

Don't think it needs much explanation... I find that more often than not, it's true. :flowerforyou: