What is YOUR biggest regret in life?

Mangoperson88

I have the same general regret like everyone out here- i neglected my health in my 20s. Roaring 20s when i was supposed to study,work,socialise,date etc. I was severely mentally ill and fat and i felt it was out of my control. I am wrong, I could've done something about my weight atleast. I could've exercised harder but yeah my mental illness kinda obstructed that.

OpheliaCooter

I regret my career choices.

Coupongrl79

Letting him drive.

therealme_lissa

My biggest regret in life… it wasn’t meeting my ex or loving my ex… it was thinking I could “fix” him!!

Thinking that if I loved him enough or gave him enough chances; then eventually he’d change.

After 12 years of living through abuse I realized that the only thing broken was me & I was the one that needed to be fixed!

He forever shaped who I am… both for the good & for the bad.

chrismacboy

Not pursuing my passion as far as career. I regret it to this day. 🥵

88AViva

I regret not following my own plans for my life. I had a job offer to be a flight attendant/ stewardess for an excellent airline company. I wanted to do that for a while, just a few years, until I figured out what I wanted to do or choose to learn in university. I also wanted a life where everyday wouldn't feel like the same exact day.

I chose to let my parents and my uncle pressure me into going to Law school instead. They wouldn't let go about me wasting my time and my future being a "glorified waitress". Their disappointment in my choices bothered me so I went with the safe choice. Something I wasn't even interested in.
Now I can't hate or blame them. I have a stable life but everyday feels like the same. I feel nothing at all 😶 I missed all the adventures I would have had if I didn't care what others thought of me.

ninerbuff

Only one because I wouldn't be where I am today without mistakes along the way.........smoking.

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chickenperson483

Saying I was fine, not saying goodbye, being silent, not standing up for myself.

cwolfman13

I'm a big believer in things happening for a reason and those things making up who we are and/or become. It took me aging a bit to realize this...I had more regrets when I was younger, but as I got older I realized that those things are actually what make me who I am now and that every turn provides for different possible life outcomes.

PokerKing_WA

Not figuring out what's important to me many years ago. And maybe not being more active on MFP over the years if it works out for me.

OpheliaCooter

I regret being truthful about having two pets when I wanted a second cat bc they actually checked with my apartment and they told me I had reached my animal limit of two animals with one cat and a rabbit(at the time it was actually two rabbits). I lost out on that cat and I wanted to give him a good home so bad. I was going to name him Vincent and Vinney for short. He was a huge boy and underweight with his fur shaved and patchy. He just wanted to be held. I always think about him and hope he found a loving home.
I also always think about a dog I met the one time I volunteered at the pound. She was a short fat ugly little bulldog mix but the best personality someone could ask for in a dog. Knew how to fetch and was all around a great animal. I couldn’t adopt her at the time and I was afraid no one would come get her bc she wasn’t the prettiest dog.
I’m just a bleeding heart for animals.
I also regret not going into a career where I could save animals. I originally wanted to be a veterinary surgeon. Still want to open a rescue but so far have not come any closer to that goal. I don’t even volunteer. Tbh it’s bc that one time I did I felt so guilty and like I had failed them all by not being crazy rich and just giving them all a home myself which is a dumb train of thought but it’s mine.

Motorsheen

I reckon it's that one girl from Dunwoody, Georgia.

twitchymcgee

Let’s just scrap the whole thing & start fresh

jodear8125

Taking advantage of my natural fitness and not looking after my body better, what you put in your body in earlier years makes a difference later

honey_honey_12

Not having more children

MelG7777

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skctilidie

Staying in a couple of relationships way longer than I should’ve and not standing up for what I wanted and needed in those and others.

___Soundwave___

I didn't try hard enough to save someone from a vice.

Motorsheen

Probably that one girl from Alamogordo, New Mexico.

twitchymcgee

I knew I should’ve made a left turn at Albuquerque

gfjazz

getting bmarried and having 6 children

twitchymcgee

gfjazz wrote: »

getting bmarried and having 6 children

That’s a lot of work ❤️

R3d_butt3rfly_

Mine has definitely been opening up to people that aren't in my life anymore. I'm such a private person and when I let someone in is because I felt a sense of security and safety with them. But people come and go and that's always a hard pill to swallow.

Mangoperson88

Pushing away people/well wishers who genuinely loved me because of seeds of doubt and fear planted by my @$$hole grandpa. He used to say they want to rape me and hurt me. This is the reason why I'm such a paranoid schizoid and literally have no friends in my life rn. I still don't let people come close to me. I still freak out(mildly though) when people,esp guys try to talk to me at the gym

nossmf

As I was thinking of how to answer this, every time I came up with something, I realized that if I changed it I'd lose something I like about my life.

--> If I'd dated more as a teen, I may never have met my wife of 20 years.
--> If I'd focused upon making the military my career instead of getting out after 10 years, I'd not have my current job which I (mostly) enjoy.

...and on and on. Even the negative experiences (if I'd paid more attention I could've avoided being sideswiped) may have prevented something far worse (if I'd made it to the next intersection I may have been involved in a lethal head-on collision).

It's fun sometimes to play the mind game "If only..." but I prefer to look at what I have, not what I could have had if I'd been willing to give up something else.

ReenieHJ

@nossmf Good answer and it's so true.

twitchymcgee

I regret hurting people intentionally & unintentionally. I regret the choices of others that hurt me. Idc if they made me stronger or made me who I am today. I had/have a right to safety. I don’t wallow in this *kitten* but it would be pollyanna to pretend I wouldn’t change it if I could.

Different opinions make the world interesting, right?

Motorsheen

Probably that one girl from Lake Charles, Louisiana.

nonchalantxo

Gaining 9 pounds.

CoffeeNstilettos

My biggest regret was that I rocked down to electric Avenue but never took it higher.