Are you an introvert, extrovert or middle-of-the-road vert?

ReenieHJ
ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
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I hate crowds, get togethers of any kind or even being watched when I'm doing things, like gardening or exercising. I need my own little private space, TYVM

Are you an introvert, extrovert or middle-of-the-road vert? 29 votes

Introvert
55%
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Extrovert
3%
MadRee87 1 vote
Middle of the road
41%
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  • Alinouveau2
    Alinouveau2 Posts: 6,425 Member
    I think I'm an extrovert. I used to be shy but at 18 I decided it was more a lack of self confidence so I decided to not be that way anymore. I enjoy performing, like LOVE performing, I don't care if people watch me do anything, I talk to anyone and I love parties and crowds. I'd rather vacation in a big city cause the people and energy just energizes me. My mom gets a kick out of when I take her to the club for lunch because I can't make it through without stopping to chat with half a dozen people...staff, members everyone is interesting so I talk to everyone
  • amorfati601070
    amorfati601070 Posts: 2,890 Member
    Introvert
    One a spectrum, Introversion (1) and Extraversion (10)...probably like 3.333. I can get drained by social interactions, more so just small talk..I'm not very good at and I'm also comfortable with silence when I got nothing to say. Maybe it that makes me look a bit standoffish but its just who I am. But I do like learning about other people, helping them and getting to know them but there's probably only 3 people in my life that I would call close friends. I don't really like being the center of attention either. I get INTP on the Meyer-Briggs thing every time i do it.
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    Introvert
    litha_ wrote: »
    If you had another option that indicated - depends on the situation, I’d probably of chosen that.

    :) I'm a virgin poll creator, so it's a learning curve for me. :)
  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,739 Member
    Introvert
    Ok, so I picked introvert because....what @ReenieHJ said sans the gardening part.

    I'm a bad conversationalist, feel alone in crowds, and do you know how long it took me to put my hair in a ponytail or wear shorts when I started walking outside??

    But I'll have short convos with people I have a passing acquaintance with like the check out people I see regularly at my grocery store or clients. Basic "what's new" kinda things.
  • 88AViva
    88AViva Posts: 499 Member
    80% Introvert - Often people think I look cold or unfriendly before they actually talk to me because I prefer to observe first. I'm more shy and awkward (I'm better on my own but I'm okay around few people, just not in crowds or large groups)
    20% Ambivert - Only if the people I'm around feel comfortable and safe for me to be me)
  • fstrickl
    fstrickl Posts: 883 Member
    Middle of the road
    Oooo. . . polls are fun. I'm surprised the term "ambivert" hasn't come up yet. I think I fall in that bracket, or sometimes I like to call myself a social introvert. I like to interact with people and even meet new people, but I need my alone time to recharge.

    One interesting thing I've discovered is that SOME people fill my cup, while being with others drain my cup. Doesn't mean I don't like them, they just make me tired.
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    Introvert
    litha_ wrote: »
    ReenieHJ wrote: »
    litha_ wrote: »
    If you had another option that indicated - depends on the situation, I’d probably of chosen that.

    :) I'm a virgin poll creator, so it's a learning curve for me. :)

    @ReenieHJ - I'm sorry, I didn't mean for my comment to be critical. I just meant to express it was difficult for me to decide on just one.

    I didn't take it as criticism at all. If you knew me, you'd know how challenged I can be when it comes to all things internet/technology related so I was rather proud of figuring the poll thing out by myself. :p
    fstrickl wrote: »
    Oooo. . . polls are fun. I'm surprised the term "ambivert" hasn't come up yet. I think I fall in that bracket, or sometimes I like to call myself a social introvert. I like to interact with people and even meet new people, but I need my alone time to recharge.

    One interesting thing I've discovered is that SOME people fill my cup, while being with others drain my cup. Doesn't mean I don't like them, they just make me tired.

    I assume ambivert is the word to describe middle of the road? I figured there was a term that I didn't know. :)
  • JustAMurmur
    JustAMurmur Posts: 7,867 Member
    Introvert
    150% introvert
  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,739 Member
    Introvert
    JustAMurmur wrote: »
    150% introvert

    Says the person with 7,747 posts.

    I was thinking about this after posting. I very much became an online extrovert. Like in flirting with people and....uh....public displays of adult behavior and actually having conversations and talking on the phone. Of course, it may have also been a time when I liked people more.:) (I don't do any of that anymore.)

    But also on here. I'm way more sociable than in real life. And open. I talk about my poop, for God's sake! :)
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    Introvert
    @glassyo Same here. It's so much easier for me to 'talk' here without stammering and face flushing and saying stupid stuff (oh wait, hmmmm). I used to attend a lot of workshops for my job and every damn time they'd expect you to introduce yourself. We'd go around the circle, the whole time watching each person do it, sweating more profusely as it'd get around to me, all eyes focused. On me. I'd stutter, stammer my way through. He!! half the time I'd stumble over my own name. :( Loathed those things. :(
    But one on one? I'm okay with that. Behind a screen? Even better. :)

    After working in the childcare field over 35 years, state regulations changed and we had to either have college credits or take this 45 hour class. I took the class and our very last class required each of us to give a final presentation. Ugh. Thankfully many people are more long-winded than I am so by the time I came along(I was last, I was hoping they'd just forget about me lol)we were down to the wire. People were packing up, chaos was starting, people were simply done with this ridiculous class, I gave like a 2 minute presentation and was outta there. Got a great review and lots of referrals from the teachers for daycare families. :)

  • Alinouveau2
    Alinouveau2 Posts: 6,425 Member
    glassyo wrote: »
    JustAMurmur wrote: »
    150% introvert

    Says the person with 7,747 posts.

    I was thinking about this after posting. I very much became an online extrovert. Like in flirting with people and....uh....public displays of adult behavior and actually having conversations and talking on the phone. Of course, it may have also been a time when I liked people more.:) (I don't do any of that anymore.)

    But also on here. I'm way more sociable than in real life. And open. I talk about my poop, for God's sake! :)

    I think this is kind of indicative of an inteovert. It's easier to talk online because it's somewhat anonymously. You can become or be whomever or whatever you want really. Really I think there why so many people get kind of lost in the inline world because it's simply more comfortable for them and heck with all the conveniences brought around by COVID it will be way easier for super introverts to retreat. No need to ever leave the house really anymore
  • RedSassyPants
    RedSassyPants Posts: 410 Member
    By nature I’m an introvert
    But I’m an actress which kind of makes no sense. Easiest way to explain it is when i have the ability to become someone else, they are not introverts
  • J_NY_Z
    J_NY_Z Posts: 2,540 Member
    Introvert
    As a kid I did my best to fit in. But nobody was interested in the things I was (math, science, metal music...). It got somewhat worse in high school when a lot of people I knew started experimenting with drugs. I had no desire to follow. Bad with talking/interacting with women.

    Now I just assume that when I enter a room that people aren't interested in what I have to say. I will wait for them to interact. If nobody does interact, I am fine sitting by myself minding my own business.
  • N2couture22
    N2couture22 Posts: 62 Member
    Middle of the road
    I have weaved through my life between them. Currently I am a little extrovert but moreso introvert.
  • jjpptt2
    jjpptt2 Posts: 5,650 Member
    Introvert
    My default setting is introvert. I have little interest in most people, less interest in gatherings, social events, etc. I need lots of quiet time in still places. But I do have a streak in me that, in smaller groups (no more than 2 or 3) of people I trust, I can be pretty outgoing.

    I think the point @Alinouveau2 made is interesting, and I tend to agree. Much of my introverted nature is rooted in lack of self confidence and self-judgement.
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    Introvert
    "Much of my introverted nature is rooted in lack of self confidence and self-judgement."

    YES this! @jjpptt2 you nailed the causes of why I'm the way I am.
  • Generic_Excuse
    Generic_Excuse Posts: 607 Member
    Middle of the road
    My husband's the introvert always wishing he were home and ever the perfect opposite I'm talking away to everyone. Although in situations where I don't know ANYONE at functions I do get social anxiety.
  • R3d_butt3rfly_
    R3d_butt3rfly_ Posts: 1,585 Member
    Introvert
    I'm an introvert who wants to be an extrovert but that sounds draining. I'm always the girl in the corner petting cats at parties 🤷‍♀️
  • Coupongrl79
    Coupongrl79 Posts: 193 Member
    R3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »
    I'm always the girl in the corner petting cats at parties 🤷‍♀️

    I tend to be in another room petting the cats or dogs, or playing with the kids. I only go back in for food.

  • lx1x
    lx1x Posts: 38,330 Member
    *grabs a chair... Places it on the corner of the room.. sits.. look at phone.*

  • Coupongrl79
    Coupongrl79 Posts: 193 Member
    J_NY_Z wrote: »
    Now I just assume that when I enter a room that people aren't interested in what I have to say. I will wait for them to interact. If nobody does interact, I am fine sitting by myself minding my own business.

    I'm going to say this for the benefit of all of the shy or introverted women in NY. When they see you enter a room, they want to hear what you have to say. The only thing more attractive than your looks are your thoughts. Don't deprive them, J.
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    Introvert
    Coupongrl79 wrote: »
    R3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »
    I'm always the girl in the corner petting cats at parties 🤷‍♀️

    I tend to be in another room petting the cats or dogs, or playing with the kids. I only go back in for food.

    I turn down invitations for parties, stay home and hang out with my dogs. :/
    Unless there is to be alcohol at the party, then a drink or 2 loosens me up. Then everything I have to say is amazing. :)
  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,739 Member
    Introvert
    Coupongrl79 wrote: »
    R3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »
    I'm always the girl in the corner petting cats at parties 🤷‍♀️

    I tend to be in another room petting the cats or dogs, or playing with the kids. I only go back in for food.

    I used to hide in my bedroom during family gatherings. All of the younger cousins would hide out with me.

    We were definitely the outliers of the family.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    edited April 2022
    Middle of the road
    Definitely ambivert
    25 signs you’re an ambivert
    1. You like going to parties, but don’t have to stay until the end. When you’ve had your fill, you’re comfortable leaving.

    2. You like meeting new people, but not always. Sometimes you don’t want to make the effort of starting a new getting-to-know-you conversation. It depends on your mood.

    3. Short conversations are just fine. You don’t need to spend hours talking to someone.

    4. You can be by yourself for hours, then join a group for dinner. You’re equally happy in both situations because ambiverts straddle the line between introverted and extroverted tendencies.

    5. You can go to the movie by yourself or with a friend, and you’d be happy either way. You really enjoy your own company, but you also enjoy being around others.

    6. You can stay in the back and listen, but will definitely speak up if you have something to say.

    7. You are comfortable in many different friend groups. You socialize with various circles and appreciate each circle for what it can offer you (sports, book club, wine club and more).

    8. You socialize a lot, but still definitely need your down time. In fact, your perfect day is spending part of the day by yourself and part of the time with friends and family.

    9. At the end of a group dinner with friends, you want to go home and be alone (take a bath, watch TV or read). You need to unwind by yourself each day.

    10. You don’t mind talking to strangers, but don’t feel obligated to do so. People find you genuine and easy to talk to.

    11. You’re generally game for any activity, but not for long periods of time. So instead of hiking for five hours and having constant chatter, ambiverts like you are more game for an hour or two of kayaking or walking with a friend. Shorter activities are more your speed and you may find yourself drawn to other ambiverts for that reason.

    12. You’re not easily embarrassed. Many introverts don’t like to draw attention to themselves. Extroverts are the opposite. You’re in the middle.

    13. You’re a part of the crowd, but not the center of attention. You’re not the sit-in-corner kind of person.

    14. You definitely like your own company, but don’t want to be by yourself constantly.

    15. You are pretty even-keeled in most situations.

    16. Your friends find you stable and consistent. Employers like hiring you because you’re dependable. You don’t hog the spotlight, but you’re a really good team player.

    17. When describing you, people would use terms like mild-mannered. You’re not the chatty Kathy that has to say something in every meeting, but you are also not a wallflower who often gets overlooked.

    18. You’re a good negotiator because you’re an active listener as well as a talker. People feel like they are heard when they are around you.

    19. You tend to make friends fairly easily. While extroverts have tons of acquaintances and introverts have a small group of friends, ambiverts like you are somewhere in the middle. You have a nice circle of inner friends and a medium circle of acquaintances.

    20. You can regulate your emotions well. So if you get angry, you tend not to stay that way for long periods.

    21. You’re empathetic. You are often the one helping a friend or coworker. People often come to you for advice or when they need a sounding board (someone to just listen).

    22. While you have a social life, you also like doing things alone. You could easily go for a long hike solo but then meet up with friends for a campfire.

    23. You’re mild-mannered. You’re not the one screaming at a concert, but you also aren’t the one silent the whole time.

    24. Friends might refer to you as an extrovert with introvert tendencies or an introvert with extrovert tendencies. That’s a classic definition of an ambivert. Some days you’re just feeling super social and other days you’re feeling like you just need your own space. Even within a day you can swing back and forth between seeming like an introvert and extrovert to others. And that’s just fine with you.

    25. You’re not drained after talking to people. Many introverts have a hard time conversing with people because their go-to happy place is being alone. Extroverts, on the other hand, can talk for hours and still keep talking. You are that really nice balance of talking to people and having great in-depth conversations, but people also don’t feel drained talking to you.
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,371 Member
    Introvert
    Extreme introvert. I'm struggling with having more people in the office again and we're not back to full complement yet.

    Twice now I've come across events that my BFF would probably enjoy, thought about asking her if she wanted to go, then chickened out because PEOPLE.

    Social events where I don't know anyone? I just won't go.
  • J_NY_Z
    J_NY_Z Posts: 2,540 Member
    Introvert
    R3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »
    I'm an introvert who wants to be an extrovert but that sounds draining. I'm always the girl in the corner petting cats at parties 🤷‍♀️

    I would like to accompany you to the party and pet the cats as well. We don't even have to talk to each other.
  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    Introvert
    J_NY_Z wrote: »
    R3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »
    I'm an introvert who wants to be an extrovert but that sounds draining. I'm always the girl in the corner petting cats at parties 🤷‍♀️

    I would like to accompany you to the party and pet the cats as well. We don't even have to talk to each other.

    Maybe there could be an exclusive introvert corner, or entire room filled with cats. And vodka. Then when we all loosen up we could venture over to the extrovert corner and see what's going on?
  • J_NY_Z
    J_NY_Z Posts: 2,540 Member
    Introvert
    ReenieHJ wrote: »
    J_NY_Z wrote: »
    R3d_butt3rfly_ wrote: »
    I'm an introvert who wants to be an extrovert but that sounds draining. I'm always the girl in the corner petting cats at parties 🤷‍♀️

    I would like to accompany you to the party and pet the cats as well. We don't even have to talk to each other.

    Maybe there could be an exclusive introvert corner, or entire room filled with cats. And vodka. Then when we all loosen up we could venture over to the extrovert corner and see what's going on?

    You can venture with the vodka, I'll stay with the cats. I will however save your seat in case you want to return.
  • beagletracks
    beagletracks Posts: 6,034 Member
    Introvert
    I just don’t understand why Motorsheen hasn’t chimed in to say he’s a pervert.
  • glassyo
    glassyo Posts: 7,739 Member
    Introvert
    beagletracks wrote: »
    I just don’t understand why Motorsheen hasn’t chimed in to say he’s a pervert.

    Maybe he's watching us...from a closet...naked.

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