Bought new clothes online

lornamarie57

I'm cheap and didn't want to buy the clothes twice so bought 2 sizes smaller than I have now. So...they fit but are tight. Which means I guess I have to keep wearing the too loose clothes for a bit longer.
I'm annoyed with myself but honestly I hate wasting $$ so at least I know I'll get a full wear out of these new smaller clothes (once I'm into them)

Down 42 pounds and 1 clothing size

titus2cat

I shop thrift shops. When I get to my goal weight, i will invest in new clothes. In the meantime, i keep finding great brands and like new clothes in local thriftshops and never pay more than five bucks for anything

MsCzar

Hope you will fit into the snug togs soon!
I lost the bulk of my weight during the early pandemic lockdown. As much as I love thrift shopping and saving money, it wasn't an option then. I bought inexpensive Time & Tru pants/jeans from Walmart online. I had never bought clothing from Walmart before and was pleasantly surprised. They were well-made, had good stretch and spanned several sizes, first from US 18-16, then 14-12.

kshama2001

Another vote for thrift shops and/or Walmart. Since I have a thing about fabric and want to touch the clothes before I buy them, shopping online can be very iffy for me.

I've seen items recently labeled "Jersey" and "Jersey cotton" - anyone else who is particular about fabric know how close to cotton these are?

I suppose it depends on the blend and the manufacturer:

https://www.wavefutura.com/en/blog/jersey#:~:text=Jersey fabric is classed as,depend on the knitting process.

I can even strongly prefer one 100% cotton flannel shirt from LL Bean over another 100% cotton flannel shirt from LL Bean

Thrift shops are a great source for flannel shirts, and I can touch them

ech9570

Hello everybody. I just reactivated my membership here. I have a hundred pounds to lose. Used to have 20 more than that, but I'm maintaining more or less at 223-225 for a long time. My diet history starts at age 4 when my mother put me on my first diet because the doctor told her I was over the 50th %'ile for my age. (She never addressed her own restrictive eating disorder, by the way). I turn 70 this year and have been on diets over and over and over and over again. I have signed up for Weight Watchers more times than I can count. Three times on Nutrisystem. I had a lap band about 10 years ago but it had to be removed. I lost more weight on the pre-op diet than after the lap band. More recently I tried Noom. Twice. Then did a mindful eating online group. I have alternated between wanting to just eat what I want, and wanting redemption through another diet. Here's the thing. I did get my weight down by seriously restricting my intake when I was about 20 and got to just below the lowest normal BMI for my height. My mother never noticed. Then I went through a very bad breakup - and started binge eating.
At this point, I am absolutely burned out with "dieting" and I realize finally that all my efforts at dieting are undermined by my inability to self-soothe and by my inability to meet my emotional needs. It's so ingrained that it's been hard for me to see this. Bottom line, I just feel like a total failure because I'm fat and I can't lose weight. I realize that this sounds childish - but, well, it comes from my early childhood - and there were other issues with my mother. She is now 98 and requires 24 hour home care. But the last time I visited - a couple weeks ago - I overheard her telling the caregiver, "She's so heavy." She only makes lucid comments every few days. So this helped me realize that this is also, for her, a deeply ingrained issue. So here's the plan: 1. Start building healthy menus, while not setting an expectation that I strictly follow the recommended calories every day. 2. Work on decreasing habit based overeating when it's not emotionally driven. 3. Better recognize when I feel emotionally needy, and look for other ways to meet those needs. 4. Not get stuck in old, embedded self hatred when I allow myself to eat for emotional reasons (e.g. Pint of Chocolate Hagen Daas). 5. Not let unmet emotional needs fester and find better ways of getting these needs met.
I didn't set out intending to write such a long post. But it was helpful to me to put these things down on paper, and I hope it is helpful to others. I'd appreciate any thoughts you might have about chronic "yo-yo dieting and emotional overeating.

ech9570

I meant to talk about the clothes thing. That post should be an introduction for a group. Sorry!
At one point I had plastic tubs stacked up in the spare bedroom labeled "12-14. "16-18". "14W - 16W" I have been able to maintain an 18W-20W for a number of years. But I've agonized over my clothes - nice things I could no longer wear, or bought too small. I've concluded over the years, including buying "motivation" clothes in smaller sizes, is that a focus or your current wardrobe is the best. Buy the best quality that you can find, use a "capsule" approach and make sure that your new clothes fit perfectly - going to a dressmaker for alterations if needed (or DIY). You've got about ten to fifteen pounds to drop to a new size and that should take several months. You can alter most clothes down about 2 times, so your current wardrobe should last you 3-6 months. I don't recommend buying "motional clothing. It adds unnecessary pressure and could contribute to leaving the program all together. So! I still have a couple sacks of smaller clothes and, as we speak, I'm getting ready to put then out on Poshmark.

TicTacToo

For childhood issues, sometimes it can be helpful to learn about schemas (ingrained ways of viewing yourself).

AnnPT77

ech9570 wrote: »

I meant to talk about the clothes thing. That post should be an introduction for a group. Sorry!
At one point I had plastic tubs stacked up in the spare bedroom labeled "12-14. "16-18". "14W - 16W" I have been able to maintain an 18W-20W for a number of years. But I've agonized over my clothes - nice things I could no longer wear, or bought too small. I've concluded over the years, including buying "motivation" clothes in smaller sizes, is that a focus or your current wardrobe is the best. Buy the best quality that you can find, use a "capsule" approach and make sure that your new clothes fit perfectly - going to a dressmaker for alterations if needed (or DIY). You've got about ten to fifteen pounds to drop to a new size and that should take several months. You can alter most clothes down about 2 times, so your current wardrobe should last you 3-6 months. I don't recommend buying "motional clothing. It adds unnecessary pressure and could contribute to leaving the program all together. So! I still have a couple sacks of smaller clothes and, as we speak, I'm getting ready to put then out on Poshmark.

I don't think the bolded is correct. I found that there were larger numbers of pounds between the larger sizes (like misses 20 to 18 in US sizes), and shockingly few pounds between smaller sizes (misses 8 to 6 happened in about a month, when I was losing pretty slowly because close to goal - but I needed to size down some slacks to look better at a special event). OP says she's down one size with 42 pounds loss, and two sizes down is still a bit too small, y'know?

At the beginning, when I was at an obese BMI, it didn't take several months to lose 10-15 pounds, either. Even at a then-sensible loss rate, the first 10 pounds took around a month (some water weight in that, for sure), 2nd 10 around a month and a half, . . . and it kept gradually slowing (intentionally) from there.

It's totally fine to lose slower than that, by any metric (i.e., nothing wrong with losing 10-15 pounds over multiple months even if substantially overweight, and it can be more sustainable). But faster can be safe/sustainable at high body weights, too.

kshama2001

ech9570 wrote: »

I meant to talk about the clothes thing. That post should be an introduction for a group. Sorry!

At one point I had plastic tubs stacked up in the spare bedroom labeled "12-14. "16-18". "14W - 16W"

I have been able to maintain an 18W-20W for a number of years. But I've agonized over my clothes - nice things I could no longer wear, or bought too small. I've concluded over the years, including buying "motivation" clothes in smaller sizes, is that a focus or your current wardrobe is the best. Buy the best quality that you can find, use a "capsule" approach and make sure that your new clothes fit perfectly - going to a dressmaker for alterations if needed (or DIY). You've got about ten to fifteen pounds to drop to a new size and that should take several months. You can alter most clothes down about 2 times, so your current wardrobe should last you 3-6 months. I don't recommend buying "motional clothing. It adds unnecessary pressure and could contribute to leaving the program all together. So! I still have a couple sacks of smaller clothes and, as we speak, I'm getting ready to put then out on Poshmark.

I admire your organization! I've mentally labeled tubs "too small" and "too big" but that's as far as I've gotten

I agree with not buying motivational clothing. My rational is because they might not fit for reasons other than weight, and you wouldn't know this until you've lost the weight, and then you've wasted the money.

At any size, I've never been able to wear all clothes that are that size. Pants might fit at the hips but not at the waist, etc. Because women's fashion is weird, if you have something that fits now, that same item in two sizes smaller might not fit when you've lost the weight. You might not lose weight the way a clothing manufacturer assumes your body should be shaped for your new size.

ythannah

kshama2001 wrote: »

Another vote for thrift shops and/or Walmart. Since I have a thing about fabric and want to touch the clothes before I buy them, shopping online can be very iffy for me.

I am the same, I typically shop by touching everything. I had a difficult time restraining myself during early pandemic days when they frowned upon a lot of merchandise-touching.

I have been known to select an article of clothing to buy and walk around the store absentmindedly petting it before I take it to the cashier.

hdieffenbach

If it works for your lifestyle--I've found that dresses work longer than pants. If a dress is slightly too big its more workable than pants.