Losing control on the weekends

dark_sparkles37019

I go way over my calories on the weekends. It doesn't help that my granny brought a lemon cake and left it, so I've been eating it.I'm also on haloperidol injection and tablets and never feel full. I need to reign this in. I went all out on the eating for Thanksgiving, which was just one day and that doesn't bother me.. However, there were also days of Thanksgiving leftovers including cake which I ate. Around my house if there's leftovers after a holiday it's eat it or starve, and it's just me and my mom.

neanderthin

A common occurrence. I hope you find the internal strength to make changes.

Jo_De24

Throw the cake away my friend.

AnnPT77

You say it's the weekends that are the problem, but also the cake (or similar temptations). Different things.

With the weekends, what is it:
* Being too restrictive during the week, setting up a restrict/binge cycle?
* Less structure (or different structure) on the weekends, with habitual triggers of overeating on the weekend, or letting loose on the weekend because of that?
* Boredom?
* Social triggers, i.e., being around friends or family who present treats (either as love language or sabotage or something else), or who eat in front of you and you feel like you're missing out, etc.
* . . . or?

Figure out why the weekends are an issue, and work on the trigger.
* Restrictive? Get a more sensible plan for the weekdays. No need to lose weight at warp speed. Keep it practical.
* Structure of your day? Work on finding a new kind of weekend. Maybe get out, take a walk, try some other new manageable activity, that sort of thing.
* Bored? Hobbies are good, especially something that requires clean hands (sketching, needlework, playing a musical instrument) or creates dirty ones (painting, carpentry, gardening).
* Social triggers? Either look for a different social set, or try out different responses to the triggers. If everyone's drinking soda pop, drink zero calorie - that sort of thing.
* Maybe eat at maintenance calories on the weekend, calorie deficit on weekdays, either as a transition strategy, or long-term, if that helps.

For the cake, yeah, you could throw it away. That's not "wasting good food", if the alternative is to add to your weight and hinder your health - the latter is the real waste. If you live in a suitable area, slice it up, wrap the slices, go to a park or other area where homeless folks hang out, give it away. Anything.

If that switch hasn't flipped in your head to convince you that your long term health is a priority - that you need to give your future self health, not just give your current self treats - you're not ready. I don't know how to flip that switch. (If I did, I'd bottle it, sell it, make millions.) That part's on you.

What I do know is that long term weight loss is about problem-solving: Analyzing current habits, finding tolerable (even happy) new ones that create a path to our long term goals. You can do it, if you commit to it. Just stick with the problem solving.

Best wishes!

avatiach

Maybe the turkey and sweet potatoes are "good food" but the cake could be thrown out if you can't stay away from it.
Some people do adjust their calories to eat more on the weekends...if you do that, you have to be prepared to eat less on the weekdays. I agree with @AnnPT77, problem solving is key. And in my opinion, just try to solve one thing at a time.

springlering62

If you can’t bring yourself to throw it out, try freezing it.

First of all, in the freezer is pretty much out of sight, out of mind.

Second, it takes a while to thaw enough to eat, which means I have to really want it to wait.

If you do pull something out to thaw, try drinking a glass or two of water before you eat it. Sometimes your body interprets dehydration as hunger cues. And getting water on the tummy can also be filling enough to make you eat less.

But tbh, when I started this, I threw out, donated or gave away anything that might be a trigger food. I seldom bake anymore, because I’ll eat the entire pan or batch of whatever I make, be it cookies, scones, bread, even homemade protein bars. If it’s in a pan, on the counter, it becomes fair game. I have to remove myself from play, so to speak. So I keep the counter clear, and pantry and fridge filled with healthier things to reach for.