Snoring partner

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  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 27,902 Member
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    Machka9 wrote: »
    honeybunsteal wrote: »
    How to get sleep n stay asleep with a person who snores all night every night. They claim they don't snore even when I record it. Plus he won't seek medical attention. There is no spare bedroom

    Separate beds with our heads in the opposite corners of the room.
    Earplugs.
    siberiantarragon wrote: »
    tomcustombuilder wrote: »
    Nudge em. They'll wake up and maybe turn over. If it's reaaly bad and you aren't getting your sleep in that you need then it's the couch

    When I tried that with my partner he would roll back over onto his back as soon as he went back to sleep, LOL.

    In my case he acknowledges he snores but won't go to a sleep specialist. He says that he's going to go to one but then never does it. I'm not sure why that is. Part of it is I once went to a sleep specialist for my insomnia who was really mean and condescending, and my partner was there, so now he thinks all sleep specialists will be that way for some reason. Part of it might be fear.

    Where do you even find a sleep specialist?

    I told my primary I was having problems with sleep and she referred me.
  • BriansTrident
    BriansTrident Posts: 443 Member
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    My ex broke her nose playing volley ball and after that she used to snore a lot. It can be quite bothersome so as someone who had to deal with it to a point either sleep in a different room or use earphones. You may recommend he get tested for sleep apnea
  • UkinBtheSun
    UkinBtheSun Posts: 70 Member
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    My husband is prone to snoring and I too have often slept on the couch over the past 20 years together. I've found most couches are uncomfortable, and often I could still hear him snoring even with our bedroom door shut. The couch has not been an ideal solution for me and I understand your dilemma. I observed when my hubby is very tired, has more than two beers, over ate, or ate late at night, his snoring increased. Fortunately, I have a wonderful husband that changed those habits and it has cut his snoring down a lot. Sleep is so important for our mental and physical health, and I knew he was not getting his best sleep when he was snoring either.

    Some things that have worked for us are, for him to sleep in the living room on a reclining chair, and to take naps on the weekend to catch up on his sleep. My husband gets up at 3:30 a.m. for work and by the weekend he needs the extra rest. Some nights when the snoring is particularly loud, despite his best attempts, I sleep in our RV that we have parked in the driveway. Perhaps you could get a sofa bed, so at least you can be comfortable? I hope you find some of this useful, and after reading all the responses, it helps to know you're not alone.
    Sending good thoughts.
  • westrich20940
    westrich20940 Posts: 878 Member
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    If you can - sleep in separate bedrooms. Honestly, sleep is so so so important and sacrificing your sleep quality in order to be in the same bed/room as a partner isn't really a good idea. Many couples who have ultimately chosen to sleep in different beds (or at least with separate bedding like blankets and such) or even separate rooms report that their relationships are better - and didn't suffer at all.

    This isn't something everyone would be able to do but there are def some good things about it right off the bat: you have your own space that you can be alone, if one is sick - they can avoid getting the other sick... especially if you have children and one of you needs to be well enough to deal, gets rid of issues with one partner waking the other up due to snoring or moving or getting up/down often in the night...or if they have different sleep schedules. You can make your own decisions about how you deal with doing other intimate activities but most couples who don't share beds don't report having any decline in their physical intimacy.

    So,...that could work for you and your partner?
  • briscogun
    briscogun Posts: 1,135 Member
    edited August 2023
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    So my wife complained about my snoring for a while. She finally convinced to take one of those sleep studies at home (my PCP ordered one and it was sent to my house). It was very uncomfortable wearing all the straps and probes, but...

    DOCTOR: "We have your sleep study results."

    ME: "So what's the verdict?"

    DOCTOR: "You stopped breathing 43 times."

    ME: "Uh..."

    So yeah, I now have a sleep apnea machine. I sleep horrible without it. I will get 5-6 solid uninterrupted hours each night, and my wife hasn't threatened to kill me or divorce me since. Win-win.

    If a man refuses to get help and lets his wife suffer like that, I'm sorry but he's not a man. That's a jerk. Hope the OP got help for him, or took kickboxing lessons to help adjust his attitude!
  • xbowhunter
    xbowhunter Posts: 988 Member
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    We now sleep in separate rooms because we both snore and I was waking up nightly to move to the other bedroom anyway. Unfortunately this has also put a stop to our intimacy as well but I guess that happens after 34 years of marriage... lol
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 27,902 Member
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    xbowhunter wrote: »
    We now sleep in separate rooms because we both snore and I was waking up nightly to move to the other bedroom anyway. Unfortunately this has also put a stop to our intimacy as well but I guess that happens after 34 years of marriage... lol

    Yes, separate bedrooms certainly does diminish spontaneous intimacy. We watch TV in his bedroom at night and I rejoin him for cuddle time in the AM.

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