Why do i feel so guilty eating so much.
This is not exactly a common issue i am sure. I woke up this morning and could not get this out of my head. Most of you know i bodybuild which requires a very high amount of protein. Even though i am set up with a calorie deficit i still end up eating a lot of food. We have very limited funds and I feel that eating so much food is being selfish in a sort. We have bill collectors knocking at our door and i am concerned with getting enough food to eat. I feel guilty every time i open a can of tuna. My wife does not give me a guilt trip but she does get concerned on having enough groceries. I really don't mind being a poorer folk, sht happens in life that we can not control and my disability was one in ours. When i do not work out I am eating only 1950 calories, which for me is really low. Maybe i can't afford to build my body at this point in time? Anyways more or less just a post to get things off my chest.
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Maybe you could look for cheaper alternatives?
Try frozen meats etc? I don't know a lot about bodybuilding, so Im not 100% sure on what you can and can't have. Definatly put your family first though! Yes you would like a dream body, but as long as you are a healthy weight, thats all that matters right?
Sorry - I just realised, you said you have debt collectors at your door.... Yes you should be cutting back!!!0 -
The chicken i buy is frozen and its 5$ a bag, honestly I don't know how much tighter i could cut thingsMaybe you could look for cheaper alternatives?
Try frozen meats etc? I don't know a lot about bodybuilding, so Im not 100% sure on what you can and can't have. Definatly put your family first though! Yes you would like a dream body, but as long as you are a healthy weight, thats all that matters right?
Sorry - I just realised, you said you have debt collectors at your door.... Yes you should be cutting back!!!0 -
You said you have debt collectors calling at your house, that's it! Stop trying to bulk up, or whatever it is (Sorry for my ignorance there, I genuinly do not know alot about bodybuilding), and just be healthy! Maintain the weight you have. You don't need all the protein etc.... Eat what your wife eats! If you are married, its a partnership.... She's worried about paying the bills and your worried about getting your protein? Weigh it up and sort your prioritys out!!
So sorry if i sound harsh, I feel for you, but i feel for you wife more!!!
Just maintain, be fit, be healthy, then when your in a better position, go back to bodybuilding.0 -
The cheapest and best
Ramen noodles + tuna .
Sorry to hear about your financial struggles mate , keep strong and don't let anything bring you down . Life throws these obstacles , just show life how tough you really are.0 -
I don't eat ramen noodles they upset my stomach and the tuna we get is 1.17$ a can. This really is just my mindset, my wife thinks i am crazy, before our diet we would only eat 1 meal a day (supper) just to keep from spending money on groceries. Ever since i got hurt and couldn't work we have been dodging bill collectors, hell we have already gone bankrupt 8 years ago.A life lesson. Just because you never did anything wrong, doesn't mean you won't suffer.The cheapest and best
Ramen noodles + tuna .
Sorry to hear about your financial struggles mate , keep strong and don't let anything bring you down . Life throws these obstacles , just show life how tough you really are.0 -
I know! Its always us good guys that get the bad luck isn't it?
I appreciate your in a hard position, and you really want to do this for yourself.... But i think you should stop it asap, put your wife/home/bills/debts first, and then work on your body from their!
Seriously.... You answering your own question here... You need to stop.0 -
If your wife was trying to lose weight and was buying special diet products that cost more than normal food, would you expect her to stop that until you got the bills under control? If the answer is yes - then you need to rethink your bulking foods.
We all need to have something for ourselves, and being broke shouldn't mean stopping living and simplyexisting, but if this is an area where you could save some cash and get the bill collectors off your *kitten*, then you need to think about it.0 -
If your wife was trying to lose weight and was buying special diet products that cost more than normal food, would you expect her to stop that until you got the bills under control? If the answer is yes - then you need to rethink your bulking foods.
We all need to have something for ourselves, and being broke shouldn't mean stopping living and simplyexisting, but if this is an area where you could save some cash and get the bill collectors off your *kitten*, then you need to think about it.
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OP - I had to give up the gym last year as I was far too broke, managed to rejoin a few months ago (at a new place at half the price!) now things are a bit more stable, I hope you find a middle ground, I know how much it sucks having money issues....0
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Actually there isnt we live on a total of about 1600$ a month, how little do you think i should spend every 2weeks on food. Btw this was a diet for her, i just jumped onboard and since i wasn't filling up with useless carbs i decided to eat proper which was the result of this mindset. Sure i can go back to eating only when she gets home from work but that will only result in 1 of us being healthy. We are always going to be in dept because i was screwed by the system. I made my peace with that. I will go hungry if it means my wife meeting her weight goal, she has 100lbs to drop.If your wife was trying to lose weight and was buying special diet products that cost more than normal food, would you expect her to stop that until you got the bills under control? If the answer is yes - then you need to rethink your bulking foods.
We all need to have something for ourselves, and being broke shouldn't mean stopping living and simplyexisting, but if this is an area where you could save some cash and get the bill collectors off your *kitten*, then you need to think about it.0 -
Actually there isnt we live on a total of about 1600$ a month, how little do you think i should spend every 2weeks on food. Btw this was a diet for her, i just jumped onboard and since i wasn't filling up with useless carbs i decided to eat proper which was the result of this mindset. Sure i can go back to eating only when she gets home from work but that will only result in 1 of us being healthy. We are always going to be in dept because i was screwed by the system. I made my peace with that. I will go hungry if it means my wife meeting her weight goal, she has 100lbs to drop.If your wife was trying to lose weight and was buying special diet products that cost more than normal food, would you expect her to stop that until you got the bills under control? If the answer is yes - then you need to rethink your bulking foods.
We all need to have something for ourselves, and being broke shouldn't mean stopping living and simplyexisting, but if this is an area where you could save some cash and get the bill collectors off your *kitten*, then you need to think about it.
Aw thats lovely of you to speak to highly of her!!!
1600 sounds like average... but im from the UK so i guess thats half of what it would be here?
Maybe continue eating healthy, but cut back on the expensive (relative to your financial situation) proteins etc? If either of you are at a gym, cancel and go running/jogging/walking/working out together?0 -
My husband also wants to get into body building, which would require eating an astonishing amount of food.
Although we do not struggle, we definitely cannot afford for him to eat 5 chicken breasts a day with copious amount of tuna etc. So for now he has had to make do with a shake, which for 2 scoops and full fat milk is around 700 calories - maybe you could do that?
Also, if you are living as tightly as you possibly can then don't feel so guilty about it, it's not like you don't give a ****, you are trying. Hang in there.0 -
Actually there isnt we live on a total of about 1600$ a month, how little do you think i should spend every 2weeks on food. Btw this was a diet for her, i just jumped onboard and since i wasn't filling up with useless carbs i decided to eat proper which was the result of this mindset. Sure i can go back to eating only when she gets home from work but that will only result in 1 of us being healthy. We are always going to be in dept because i was screwed by the system. I made my peace with that. I will go hungry if it means my wife meeting her weight goal, she has 100lbs to drop.If your wife was trying to lose weight and was buying special diet products that cost more than normal food, would you expect her to stop that until you got the bills under control? If the answer is yes - then you need to rethink your bulking foods.
We all need to have something for ourselves, and being broke shouldn't mean stopping living and simplyexisting, but if this is an area where you could save some cash and get the bill collectors off your *kitten*, then you need to think about it.
Well, you certainly shouldn't jeapordise your health to save money - there's no point saving a buck if your doing it to your physical detriment. Your first post read like you were spending over and above a normal healthy diet, hence me saying that IF this was an area you could save cash, then think about it. I never said you should stop eating well.0 -
My husband also wants to get into body building, which would require eating an astonishing amount of food.
Although we do not struggle, we definitely cannot afford for him to eat 5 chicken breasts a day with copious amount of tuna etc. So for now he has had to make do with a shake, which for 2 scoops and full fat milk is around 700 calories - maybe you could do that?
Also, if you are living as tightly as you possibly can then don't feel so guilty about it, it's not like you don't give a ****, you are trying. Hang in there.
Great idea!
Didn't think of suggesting shakes!!! 0 -
OP: If you google: bodybuilding on a budget, there are tons and tons of articles, videos, and blogs dedicated to the very thing you are struggling with.
Best of luck finding the balance between budgeting and building 0 -
Good on you!
And me too--0 -
I don't have any answers, but I hope that both you and your wife can find a way to be healthy that is within your budget. Health should be a priority, and being 100lbs overweight is not only unhealthy but could also lead to more expenses down the road.
Sounds like you need to consider what health means to you -- fitness, strength, muscle hypertrophy, or simply being a healthy weight. Undereating is unlikely to be healthy for you in the long term, but maybe there is a middle ground between depriving yourself and bulking.0 -
Consume more whey and eggs. You can buy 4 lb cans of tuna from Walmart. Protein is somewhat over hyped anyway.0
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My husband also wants to get into body building, which would require eating an astonishing amount of food.
Although we do not struggle, we definitely cannot afford for him to eat 5 chicken breasts a day with copious amount of tuna etc. So for now he has had to make do with a shake, which for 2 scoops and full fat milk is around 700 calories - maybe you could do that?
Also, if you are living as tightly as you possibly can then don't feel so guilty about it, it's not like you don't give a ****, you are trying. Hang in there.
Great idea! Didn't think of suggesting shakes!!!
I eat 1 chicken breast a day 1 can of tuna and 1 shake unless i go to the gym then i have 2.
Chicken is cut up into 3-4 100gram servings for max. effect to absorb. My gym membership is with the Ymca and they only charge me 10$ a month. Since i can not spend a large amount of time on my feet, all my exercises with the exception of legs are done seated. So jogging is sort of out of the question anyways lol. Believe it or not this is helping i am just realizing how foolish i am being considering i am not eating a large amount of food. I sure feel better then when i was only eating 1 time a day thats for sure.0 -
Consume more whey and eggs. You can buy 4 lb cans of tuna from Walmart. Protein is somewhat over hyped anyway.
Genius!! U must be an assshole too?0 -
I don't want to sound like an *kitten* coz I don't mean this in a judgemental way, is there not another job you could do that wouldn't affect your disability? Surely if you can lift heavy weights for fun then you must be able to get a job doing something?0
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My husband also wants to get into body building, which would require eating an astonishing amount of food.
Although we do not struggle, we definitely cannot afford for him to eat 5 chicken breasts a day with copious amount of tuna etc. So for now he has had to make do with a shake, which for 2 scoops and full fat milk is around 700 calories - maybe you could do that?
Also, if you are living as tightly as you possibly can then don't feel so guilty about it, it's not like you don't give a ****, you are trying. Hang in there.
Great idea! Didn't think of suggesting shakes!!!
I eat 1 chicken breast a day 1 can of tuna and 1 shake unless i go to the gym then i have 2.
Chicken is cut up into 3-4 100gram servings for max. effect to absorb. My gym membership is with the Ymca and they only charge me 10$ a month. Since i can not spend a large amount of time on my feet, all my exercises with the exception of legs are done seated. So jogging is sort of out of the question anyways lol. Believe it or not this is helping i am just realizing how foolish i am being considering i am not eating a large amount of food. I sure feel better then when i was only eating 1 time a day thats for sure.
You shouldn't feel guilty for eating 1 chicken breast a day, 1 can of tuna and a shake. You would be doing more harm than good if you only eat 1 meal a day.0 -
I don't want to sound like an *kitten* coz I don't mean this in a judgemental way, is there not another job you could do that wouldn't affect your disability? Surely if you can lift heavy weights for fun then you must be able to get a job doing something?
Yeah we looked into this as well. Ok well errr, without getting too personal. I was born with a tumor on my left butt cheek, had it removed when i was young but it left nerves at the surface of the skin. I can't sit very long. I was a mechanic for a production plant before the accident. I did only standing/ walking/lifting. My computer chair is actually a love seat (only thing with enough cushion for my nerve issue) I know i am all kinds of broken but you only get one body. I am going to make sure i drive this puppy into the ground before i am done.0 -
Actually there isnt we live on a total of about 1600$ a month, how little do you think i should spend every 2weeks on food. Btw this was a diet for her, i just jumped onboard and since i wasn't filling up with useless carbs i decided to eat proper which was the result of this mindset. Sure i can go back to eating only when she gets home from work but that will only result in 1 of us being healthy. We are always going to be in dept because i was screwed by the system. I made my peace with that. I will go hungry if it means my wife meeting her weight goal, she has 100lbs to drop.If your wife was trying to lose weight and was buying special diet products that cost more than normal food, would you expect her to stop that until you got the bills under control? If the answer is yes - then you need to rethink your bulking foods.
We all need to have something for ourselves, and being broke shouldn't mean stopping living and simplyexisting, but if this is an area where you could save some cash and get the bill collectors off your *kitten*, then you need to think about it.
I'm sorry, but you spend $1600 on food? In a month? If it's just you and your wife, you can definitely cut that back. My husband and I started out with a budget of $200 a month for food and bumped it up to $500 after our son was born. If you just can't see cutting back, maybe look into some local food pantries? If you're willing to sit through a church sermon a lot of churches will give you food. There's also government assistance and soup kitchens.0 -
I saw a youtube video once about a raw food bodybuilder, a taxi driver, who hardly had any money. Maybe try to find it. OK he's vegan, you are not, but still, might be something interesting to see :-)
Any possibility to buy in bulk? Usually it is cheaper that way. OK, you pay a bit more in the beginning, but then you don't have to pay for food for a couple of weeks. No idea what you can get where from your side of the globe, I'm at the other side hehe :-)0 -
I don't want to sound like an *kitten* coz I don't mean this in a judgemental way, is there not another job you could do that wouldn't affect your disability? Surely if you can lift heavy weights for fun then you must be able to get a job doing something?
I thought this too, but didn't know how to say it without sounding like a *kitten* too.0 -
Dude. What the hell is up with your money problems. You make it sound like this has been going on for a while. Do you guys need a budget?0
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Actually there isnt we live on a total of about 1600$ a month, how little do you think i should spend every 2weeks on food. Btw this was a diet for her, i just jumped onboard and since i wasn't filling up with useless carbs i decided to eat proper which was the result of this mindset. Sure i can go back to eating only when she gets home from work but that will only result in 1 of us being healthy. We are always going to be in dept because i was screwed by the system. I made my peace with that. I will go hungry if it means my wife meeting her weight goal, she has 100lbs to drop.If your wife was trying to lose weight and was buying special diet products that cost more than normal food, would you expect her to stop that until you got the bills under control? If the answer is yes - then you need to rethink your bulking foods.
We all need to have something for ourselves, and being broke shouldn't mean stopping living and simplyexisting, but if this is an area where you could save some cash and get the bill collectors off your *kitten*, then you need to think about it.
I'm sorry, but you spend $1600 on food? In a month? If it's just you and your wife, you can definitely cut that back. My husband and I started out with a budget of $200 a month for food and bumped it up to $500 after our son was born. If you just can't see cutting back, maybe look into some local food pantries? If you're willing to sit through a church sermon a lot of churches will give you food. There's also government assistance and soup kitchens.
I think you'll find he means they live on $1600 total a month - like for everything. Not just food.0 -
Actually there isnt we live on a total of about 1600$ a month, how little do you think i should spend every 2weeks on food. Btw this was a diet for her, i just jumped onboard and since i wasn't filling up with useless carbs i decided to eat proper which was the result of this mindset. Sure i can go back to eating only when she gets home from work but that will only result in 1 of us being healthy. We are always going to be in dept because i was screwed by the system. I made my peace with that. I will go hungry if it means my wife meeting her weight goal, she has 100lbs to drop.If your wife was trying to lose weight and was buying special diet products that cost more than normal food, would you expect her to stop that until you got the bills under control? If the answer is yes - then you need to rethink your bulking foods.
We all need to have something for ourselves, and being broke shouldn't mean stopping living and simplyexisting, but if this is an area where you could save some cash and get the bill collectors off your *kitten*, then you need to think about it.
I'm sorry, but you spend $1600 on food? In a month? If it's just you and your wife, you can definitely cut that back. My husband and I started out with a budget of $200 a month for food and bumped it up to $500 after our son was born. If you just can't see cutting back, maybe look into some local food pantries? If you're willing to sit through a church sermon a lot of churches will give you food. There's also government assistance and soup kitchens.
I think you'll find he means they live on $1600 total a month - like for everything. Not just food.
Oooh, that makes more sense. Thank you. I was a little flabbergasted. That's right about where we were until a few months ago - Definitely look into getting assistance.0 -
Your inspirations (and I quote)
- having that totally sexy 6 pack.
- Getting looks from 20+ year olds that would never look at me twice in the past
- Supporting my wife in her weight loss journey.
- Overall better life style.
Please take this in the positive way it is intended, after all, you posted the question and are looking for advice... you are a 42 year old married man and you are inspired by "having that totally sexy 6 pack" and "getting looks from 20+ year olds that would never look at you in the past" and now you are finding it financially difficult to meet your inspirations and you want us to validate your lifestyle choices?
First I suggest you take a hard look at your inspirations. If you are working so hard to look like Popeye (not a bad thing for body builders, but unless you are in a body building contest that will net you financial gain) you will not achieve your fourth inspiration (aspiration) of an "OVERALL BETTER LIFE STYLE". You (and your wife) just can't be living a better overall life style if you are feeling guilt over bulking up because bulking up is causing you financial hardship that results in your avoidance of bill collectors.
One last comment; this coming from someone who (at one time) also thought it inspirational to "get looks from 20+ year olds that would never look at you in the past" those 20+ year olds are not looking at you in awe and thinking wow, that's what I want to be... they are looking at you and thinking wow, that guy looks OK for an old guy! Not that 42 is old mind you... but to a 20 something... a 42 year old IS OLD!
Good luck to you in your journey and hopes you find a happy medium where you ultimately feel good about yourself and your choices.0
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