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JimiSellars

Hi everybody
I am finally back to my proper weight but I need to learn to live right. After losing my wife to a drunk driver and getting cancer my weight has really fluctuated a lot. I hope this app will help

AnnPT77

Hi, and welcome!

It can work. For me, once that switch in my head flipped to "I mean it, this time", improvement was pretty straightforward . . . not psychologically easy every second, by far, of course . . . but doable, with patience and persistence, including the willingness to regroup and recommit if things went temporarily sideways.

Though it's 20+ years in the past for me, I can relate to some extent with your experience. In my mid-40s, I lost my husband to esophageal cancer, then got stage III breast cancer myself. It was . . . to use a term I coined back then . . . sub-recreational. But it did get smaller in my rear-view mirror, and after a time I found ways to have a very different but still satisfying life.

Though it was wrenching in other ways I think it did help me that my husband and I faced his death together, so I had the gift of understanding that he deeply wanted me to go on without him, and be happy. If I could give up that gift to have him back, or even to spare him the pain of the last weeks . . . well, you know what I'm going to say. But things are the way they are, not the way I might wish they could've been.

Congratulations on taking these steps to turn a corner and move ahead. I'm cheering for you to succeed!