I Hate My Image

BobbiDragon

I have a huge trip coming up in a couple months with my husband’s side of the family. The problem is, they are extremely outdoorsy and well toned. My husband just had to marry someone who would rather curl up in a blanket, reading a book, than go for a ten mile hike. And I have the weight to go with it. I don’t want to be fat in the family photos when we do go out. I am 156 and I am trying to get close to 120lbs. I am constantly starving myself, doing HIIT workouts, drinking a ton of water everyday…and the weight wants to stay. I guess if I’d get more than 4-5 hours of sleep a night it might help, but any advice?

yirara

I assume you mean 156cm? That gives you a totally perfect BMI of 22. Don't worry about your weight. You're fine.

sollyn23l2

yirara wrote: »

I assume you mean 156cm? That gives you a totally perfect BMI of 22. Don't worry about your weight. You're fine.

I think they mean they are currently 156 lbs., trying to get down to 120?

In which case....not knowing how tall you are, I don't know if it's appropriate or not. But, in 2 months, you could realistically lose 8 pounds if you really work at it. But, I personally wouldn't worry about what his family may think. He married you, not his family.

SuzySunshine99

Assuming you WANT to join your husband's family on some hikes, you should focus on conditioning yourself for the activity, and not worrying about weight.

That means getting good hiking shoes and going out on some progressively longer and more strenuous walks and hikes. The best way to prepare for an activity is to DO the activity. Weight loss will not automatically make hiking easier (and might make it harder if you do it in an unhealthy way). Starving yourself and not getting enough sleep is not going to help you get ready for this trip.

However, if you DON'T really want to go hiking, you shouldn't be pressured to by your husband or his family. On the trip, you could probably say, "You know, hiking is not really my thing, so I'm going to find a place to read a book/enjoy the scenery/walk around town, etc, and I'll meet up with you when you're done."

yirara

sollyn23l2 wrote: »

yirara wrote: »

I assume you mean 156cm? That gives you a totally perfect BMI of 22. Don't worry about your weight. You're fine.

I think they mean they are currently 156 lbs., trying to get down to 120?

In which case....not knowing how tall you are, I don't know if it's appropriate or not. But, in 2 months, you could realistically lose 8 pounds if you really work at it. But, I personally wouldn't worry about what his family may think. He married you, not his family.

Oh yes, now it makes more sense. Should not answer questions after getting up. TO, can you give us more info? Unless you're very petite 156lbs is not that heavy.

ninerbuff

BobbiDragon wrote: »

I have a huge trip coming up in a couple months with my husband’s side of the family. The problem is, they are extremely outdoorsy and well toned. My husband just had to marry someone who would rather curl up in a blanket, reading a book, than go for a ten mile hike. And I have the weight to go with it. I don’t want to be fat in the family photos when we do go out. I am 156 and I am trying to get close to 120lbs. I am constantly starving myself, doing HIIT workouts, drinking a ton of water everyday…and the weight wants to stay. I guess if I’d get more than 4-5 hours of sleep a night it might help, but any advice?

Join a gym and get a trainer. You WON'T lose 36lbs in 2 months, but you may lose 10lbs if you do it right. Can't tell you how many times I cross people who try to do it on their own and don't do great, then get a trainer and they can.



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springlering62

Don’t be so harsh on yourself. We are our own hardest critics.

There’s no law that says you have to enjoy what the in-laws enjoy. Your husband thought enough of you and whatever you do to refrain from getting a clone-wife. Heck. Secretly, I bet most of em don’t enjoy it anyway and are doing it to please someone else in the family anyway.

Our daughter married the neighbors’ son, and we have a real window into this kind of behavior. MIL finally out her foot down after forty years and refuses to vacation with her husband. She’s “over” the stuff he needs to do to prove his youth, lol. Same reason we’ve turned down multiple shared vacation suggestions, even to keep the peace. (Parents, don’t let your kids marry the neighbor,lol! Neighbor-in-Law relationships are just weird!!!)

If you want to read, read. Shop? Shop. Ask if anyone would like to keep you company, that you’ll put the teapot on.

As far as “image”, think about it. What is an “image”? It’s the face you present to the world,and likely not even the real you. Do you really want to invest anxiety in a mask to please others? Energy is finite. Don’t waste it on hating yourself, or your “image” by proxy.

Just be you, baby!!!!