Ive cheated

Why have I cheated three times in one day and I just started?


  • sollyn23l2
    sollyn23l2 Posts: 1,648 Member
    Because you made the choice to. The question is why you made that choice. Nobody else can answer that for you. At the end, it comes down to your desire and motivation to lose weight. If you don't have an internal motivation to not cheat, you'll keep doing it. All day, every day.
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,031 Member
    It takes time (and grace) to build new habits.

    Two steps forward and one step back. I mean, we all do it.
  • lynn_glenmont
    lynn_glenmont Posts: 9,994 Member
    How are you defining cheating? If you have some rigid list of acceptable foods that don't allow you to ever have any of the things you really like, you may be making it too hard for yourself. If you set your goal to "eat in a range of X to Y calories per day," it's impossible to cheat three times in one day.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,610 Member
    The plan you're trying to do DOESN'T fit the way you like to eat.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
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  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 27,981 Member
    What time did you have your first cheat and what had you eaten prior to that?
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 32,504 Member
    "Cheat" isn't a helpful framing.

    If you ate more than you'd planned, or more than you'd prefer to have eaten, it's not a sin that requires expiation. It's a situation to be analyzed, learned from, and an adjusted plan made.

    Presumably, you had a plan. What derailed it? Over-restriction, hunger, habit, boredom, fatigue, . . . something else? Consider what triggered the unplanned or undesired eating. Think about how to handle that triggering situation differently next time it occurs. Rehearse that plan vividly in your head, like a mini-movie. Spend no more than 10 minutes on that whole thought process, but be serious about it, mean it.

    Then let it go, until the triggering circumstances happen again. Then, implement your new plan. Did it work? Great, put that solution in your continuing routine, keep practicing it until it's automatic habit. Didn't work? Repeat the "analysis, new plan, rehearsal" process and try again.

    Just don't give up. Keep improving. Be dogged. Commit. You can surprise yourself with your long-term success, if you just keep problem-solving.

    This is all just practical, nuts and bolts stuff. It's not about being good and bad, sin and expiation, or character faults. It's just a process of planning, executing, assessing and adjusting until you find the tactics that work best for you personally.

    I'm cheering for you to succeed, sincerely. The effort is worth it. You're worth it.

  • csplatt
    csplatt Posts: 1,036 Member
    edited September 2023
    What do you mean by cheat? Don’t set rigid rules. I eat chocolate chips and ice cream weekly and sometimes Lays potato chips — I just use a food scale and log the calories.
  • 8rbncr8mv5
    8rbncr8mv5 Posts: 7 Member
    Considering it cheating is a rough mindset for me. How did it make you feel? Did eating those things make your body feel good, or did it make you feel sluggish and have a tummy ache? I try to focus on it from a health and a “how do I feel” standpoint versus a “cheating” or “I ate bad” standpoint and that has helped me a lot. I now eat whatever food I want and don’t have to feel guilty about it, I just have 1-2 cookies instead of 5-6 and I can still feel good without the need to berate myself for “cheating”