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  • PaperDoll_
    PaperDoll_ Posts: 32,846 Member
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    itchmyTwitch wrote: »
    PaperDoll_ wrote: »
    lbrockman2197 wrote: »
    My boyfriend told me a couple days ago that our relationship won’t last til next month because I recently decided to be abstinent. But yesterday he took me on this amazing date. He gave me valentines gifts, took me to a nice Italian dinner and belted songs in the car with me. I love him but if he’s serious I don’t know what to do. Why’s he sending me mixed signals?

    In all seriousness, I’m very sorry your boyfriend lost both his hands. It’s probably been hard for him to adapt. ❤️

    I think I missed that chapter

    I added it. Isn’t this one of those continue on the story posts? 🤔
  • itchmyTwitch
    itchmyTwitch Posts: 3,906 Member
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    You would be amazed how he compensates
  • piggy_smalls
    piggy_smalls Posts: 1,642 Member
    edited February 19
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    cowsfan12 wrote: »
    itchmyTwitch wrote: »
    Revolu7 wrote: »
    lbrockman2197 wrote: »
    My boyfriend told me a couple days ago that our relationship won’t last til next month because I recently decided to be abstinent. But yesterday he took me on this amazing date. He gave me valentines gifts, took me to a nice Italian dinner and belted songs in the car with me. I love him but if he’s serious I don’t know what to do. Why’s he sending me mixed signals?

    Were you always abstinent in this relationship or is it something you changed in the relationship recently? You of course have every right to make your own decisions on your body and beliefs. Any one who cares about you should respect this. However, in an adult relationship if a dynamic of it changes where one party is no longer happy, that party has every right to not want to be in the relationship any longer. Respect goes both ways. And difference in beleifs on what is important to a relationship should be respected on both sides.

    I would add this. If you were always abstinent in your relationship then your bf knew what was up and should not have a problem with it now. Also, if he is trying to manipulate you to try and change your mind that is a d nozzle move and you should kick him to the curb.

    As an adult a person has every right to say i do not want to be in a sexless relationship just as much as someone that says they want to be abstinent. The only thing that each has to do is respect the opinion of each other.

    That’s a good point

    Something about this post tingles my Spidey senses

    I always assume these are troll post - but hopefully it works out for op

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  • lbrockman2197
    lbrockman2197 Posts: 10 Member
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    glassyo wrote: »
    He was hoping you'd reconsider putting out if he wowed you.

    Is this decision a temporary thing?
    glassyo wrote: »
    He was hoping you'd reconsider putting out if he wowed you.

    Is this decision a temporary thing?
    glassyo wrote: »
    He was hoping you'd reconsider putting out if he wowed you.

    Is this decision a temporary thing?

    I wasn’t always abstinent, no. But I have been for a bit and recently he’s been pressuring me more and more to do it. While he’s said he’d support me and that he’s proud of me, he seems to be contradicting himself.

  • lbrockman2197
    lbrockman2197 Posts: 10 Member
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    Oopsies responded to the wrong one 🤷‍♀️
  • lbrockman2197
    lbrockman2197 Posts: 10 Member
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    glassyo wrote: »
    He was hoping you'd reconsider putting out if he wowed you.

    Is this decision a temporary thing?

    No
  • lbrockman2197
    lbrockman2197 Posts: 10 Member
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    ninerbuff wrote: »
    Sex is very important to me. So if all of a sudden the decision of my SO was to abstain from having it, then I would likely move on.
    But this doesn't sound like an adult relationship.

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    Errrrmm no we are both adults 😂
  • Adventurista
    Adventurista Posts: 462 Member
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    Sorry he continues to pressure. Imagine you have told him why. Some things are deal breakers, some not, and that is really only something you can determine.

    Fwiw, coercion and ultimatims, manipulations were dealbreakers for me. And no regrets. Hope you wake up one morning and know, either way.

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