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Moroset905
Moroset905 Posts: 6 Member
Hello,

So I have way more day ones then I should, but that's okay because it means I keep trying. I haven't given up, this is a road that I've been on for so long i couldn't even tell you when it began. I want change. What's different I don't know, nothing, everything but I'll never stop trying.

I have workout machines, bands, and mats I have videos, YouTube and apps.... I have access to gyms and running paths. I have everything i need i just need to start, which seems to be the hardest part. I think i need a friend to go through this with but i really just need to start. So this will be it. i will come here and even to say i didn't quite this will be my accountability place. No judgement, just a reminder that I've never quite and i still won't.

I have plenty of reasons to do this; my health, my family, to just look amazing in the little black dress and all these reasons are valid. I just need to make time like i make time for my family and friend, like I make time for work, to pray, for school and for therapy. Now I will make time for the physical.

Will this be the difference from the last time I tried, I don't know it could be, it could be the start to another day one that will be added to the pile of day ones that I have. This could be the last of my day ones... how great would that be.

Sincerely,
Msdayone

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  • neanderthin
    neanderthin Posts: 10,026 Member
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    Well they keep saying eat less and move more, maybe you can find the formula where almost all fail, I mean they must be right and suspect the world of overweight people just aren't doing it right. :#
  • Hobartlemagne
    Hobartlemagne Posts: 306 Member
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    Put exercise on your calendar. Don't just squeeze it in at the last minute each day.
  • girlwithcurls2
    girlwithcurls2 Posts: 2,276 Member
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    @penjen2010, one thing I sometimes do is tell myself, "Sure! You can have that! Log it first though..." ;) Oh boy. The number of times I stop and think, "Nah. It's not worth it." This is why I'll probably have to log for a lot longer than I want to. It just holds myself accountable to actually see the numbers. If I run off the rails at a work party or lunch or whatever, what's left for dinner? And eating a 150 calorie dinner is not an option. And I'm not "earning" food either, so a 2 hour workout to make a plateful of treats fit isn't an option either.

    We were at a farewell dinner last night for friends who are leaving. It was an incredible dinner, full of delicious, amazing things that I don't know how to cook. Yes, I did make sure I had a good workout yesterday to bank some extra calories, and to stick to my routine, but did I enjoy myself? Yes. Every morsel. And today, back to the routine.

    We've got this. It isn't just physical. There's a mental and often emotional component too. Figuring all of that out takes time. But if we do the work, then we get more time in the end (hopefully!) :smile:
  • ech9570
    ech9570 Posts: 15 Member
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    Well here I am back again. I seem to get stuck in a cycle of over-controlling my eating, quitting whatever program I'm on (MFP, WW, Noom, Nutrisystem, Jenny Craig, OA, etc.) Mostly joining and quitting Weight Watchers. I want to overcome this cycle - it started in childhood with my mother over-controlling what I ate or didn't eat. Maybe I need to use a fail-proof policy - no matter what I happen to eat for whatever (usually emotional) reason - I can't "fail". I'm just experiencing my reality and I need to just focus on healthy eating most of the time. And I need to look at the daily food logs as a TOOL and not a requirement so that when I don't log my food it is not a failure. It's just my reality. Too busy, too chaotic, get back to it when I calm down. But not a failure.
    I'm glad for this discussion and I know that this support will help me out.
  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 32,960 Member
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    ech9570 wrote: »
    Well here I am back again. I seem to get stuck in a cycle of over-controlling my eating, quitting whatever program I'm on (MFP, WW, Noom, Nutrisystem, Jenny Craig, OA, etc.) Mostly joining and quitting Weight Watchers. I want to overcome this cycle - it started in childhood with my mother over-controlling what I ate or didn't eat. Maybe I need to use a fail-proof policy - no matter what I happen to eat for whatever (usually emotional) reason - I can't "fail". I'm just experiencing my reality and I need to just focus on healthy eating most of the time. And I need to look at the daily food logs as a TOOL and not a requirement so that when I don't log my food it is not a failure. It's just my reality. Too busy, too chaotic, get back to it when I calm down. But not a failure.
    I'm glad for this discussion and I know that this support will help me out.

    @ech9570, good perspective!

    If we try some new tactic (or program), and it doesn't work out, that's absolutely not a personal failure. It's just a useful learning experience about what doesn't work for us as a unique individual. We can cross that off the list, and try something else.

    And a rare day that departs from our normal healthy routine is a drop in the ocean. What we do most days, as a matter of routine: That's the ocean. Finding daily routine habits we can continue long term almost on autopilot is where the results happen, IMO.

    We don't need to be instantly and consistently perfect in order to succeed, just pretty good on average the majority of the time. That can work.

  • ech9570
    ech9570 Posts: 15 Member
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    AnnPT77
    Thanks so much for your reply. I do get caught up with being "perfect" with one diet or another. And if I'm not perfect, I fail. I like this: "being pretty good on average the majority of the time". The food tracking and goals on this app tempt me to be a perfectionist. But I don't have to be. Just eating healthier meals - that are enjoyable and not contrived (like the 6oz tuna and mustard sandwiches I had on the original WW program) - I think that could be a "pretty good" way to go.
  • curry306
    curry306 Posts: 1 Member
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    Ok, this is my 1st post. You all are very encouraging, inspiring and insightful!! Thanks. This gives me the push to get back up again. I’m glad to have found you and this community will be my accountability partner and support.
  • ech9570
    ech9570 Posts: 15 Member
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    curry306 - welcome! I am relatively new here, but have been at this weight loss thing for a long time. I should say - losing weight, gaining it back, losing, gaining, etc. all of which got my up to my highest weight ever. In the morbid obesity realm. I am coming back to this after a couple years for another try. I am dealing with emotional eating and letting go of all the scolding and disapproval of my childhood about my "weight" - which was chubby but still at or near the normal for my age. Right now I'm working on meal planning - and getting a good baseline of meals into the food tracker. It's pretty difficult to look everything up every time you fix a meal, but once you have a few listed, it's one click and done. I'm also working on eating more vegetables and fruits.

    Again, welcome. I hope you find this to be as useful a site as I have.
  • Moroset905
    Moroset905 Posts: 6 Member
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    I bought a bike, i rode it and well its now a staple in my routing. i have no excuse i go to the community gym, youtube, a walking pad, a stepper, jump rope, weights, etc.... no excuse now i must working on the eating because " you cant out running a bad eating habit. I feel better then i have in a long time, i have tried to get my friends on the same boat as me but they aren't really interested and honestly every ones journey is not the same. I am not alone, i have everyone here lol.
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,145 Member
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    Good update Moroset.

    And yeah.

    It's the food. :wink: