Is having a close relationship with someone of opposite sex appropriate when married?

eagles226

Is having a relationship with someone of the opposite sex appropriate when married? A close relationship such as going to the bar daily

Alatariel75

Honey, from your last post, it appears that this is an ongoing issue.

I think it's not really an objective yes or no question. Personally, if my husband was going out with anyone daily, I'd not be happy regardless of the other person's gender. However, I admit that if it were a woman, I'd be even more upset about it.

Others may not have an issue.

What it comes down to is boundaries in your own relationship, and what you're willing to put up with an accept. In your last post you were saying you needed to lose wight so that your husband would stop an inappropriate relationship with another woman. That's not a weight problem, it's a husband problem, and it appears you still have it.

Maybe weight is not what you need to be working up to getting rid of...

Sand_TIger

It depends a lot on circumstance. I have a friend who is of the opposite sex but there's no sexual tension between us. Also, and this is the most important thing I think, I don't confide in him rather than confiding with my spouse. We're work friends with common interest. He's also married and I sometimes check in and ask how his wife is doing.

There is definitely a type of cheating possible, "emotional cheating," where someone will start to emotionally depend on another person rather than their spouse. It's especially toxic when one person starts to go to that other friend in order to feel better, even if nothing sexual is going on. At the very least it can be a sign that the marriage is not going well and it can be a sign of trouble.

I think being friends with a person who is of the opposite sex is completely possible if your spouse is cool with it and if your spouse still comes first in your heart. I'm giving my feedback here without any knowledge of other posts you have made so sorry if I missed anything. Good luck to you!