WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2024
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Good morning beautiful ladies!
Rita glad your fall was minor. Still scary though.
Meg so sorry to hear about your DH and the mistaken phone call. Hope his treatment goes well.
I read a police novel, the Missing Witness by Alison Brennan, and that was good but not great. Maybe my expectations were too high because this one was supposed to solve all the origin mysteries in the series. Anyway then I picked up a cute romance by Sarah Adams The Cheat Sheet. That was adorable.
Today Dad has a doctor appointment. I hope he didn't need blood work done because if so, I forgot.
Have a great day! May you be happy, healthy, safe and free!
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Good Friday morning ladies!
Up early this morning, and working on my 2025 budget. Property tax, electric bill, and home insurance will go up. I'm projecting home insurance will double, and hope I'm wrong, but need to be prepared.
Had a nice visit with M yesterday at lunch. We talked about how we now "get it". When we were younger we couldn't understand why our parents and grandparents were hesitant to leave the house much as they aged. Rambling on...For example, I've been invited to T's family Thanksgiving, as is customary. This year, the meal will be at her parent's house, which is farther away. It means I'd have to drive home in the dark. It will likely be raining. I really don't mind staying home, and just might pass this year.
I thought of my widowed grandmothers who weren't excited about attending holiday meals at my mom's house. They'd decline but we'd nag and coax them into it. I'll bet here are some reasons they'd turn down the invite - having to dress in clothing which isn't worn often and maybe didn't fit quite right, and needed to be washed and ironed. Lots of noise and multiple conversations going on at the same time - hard to hear. House too hot or too cold. An interruption from their normal routine. Uncomfortable chairs. Having to use a strange bathroom - maybe a lot. Food that was different than they were used to and might not agree with them. Neither of them drove, so they had to depend on someone having to come to town and pick them up then ferry them home, often on snowy, slick roads. We kids were good drivers and to us, the drive wasn't a problem, but still - a little worrisome for them.
M related similar. We decided we are slowly becoming our parents and grandparents, and probably for the same reasons.
I pulled the chicken bones out of the freezer and will get the crockpot going today to make bone broth.
It's foggy right now, and it's going to eventually be sunny this afternoon if the weatherman gets it right. I need to caulk some areas of the chicken coop once the wood dries out a bit. I don't mind doing the chicken chores, it's fun to keep busy.
Historical, possibly political re RFK Jr. on the JFK assassination , feel free to skip:I plan to watch an interview with RFK Jr. done months ago when he was still running for President. I saw a short clip, where he talked about his uncle JFK's assassination and the Warren Report. And how others were involved - it wasn't just Lee Harvey Oswald. (This isn't anything new, books and films have been made about it.) I was in 7th grade, and vividly remember when my teacher was called out of the classroom after lunch then came back in and told the class about JFK. She was crying. I'm a history buff, so I'm looking forward this and hearing RFK Jr's information on it. He'll also talk about his thoughts for the healthcare system.
Better post this before I lose it. I need to catch up with you ladies too.
Lanette
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Heather When I was teaching I would have an occasional student that wore a weighted vest. The idea behind it was it helped to ground them. I think it did help. Breathing exercises can also help with racing thoughts. Grounding exercises are also helpful. (Going outside barefoot and walking in the grass...working in a garden...taking a walk in nature)
Finding NO Grain NO Pain motivating to keep me on track. I am noticing less pain in joints and muscles on my current diet. Losing close to 30 pounds also helps. So far I'm keeping it off!
The author also emphasizes the importance of movement, intermittent fasting, sunlight, and sleep.
He did talk about how fat replaces muscles and in some circumstances the body will raid the muscles to get the resources it needs to survive. The joints depend on healthy muscles to help them move. When the balance is off (too much inflammation) that is what can start the downward spiral. An overabundance of fat on a body is a sign of inflammation (I have read this before). It is getting at the causes of this inflammation (food choice, lack of sleep, lack of movement, lack of sunlight) and making changes is the long term answer. Unfortunately introducing most of the pharma drugs only mask the symptoms and will work in the short term but often fail long term.
He also talked about my plate...It was used to tweek the pryamid food guidelines of the 80's. In that pyramid it recommended 8-11 servings of grain based foods a day. My plate was a way of placating the use of grain in the diet. He believes it is still too high.
Our food system is based on grain and sugar so it is not easy to go against this trend. I have been at it about a year now and still am tweeking my diet. I do know improving my choices has improved my health. I also find it easier to turn down the breads, crackers, cookies, and cakes. I focus on being with the friends and relatives rather than the food now.
He does recommend if someone does force a food choice you know does not work for you to put a small amount on your plate and then leave it uneaten.
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Jake's computer quit working on Monday. His handy computer fixing friend across the street came and got it and declared it not fixable. After much hand wringing, Jake decided to go to Costco and buy a new laptop. His daughter went with him and I urged him to choose what he wanted and not just look at the price. Later daughter helped him get started on the computer. The only trouble so far is not getting the camera to work on Zoom. He'll have his friend come over and look at it later. My walking and dancing friend can't come over for dancing today. She has another doctor appointment scheduled. Her daughters and doctor seem to be pushing for her to see a variety of specialists. I know her memory is showing some blank spots so that might be what they are worried about. We haven't walked together all week because of weather and Jake's daughter's visit so our communication has just been by text. Jake's daughter is on her way home now. She came over at 6 this morning for coffee and is now driving to the airport (two hours away) to return the rental car and fly home to northern California. It was fun having her here. She spent time on the phone and computer doing meetings and counseling sessions for her work and talking to her husband and teen age sons. She is clearly the sandwich generation right now. She is a darling and we are so fortunate to have her in our lives. Barbie in NW WA 5 -
Not much going on here. Campground doesn’t open until Tuesday, so nice and quiet around here except for the occasional person who doesn’t follow the rules.
I decided to treat myself to a professional haircut and manicure for Christmas in December. I’ve been getting my hair cut at the local beauty school and not doing my nails. I need a good spa day for a boost!
Anyone else here torturing themselves watching the Holiday Baking Championships? They are so talented! I do get a couple tips from them though. For instance, cook your apples before using them in a pie and use a dry apple brand, like a green apple (think Granny Smith’s). They seem to be the ones that win the pie contests. I’ve been on a Food Network fix right now since there isn’t anything good to watch for Thanksgiving. We pick different themes for movies to watch the month of holidays. Independence Day 1 and 2 on the 4th of July, Sci-Fi’s the months of June and July, ET and War of the World’s (all versions) for Halloween with Horrors in between. I would watch Drama’s and Romances for Thanksgiving, but DH hates those, so Food shows. Christmas is easy!
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Lanette ~ I totally agree with you and your friend M regarding the problems us older ones encounter as the holidays approach. Over the last two years, I find myself reluctantly going to family gatherings due to the fact that I don't like driving the distance to get there and then encountering all the noise and bustle of the gathering and feeling a bit left out. A lot of this may be due to my hearing deficit but also to the fact that I have just gotten used to staying at home and like being here.
Barbie ~ Glad you enjoyed Jake's daughter's visit. I know that you enjoy your quiet life but am glad that she brought some joy into your life and that of her Dad. And, glad that Jake got a new computer.
Annie ~ Hugs!
Mo ~ You have a very busy life! I was wondering if you have to pay a lot for your pup to go to dog camp so often? Also, does your husband visit with you often as I thought you were both living in two different states? Just curious.
Crafters: I see so much talent among you ladies! I enjoy reading about the sewing, knitting, painting, writing, and crafts that you make.
News: I must clarify and admit that I found some of the statements about avoiding the news to be disappointment regarding the political party that has come into office. I am glad that Lisa and others have clarified why they are avoiding the news. I do follow one conservative and one non-conservative news broadcast as I believe you need to keep up with the different opinions and stay informed.
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Just finished my Zoom with my old schoolfriends. P had just been to a Bob Dylan concert at the Royal Albert Hall. She was very moved by it all. She went alone, but talked to a couple of superfans sitting next to her.
I did get to the pharmacy and the flower shop. Just bought a few blooms for the dining room table. I do love fresh flowers.
John has been struggling with our printer, which is flooding. He has improved it somewhat, and now has black and white, but the procedures to mend it are soooo complicated, it was driving him nuts. I need it to do a very short Round Robin for my Christmas cards. Just a general update on my operations etc. We do have a computer guy around the corner, so I wonder if he could sort out the printer! ?
I have done a quick preliminary declutter of a cupboard in this room I sleep in. I was horrified to see how much useless stuff John has been keeping. Super thick jumpers he never wears, loads of belts ditto, black socks galore, old towels. I got rid of one old towel and a cushion. Sorted socks into a pile, but I couldn't face the thick jumpers. I now have a bag for the bin. I just hate old things taking up space, but I can’t throw his things away without asking. It just feels like an old man's lethargy to let things accumulate. He probably doesn't know what's there, or care. Ugh.
Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx1 -
Just made a cheese soup with broth I made, quarter cup grass fed half and half, an ounce of grass fed cheese, fresh basil, dill, parsley, pepper. I didn't add any thickener. It was delicious and filling. I had an apple with cinnamon and a small dark chocolate square for dessert.
I followed the suggestion to smell your food and eat in a quiet place. It was a delicious easy to prepare lunch. Having easy and quick tasty meals helps me stay on track and use ingredients with less processing. I love using fresh herbs too!1 -
cityjaneLondon wrote: »Just finished my Zoom with my old schoolfriends. P had just been to a Bob Dylan concert at the Royal Albert Hall. She was very moved by it all. She went alone, but talked to a couple of superfans sitting next to her.
I did get to the pharmacy and the flower shop. Just bought a few blooms for the dining room table. I do love fresh flowers.
John has been struggling with our printer, which is flooding. He has improved it somewhat, and now has black and white, but the procedures to mend it are soooo complicated, it was driving him nuts. I need it to do a very short Round Robin for my Christmas cards. Just a general update on my operations etc. We do have a computer guy around the corner, so I wonder if he could sort out the printer! ?
I have done a quick preliminary declutter of a cupboard in this room I sleep in. I was horrified to see how much useless stuff John has been keeping. Super thick jumpers he never wears, loads of belts ditto, black socks galore, old towels. I got rid of one old towel and a cushion. Sorted socks into a pile, but I couldn't face the thick jumpers. I now have a bag for the bin. I just hate old things taking up space, but I can’t throw his things away without asking. It just feels like an old man's lethargy to let things accumulate. He probably doesn't know what's there, or care. Ugh.
Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx
The concert sounds amazing. That's the Hall with the huge organ correct? I follow the organist Anna Lapwood. There's a couple concerts she has "inserted" the organ into. Huge crowd listening to the instruments or bands playing then she starts playing the organ and just takes the piece to a new level. She practices through the night pieces, because that is the time slot she can do it. The bands hear her as they are setting up and like the band Bonobo, they needed to have the organ in their songs.
Oh Lee would be so upset if I got rid of anything that's his, whether it be clothes or stuff. I would at least run the items by John before pitching them for the bin. Just my views anyways.💖
Rebecca
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Looking back, I realize that I spent a lot of my life doing things or wanting to do things that I thought would be fun or make me happy. It wasn't until I was required to stay home at the beginning of the pandemic that I realized that what I craved was solitude, the company of my husband, and entertainment that I could find in books, music, and TV. I learned that what was fun for other people wasn't fun for me and vice versa, This morning I watched a performance of "Carmina Burana", one of my favorites since I was a teenager and heard it on a vinyl record in college. I am in my own chair in my own house, with the temperature in the room that suits me, wearing my comfy clothes, and close to my own toilet. I can't image it any better in a huge venue. On TV there are close up shots of the soloists, the conductor, and featured instruments. I love watching the baking shows because I don't bake (I gave up baking in 2009). They are pure entertainment for me. It's like watching an orchestra and not wasting my energy wishing I'd learned to play the oboe or feeling sad that I'd hadn't become a better flute player or violinist when I was in the school orchestra and marching band. Barbie in NW WA where there was frost on many houses this morning 4
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Looking back, I realize that I spent a lot of my life doing things or wanting to do things that I thought would be fun or make me happy. It wasn't until I was required to stay home at the beginning of the pandemic that I realized that what I craved was solitude, the company of my husband, and entertainment that I could find in books, music, and TV. I learned that what was fun for other people wasn't fun for me and vice versa, This morning I watched a performance of "Carmina Burana", one of my favorites since I was a teenager and heard it on a vinyl record in college. I am in my own chair in my own house, with the temperature in the room that suits me, wearing my comfy clothes, and close to my own toilet. I can't image it any better in a huge venue. On TV there are close up shots of the soloists, the conductor, and featured instruments. I love watching the baking shows because I don't bake (I gave up baking in 2009). They are pure entertainment for me. It's like watching an orchestra and not wasting my energy wishing I'd learned to play the oboe or feeling sad that I'd hadn't become a better flute player or violinist when I was in the school orchestra and marching band. Barbie in NW WA where there was frost on many houses this morning
There will be a time when traveling to my sister's will be too hectic, and the mental strain on me will be a choice I do not wish to immerse myself in. But until then, I go, and just let go of my normal creature comforts. Its not important where I sleep, what I eat, but its about the people I see. Unfortunately I don't see my middle son and family visiting our house much in the future. Its a long drive with 2 Kids and they have a menagerie of pets to care for at their home. So I travel, husband stays home, and that's that. There will be a time when I just say no, and hopefully family will come to us.💖
Over these last couple of years I have come to terms with lowering my expectations during the holidays. I don't try to "recreate past feelings" of the holidays. I have given a lot of my decorations away, and the special stuff given to Athena and Eli. Let them enjoy them as my sons did. I don't get sad not having family here, life happens, its not my control. To let all that angst go is liberating. Find the good, see he good. You find the good in how you live your life.👍🏼💖
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Mo - I saw your Land's End pants were on sale for 50% off so I took a chance and ordered a pair. Also, I loved your husband's "60 Seconds of Hope" this morning. Especially this: I’ve been happily married to an extraordinary woman for nearly 30 years now That's our Mo!
Barbie - so happy Jake's daughter was able to come visit. She's the ideal person to oversee your and Jake's care and arrangements. Wonderful peace of mind to have someone like that. Crossing fingers the Zoom problem can be fixed. I've lost the camera on this old HP laptop after a recent update. I don't know if it's a W11 problem or what. I've given up trying to fix it - the one on my other Dell laptop works fine OK (W10). This HP continues to act loopy and something tells me it's going to conk out beginning of the year. So I need to get busy and see about that Chromebook as eventual back-up.
Also, after reading how content you are to stay at home, I'm betting if Jake passes before you, you probably won't change your program much. In other words, you won't be so lonely you'll end up at a senior center or find things to do with others. I still get comments "you must be lonely, why not do some volunteering and go out and be among people?" At this stage, I can't imagine doing anything like that. The internet has opened up a whole new world to us older folks who tend to be introverted - so much information at our fingertips, the ability to connect with people all over the world and at our convenience too. And our beloved pets give us plenty of "human" contact.
Rebecca - wise observations. You have a lot of good memories of past holidays; keep enjoying the family stuff when you can. Who knows what our lives will look like in 5 years? We all might be living elsewhere or with family and/or friends closer by and making new traditions.
Rita - how nice of your friend to stop in and visit, great photo. Also, glad you didn't hurt yourself after the fall. I seem to find holes to step in at least twice a year that cause me to stumble. My lawn is a mine field.
Heather - good job on the decluttering project. As I went through DH's side of the closet and chest of drawers after he passed, I came across a lot of clothing I'll bet he didn't know he had and I could have donated them and he wouldn't have known... other than to wonder why there was now so much space.
Meg - sorry to hear about your DH, very glad it was caught early and sounds like the treatment plan is a good one. Crazy though about the NP. Good thing you looked it up - had you not caught it, would someone else have picked up the ball? I've gotten into the habit of getting paper copies of the labs and accessing as many visit records as I can. A couple years ago I went online to check records after a doc visit and discovered my BMI was suddenly in the upper 30's! The nurse had entered my height wrong. I messaged Dr. Lisa and told her I knew I'd been shrinking with age but to now be 4' tall surprised me. She said oops and next time I'm in, get re-measured. We laughed about it, but I wonder what would have happened if I had a condition where I referred to a specialist for something and that BMI of 39 would have triggered some kind of a treatment plan that wasn't appropriate for me? Especially during Covid where there were so many telehealth visits?
I also ordered a copy of surgical notes after my gall bladder removal. The surgeon wrote that I appeared to be "well nourished" (
) but he had my age 5 years older than I actually was! Whut? No harm done except maybe to my pride.
Annie - glad to hear your sister is coming. You are shouldering a lot with your dad by yourself there, and now with your tummy issues, which stress can make worse.
Margaret - continued gratitude for the information you post about nutrition. Great reminders to eat healthy. Keep them coming. Your soup sounded yummy. What kind of cheese did you use?
Chicken bone broth concoction is cooking in the crockpot. Tomorrow at 8 am will be 24 hours. Added celery, carrots, onion, a little AC Vinegar and tarragon for the herb.
Michele - I'm in awe of your ceramics, it looks like so much fun. Were you into ceramics when you lived up north?
Debbie- yes, homeowner's insurance is likely to keep rising. Cost of replacement I guess. There are so many rising costs that aren't included in the CPI which determines Medicare COLA's and raises for many people still employed. No wonder so many people can't keep up.
Sun is out. Let the girls out for a little run and applied some silicone caulk around spots where I think water was getting in. May need a few more applications but I'm hoping this will help. I see I'm going to have to apply another coat or two of polyurethane next year to protect the wood.
Lanette
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I mentioned the cupboard to John. He seemed to know about the socks, but was a bit defensive about the belts and jumpers. The belts are those free ones you get with trousers, and never wear. There is one good one amongst them. He said he would take a look. It is important for me not to press him, but allow him to find his own way. He usually gets there in the end.
I too much prefer staying at home to doing anything else. Most of the people I 'follow' are exactly the same. I have always hated having too much to do, and need lots of space in my life. My priority is my writing, and for that I need lots of 'moodling' time. I hate having to be responsible for anything, hence no pets, no indoor plants, no car of my own, no organising, no proper gardening, other than a wild garden. Nothing gives me more pleasure than a blank diary.
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Stats for the day-
Walk w/family- 2hrs 4min 21sec, 46elev, 2.95ap, 14204steps, 74ahr, 92mhr, 6"16mi= 546c
Strava app = 746c
Zwift home spin bike- strava stats- 1hr 13min 7sec, 512elev, 95aw, 16.6amph, gear35, 93ahr, 119mhr, 20.17mi= 366c
Strava app= 398c
Zwift stats- 1hr 13min 5sec, 514elev, 95aw, 44arpm, 16.58amph, 20.2mi= 398c
Total cal 912
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John took this photo on his afternoon walk.
DDIL took this photo of the sunset in the park on the way home from school.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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Hello y'all, Been really struggling to stay under my calorie goals and tempted by the sweet treats I am bringing into my house for all of the "other people " and then some how end up eating more than I give to them. I feel so out of control when it comes to food sometimes and I don't know why I keep giving in and postponing my health.
My weight has really harmed my ability to walk without pain and limited my ability to get out for long periods with my friends and daughter. I hate that I feel so trapped sometimes. Any how this is real talk and not just how the weather is in Texas. Hopefully some of you relate and maybe a few have found some help for these issues. Thanks for the group. Hope everyone is having a good day.2 -
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Yippee! Yippee! I confirmed with BK that they want me to go on my old schedule, work Mon, Tues, Thurs, Fri and Sat. Now I can take the water class at the Y on Wed. I missed it
My heel is still hurting, but I took a short walk today. After BK went to the soup kitchen just to give them some of the boxes then went to CVS to get a prescription then Food Lion to buy the turkey (95 cents/lb) Afterwards, home to have breakfast, we got most of the “fence” up and Vince put these lights in blowmolds that we got that only had battery LED’s. Now they have a light bulb in them. He’s figuring that tomorrow we’ll get the arches up (but not lit)
Allie – did the brace help the plantar facetious heal faster? Watched some TV and while I was watching rolled my foot on a ball. Wonder what the difference is between rolling it on a ball and rolling it on a foam roller?
Annie – you forgot only one thing (your dad’s bloodwork)? With all you do, forgetting one thing is relatively minor. That is IF your dad needed it.
I THOUGHT I heard at BK today about bringing Jerry back. I really don’t want him. I’d never know if he was coming to work sober or drunk. Anyway, I overheard A say something about getting the bus but then someone would have to drive him home. I can only think they’re talking about Jerry. Well, if they do find someone to drive him home, they better get a backup because if he treats that person the way he treated me, they won’t be taking him home for long. But I tend to doubt that he’d be coming back (at least, I hope not)
Margaret – good for you keeping that weight off!
Barbie – so glad you had such a good visit with Jake’s daughter!
Rita – I used a pie enhancer in my pie to thicken the apples and it did a pretty good job.
Today is also National Drummer day
Lanette – I, too, get copies of all my labs and keep them in a separate folder. I only got into ceramics about 10 years ago and we’ve been in this house about 15 years.
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My new music favorite. His name is Claudio Constantini. An accordion player. Just so relaxing. Some of his French cafe music you just sip something and breathe the imagery in.💖👍🏼
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Hello y'all, Been really struggling to stay under my calorie goals and tempted by the sweet treats I am bringing into my house for all of the "other people " and then some how end up eating more than I give to them. I feel so out of control when it comes to food sometimes and I don't know why I keep giving in and postponing my health.
My weight has really harmed my ability to walk without pain and limited my ability to get out for long periods with my friends and daughter. I hate that I feel so trapped sometimes. Any how this is real talk and not just how the weather is in Texas. Hopefully some of you relate and maybe a few have found some help for these issues. Thanks for the group. Hope everyone is having a good day.
Don't be so hard on yourself Penny.💖 We are worst critics. I try to not let my food choices control my emotions. Pick and choose things you have control over. I might make the best choices in food, but I have control on how I feel about those choices. I know for me, when I eat like crap, I feel like crap. Eat like you're at a resort. Take time to pick out choices not so crappy. I know when I don't make some time for myself and my choices, that is not valuing myself. For me it came down to self worth. Make the time. Some phrases:
You can't pour from an empty cup. Care for yourself before caring for others.
Make time for your wellness so you won't have to deal with your illness.
Hugs!
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Penny- I have to say since going on the Trulicity I dont crave the sweets much at all..even when I was on the cruise I went more for the fresh fruit rather than all the cakes and stuff..didnt even have any gelato
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About doctors missing things ...
I went to a particular clinic and saw one doctor there, but also had a back-up doctor. Then all at once both left the clinic and I was scrambling to find someone new.
My first option was to find someone else within the clinic. I chose the one I thought would be the best but she was getting ready to go to the Netherlands for an extended visit (she was Dutch) and even though the trip was several months away, she was very distracted.
So distracted that when the results of an ultrasound came back, she missed this bit entirely.
My eGFR is in the 60 -89 range which also may mean early-stage kidney disease, especially in combination with an ultrasound result like the one above.
Definitely not as serious as missing lung cancer!!
But I'd still like a doctor who can read the bold type on a report.
M in Oz0
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