Why can't I just enjoy this journey?

Anniejazz
Anniejazz Posts: 35 Member
in Motivation and Support
Why is it that I can celebrate my victories one day and wail (to myself) about looking so hideous in a dress I couldn't have got into a month ago, the next?
Why can I accept that I didn't suddenly become obese and that I won't suddenly become a healthy weight yesterday, only to berate myself for not having achieved my goal, today?
Some days - and only some days for a short time - it feels like I want to make myself feel bad.
Sick of it!

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  • Adventurista
    Adventurista Posts: 2,145 Member
    Hear you!

    Sometimes, i think we pick up where others leave off!

    Our silly brain tosses out all sorts of wild ideas - it is important to recognize our thoughts so we can talk back to it and replace with positive, self care strategies to practice...

    I think the negative self-beatup gets so automatic and a habit... it takes time to release it and replace it through practice. Being sick of it is a wonderful moment to turn forward and change it. Yay you!

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  • AnnPT77
    AnnPT77 Posts: 34,620 Member
    Anniejazz wrote: »
    Why is it that I can celebrate my victories one day and wail (to myself) about looking so hideous in a dress I couldn't have got into a month ago, the next? Why can I accept that I didn't suddenly become obese and that I won't suddenly become a healthy weight yesterday, only to berate myself for not having achieved my goal, today?
    Because you're normal? ;)
    Why can I accept that I didn't suddenly become obese and that I won't suddenly become a healthy weight yesterday, only to berate myself for not having achieved my goal, today?
    Some days - and only some days for a short time - it feels like I want to make myself feel bad.
    Sick of it!

    I agree with the positive thoughts above, and also with the underlying concept that our self-talk is a habit, one that we can work to change in various ways. Recognizing that we can modify our mindset can be an empowering insight.

    More specifically, in the big picture, you are valuing yourself enough to take positive steps toward self-improvement, and that's an amazingly wonderful thing, even when you may not be perfect every single second (as none of us are!).

    Better on average than we used to be is a good path, worth a (self-) pat on the back. Maybe remind yourself of that in the low moments?

    Best wishes!

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