WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2025

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  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,998 Member
    bwcetc wrote: »
    Flea ... Wow! You've had a lot going on! Congratulations to your husband, younger son and daughter.

    The News ... I live with someone who has the news on 24/7. It never bothered me when I was deaf, but since the cochlear implant, I am now thoroughly annoyed. We no longer get a paper newspaper. The local was very biased. I do try to read a non-biased news email every morning. 1440. It seems fairly non-biased and gives me the headlines for the day.

    Rebecca ... the young penpal has some issues as you noted. I could never go without my earrings. On the days I forget to put some on, I feel undressed.

    Yes, Lisa, men are weird.

    Tracey ... I think Lanette is on to something with the feeling "needed" part with your husband. I run into this with my husband too as he's aging and his physical abilities are diminishing. Everyone wants to feel needed and useful. Still, no need to get nasty. So when my husband crosses my line, I let him know he needs to rethink his actions/words. Might have had this conversation with him this morning ...

    Gray and cold here near Buffalo. Our Buffalo Bills are playing at home tonight. You couldn't pay me to attend the game. I'll be watching from my comfy couch.

    Beth near Buffalo

    I have over time thought less and less about jewelry in general. Now when we would visit the nudist resort, earrings were the right up there importance wise with Sun lotion and flip flops. "How are you today, love your earrings"! It was one of your distinctive qualities, what kind of earrings you wore. But now for me, its just not important. My grandmother was a " can't leave the house without clip on earrings and lipstick" sort of lady. She could put lipstick on perfectly without a mirror. She was a flapper gal in her young days.😁💖
    Yep some friendships do have an ending point. Its just a natural progression.
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,709 Member
    PIP ~ Good idea to use the jars. My DH uses mason jars!

    Carol in GA
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,458 Member
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  • drkatiebug
    drkatiebug Posts: 1,996 Member
    Ok, I don’t know which one of you it was, but it is your fault I have been glued to High Potential all weekend and have accomplished nothing beyond making it to church this morning. It popped up at the end of Will Trent and I thought - I believe somebody on the message board was recommending that show. I think /i’ve binged about 7 episodes. I know I’m past the one Lisa was watching with the guy on a cliff. It’s perfect for this cold spell we are facing.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,458 Member
    Stat for the day-

    Housecleaning etc- refill hummingbird feeders, bathe and cut chispa, brush yogi, reorganize kitchen cupboards, 1 load laundry fold/put away, fill front fountains, etc= 400c

    808808
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,255 Member
    tempis fugit amor manet

    🤗 🤗 🤗 and 🙏 🙏 🙏 to those who want/need them.

    céad míle fáilte to our new ladies.

    ☘️ Terri
  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,635 Member
    Debbie, hearing your DH choose to sleep in instead of visit his mom is hopeful. He has lots of sleep deprivation from which to recover. Hay it help him purge himself of his mother’s bitterness.
    Heather ((hugs held extra long)) So hard to see your son suffer and grieve, knowing there is really nothing you can do to make it better. ((hugs))
    Rita been meaning to thank you for your “thought for a day”s. Would it be ok if I forwarded them to a friend who is feeling low? She recently had a brain stem stroke. It really sucks as she has been slender, physically and mentally active, involved in her community, and very careful of her vegan diet. :{
    Lisa praying the family court judge who hears your daughter’s ex’s suit, dismisses it out of hand as frivolous (and malicious) and assigns all court and attorney costs to him, pronto!
    Carol “The luxuries of life” Yes!
    Ginny your “…some things are just better not to fight” to Debbie. Wise words. Likewise your “sometimes it is ok to just be still and hurt” to Heather and her son.
    Pip theater chairs with seat warmers and massage features? I want some of that!!!
    Machka like with Rita I’d like to share your cycling jokes if ok. Congrats on the new addition to the family. Cannot imagine you as the evil anything (mwah hah ha notwithstanding) even if your eyes glazed over red :devil:
    Rebecca I’ve enjoyed the new “Matlock” and “High Potential” also. “Irrational” too. Will pass on “Evil.”
    Kylia BRAVA for switching to 0 mg nicotine. You can do this!!!
    Belated welcome @alsarve Amanda in KY!
    Lanette thanks for the bird flu info/insight.
    Carol so glad to hear your DH is able to begin settling his brother’s estate. Know it’s been a burden.
    Tracey $15K difference in what employee was owed and what corporate “wanted to pay”? Bravissima for fighting for him/her.
    Slowly catching up, pgs 20-23
    Later, lighter, lovelies!
    Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
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    2025: Chose NOW: to move more than yesterday, fuel better than yesterday, open heart and mind before mouth.
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,998 Member
    drkatiebug wrote: »
    Ok, I don’t know which one of you it was, but it is your fault I have been glued to High Potential all weekend and have accomplished nothing beyond making it to church this morning. It popped up at the end of Will Trent and I thought - I believe somebody on the message board was recommending that show. I think /i’ve binged about 7 episodes. I know I’m past the one Lisa was watching with the guy on a cliff. It’s perfect for this cold spell we are facing.

    It was me, and isn't she the cutest, smartest thing?💖👍🏼
  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,789 Member
    Flea Wow! That is soooo much to handle at one time!!! Just ((hugs)) held extra tight! I remember having the cops knock on a car window once while in HS, but never my parents! I know you are proud of his accomplishments. It is sad for your daughter to start a marriage with in law drama! Great news for DH, hopefully , the commute can be taken care of. Now, just remember to take care of YOU!!

    Debbie I am impressed with your walking! I am also glad that for now, MIL is settled. It has to give you a brief respite.

    Rita I love the "thoughts for the Day!"

    I have much more to say, but have run out of time!

    Sleep well!

    Love,
    Kylia in Ohio down to 9 F so far
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,582 Member
    Did a load of laundry then Cathe’s STS DVD then took a walk twice around the block. When I go twice, I don’t go out by the main road

    Mo – You are truly an angel here on earth. Aldi is limiting dairy purchases, too. But they have for a long time

    Lisa – cats are very oriented that things should be a certain way. Like our cats get totally thrown off when I’m not working. The schedule is that I feed them then leave for work. One time I didn’t feed them but went to exercise first and then I was going to feed them. I swear, it took me twice as long to exercise that day. Now I feed them BEFORE I exercise

    Remember my girlfriend in Switzerland who passed away? Well, her birthday would have been Thurs so I sent her hubby an email just saying “thinking of you”

    Lanette – sending you a virtual back scratcher

    Rebecca – when I turned 40 (you know, back in the ice age….lol) I thought I was hot stuff and got a second piercing. Now I wish I didn’t. One of them closed up, but the other one didn’t. Like you, I sold most of my good jewelry and now have cheapos. But still, some of the cheapos I like. Like I had one pair for Halloween of skeletons. And I lost one, not sure where. I also had a pair of palm trees. They were neat for FL. However, I lost one. I think it was when I was taking a walk at the condo.

    Jenfer – wb

    deb – doesn’t it feel good to be clearing out MIL’s house of things that she probably won’t miss anyway? In a sense, vince being down right now is good for me. I get to clean things that he wouldn’t want me to do, like put boxes out that he gave the cats to play with. Paper he gave them went in recycling. Honestly, if he weren’t laid up, I would be hearing about it all the time. What a change in her attitude!

    Supposed to be cold here tomorrow. If it is, I’m thinking that maybe I’ll run the self-cleaning on the oven. Wonder if Vince would be able to have a fire in the fireplace? We shall see. Someone at church said that they have spinal stenosis, too, and they find that wearing a back brace helps them, helps to keep the back straight. When I mentioned it to Vince yesterday, he didn’t think much of it. However, today he put his back brace on and was mentioning how it helped keep his back straight.

    Vicki – so glad your hubby’s surgery went well.

    I remember one time when I put gas in the Outlook. I’m so used to my car that has a lever you pull and the gas cap opens. Well, the Outlook doesn’t have that. I had to call Vince to ask him how you open the gas cap since I couldn’t find a lever. Seems you have to push the gas cap in for it to open. Who would have thunk?

    Drkatie – welcome to the High Potential group!

    Ginny – ever since Vince has been laid up, he’s watching all those Law & Order shows. So I’m constantly hearing the commercials “at BK have it your way, you Rule”. Yuk!

    I’ll probably ride the exercise bike tomorrow if it’s too cold to go walking

    Worked on the jigsaw puzzle some.

    Michele NC
    who is getting ready for work tomorrow
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,325 Member
    Snowflake1968 wrote: »
    I’m worried about DH and I. We just can’t seem to get on the same page about anything lately.
    I’m tired of it. I’ve tried to talk to him but all I get is “yeah I know it’s all my fault.” I don’t believe it all his fault but I don’t believe it’s all mine either. But as soon as he says that I just stop trying to talk.
    I was trying so hard to have a good day today, it was the 2nd anniversary of his Father’s death.
    He had a nap this afternoon and came into the craftroom. I was looking at my phone because I had posted some free stuff on a local group. He said, “talking to your boyfriend?” He knows this bothers me, has been told for years. Most days I can just be quiet or laugh it off. Today I just snapped at him and told him I hated it, it was annoying and asked why he insisted on saying it. He told me he was only joking and I told him it wasn’t funny. He said something else as he left the room but I didn’t hear it and he refused to repeat himself. I even came out to ask him and he said it didn’t matter. It mattered to me though, but he wouldn’t say.
    I left it and went back to the craftroom a while later I came out and apologized for snapping, but reminded him that it bothers me. I’m just so tired of it all. I don’t even want to fight.


    I hope everyone has a great day.
    Tracey in Edmonton .

    I am so sorry you are dealing with all of that. Totally understand. We haven't been "on the same page" for so long. I got the same response when I tried to talk about his distance towards me. Says he will work on it but never changes.
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,325 Member
    barbiecat wrote: »
    :)Tracey, Jake used to say things about me having a "boyfriend" when I mentioned a man I spoke to while I was walking the dogs or when I was gone for what he thought was too long. I hated it too. Nothing I said could change him. Fortunately I never pointed out how many women he spoke to on the phone including his second ex wife. He admitted he has always been jealous and would be crushed if I was interested in another man.

    :)Debbie, glad to hear some good news about your MIL

    :
    <3 Barbie in NW WA

    Mine is just the opposite- He doesn't even care that I am in touch with my former hubby. We talk all the time and dh doesn't care at all.
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 7,018 Member
    Mo - I know I couldn’t do the job you do. Thank you, those children and families are blessed to have nurses like you.

    Heather - We were married in a friends back yard by a minister that we found in the yellow pages under “rent a minister” besides our rings he was the most expensive part of our wedding.
    We were married in Ontario, my Dad and favourite Aunt showed up the night before. Rodger’s dad sent his mom and sister but didn’t come himself. His sister had our niece 3.5 month old niece that started crying and his mother went to deal with her so she missed us saying our vows anyway. His sister is a very selfish woman in a lot of ways.

    Machka - beautiful cabinet, does it have shelves for it?

    Lisa - I just watched that episode this week. I wouldn’t find that funny either.

    Lanette - I sure would like wood heat today. It’s quite cold here.

    Beth - I have to say that a lot of news just angers me. Rodger started watching a lot of news the last few days. I told him if he started getting angry I would cancel the news networks channels. 😂

    Debbie - it seems like your MIL is settling in. I hope that your husband can start healing a bit now.

    Pip - I do reuse candle jars. We are actually collecting some Bed, Bath and Beyond ones for a project. You can make them look like S’mores. They would be cute for your camper.

    Katie - I think a few of us are watching High Potential. Rebecca mentioned it first I think and then I agreed with her.
    Accused is another good one. I love that you can watch it in any order as each episode is a stand alone. I have a hard time really being engrossed in a show and this does it for me.

    Ginny - marriage sure is hard work.
    It’s sounds like you had fun with your granddaughter

    Allie - Delia and Miles are sweet.

    Barbie - thank you for that. Rodger is jealous too. Always has been. It seems to be worse lately. His mother would tell me it’s his guilt, but I don’t believe that’s the case.
    You are doing so well with the path your life has taken. I so admire you, it can’t be easy.

    I did not leave the house since I got home from work on Friday. This is the first time since at least November. I think I really needed it.
    I spent the day today finishing cleaning the craft-room and when I was done I worked on my little mini album.
    The next one I think I will select my pictures before I use the papers and decorate it. I’m struggling a bit deciding on pictures for this one.

    Rodger and I had a talk today. After he made a comment about me not liking to cook. I told him I hate it and always have but I do make sure he’s fed every evening and he that’s about as much as I’m willing to do.
    Later I asked him if we were ok and he told me he thought we were and asked me if I thought we weren’t. I told him I wasn’t feeling very connected, he said it’s been a rough couple of days. I thought that was enormous for now.
    We need a longer talk about some other issues but I’m feeling better today.

    Off to bed it’s Monday again already.
    Tracey in Edmonton
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,105 Member
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,775 Member
    pipcd34 wrote: »
    Just curious.., am I the only one to repurpose candle jars?
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    Those look like the jars our coffee comes in. And yes, we use them for our honey.


    Machka in Oz
  • mcmillonmail
    mcmillonmail Posts: 155 Member
    Good early morning, friends,
    I spoke to DH about how cold it was yesterday. Saturday, I went to a bridal shower, which was nice at 67 degrees. Yesterday, it dropped to 35 degrees, and we expect snow on Tuesday. Rose slept at a doggie day camp Saturday, and we slept on and off all day Sunday. DS said they were up all night Friday saying goodbye and went to bed at 3:00 am. That explains it all. Rose had a big appetite on Sunday, too. We did go out to drop off a check at my mom's nursing home. I wanted to look at my mom, but she was asleep, so I let her be. I will go to the respiratory place and get her a nebulizing machine. I will also make an appointment for her teeth. DS says he loves his dorm this term but misses Rose and me. I told him that he will see us soon. DH is in a good mood. I told him on his post that he wears too much black. He reminded me to get my oil changed. I loved when he did that for me. My mom knew how to change the oil in her car.
    After my hysterectomy, I was placed on antidepressants by my gynecologist, and I never got off of them.
    When I miss one, I get zings and weird symptoms. I had that with a headache on Saturday, so I took two. I was better then. When I organized my meds, I must have forgotten to put that pill in. So, I can relate to Machka's article. I wish I had been on those pills a long time ago. With my job and my personal life, I was depressed and in tears all of the time. My kids told me to take my "happy pills." I had terrible postpartum blues with the youngest. So, I am a fan of antidepressants.

    Rebecca, I take breaks from political shows, true crime(though it is my passion), and news for my mental health. I do feel bad cause I didn't even know that Jimmy Carter died. Until recently, I peaked at the IG news feed. I checked out Nancy Grace, who was talking about a NICU nurse who was purposely breaking the bones of neonates. So, I was outraged and had to write my 2 cents in. Again, I ask what is wrong with humanity.

    Barbie, DS, I realized I never put gas in a tank because I always did it. When I was a teen, I would beg my mom to let me do it. DS doesn't like to drive, and I should have taught him how to clean the house better. I taught him how to cook and always told him to clean as he went. If only the clean-as-you-go technique had stuck. I loved it when DH gas in the car and did the maintenance. Now, it is up to me. He had a fit when he saw the last oil change.

    Lisa, thank you for the words of encouragement. I hate being separated from DS. We are very close. Since he is my youngest, he stayed under me.

    Pip, I never thought of reusing my candle jars, so I threw them out.

    Margaret, in the old days, a lady who lost her husband, was addressed as a widow. For example, "This is Widow Johnson," as if it were her name. Men were not addressed in that fashion. I wouldn't want myself identified as such. I don't even like being called a pastor's wife because I do not want to be watched under a microscope or told how I should be.

    Tracey, I am glad you and Rodger talked. Rodger is very insecure and needs to work on building his self-esteem. The accusation is offensive, but he doesn't want to lose you. He will know you are still in if you say positive things to him. Also, saying positive things to him could raise his self-esteem.

    Allie, enjoy your holiday from childcare. I took one from work this weekend, and I love it.

    Michelle, I will work on my knitting project since I am off. I also cleaned my table to work on a jigsaw puzzle. I need to get back to working out, too. This is a good week to start.

    Debbie, I am so glad your MIL is eating again.

    Terri, I am glad you were not hurt and are safe. Take care of yourself.

    Vickie, I am so glad your husband's surgery went well. How are you doing?


    Dr. Katie, I may also check out the show High Potential. I am getting tired of HGTV.

    Carol, you have a lot on your shoulders. See if there is a therapist you can see. I haven't seen mine for months but felt better after seeing him.

    Goodnight, ladies; I am going to bed now. Rose is sleeping well and will be up in the morning to play.

    XO,

    Mo in Mississippi

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,775 Member
    What were coffee jars ... became honey jars.


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  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,255 Member
    tempis fugit amor manet

    🤗 🤗 🤗 and 🙏 🙏 🙏 to those who want/need them.

    céad míle fáilte to our new ladies.

    ☘️ Terri

  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,789 Member
    Good Monday!
    We are in deep freeze! Happy my job is inside! I also have remote start to warm up truck.
    Saturday after work my DH and I went looking for a cabinet to take spot of curio cabinet. I was thinking tall with doors. DH thinking short with doors. We didn't find anything at the antique mall. I told him we needed to clean out cabinets we had, then figure out what we need. But not Saturday night after working and shopping. That would have been disastrous! I finished cleaning out tub, let kittens out with out leashes, made chili and corn bread for dinner.

    Sunday, I got in hot tub and let kittens out with me. Tori got into a panic. I let her inside but couldn't find Cali. I could hear her panic cries. Finally l looked up....she was on the awning! Apparently couldn't figure out how to get back down. I could reach her standing on the generator. After breakfast, in started on hutch. DH asked what was on table. I told him this half is going to garage sale, this half he has to decide on as it is his stuffs. We'll, that was the start! We cleaned up hutch, roll top bar, all of the kitchen cabinets, the laundry room cabinets, and my cabinets in the garage! My DH gets rid of NOTHING, but was actually parting with stuffs! Usually cleaning/discarding leads to fights, so yesterday was amazing! Even got new bumpers on cabinet doors for ease of opening. The queen size bed in guest room and lots of floor space is full waiting on boxes to take to oldest daughter's for garage sale in spring. As for the cabinet....don't need it now, just rearranged a small table. Itseems strange that cleaning out spaces behind doors can be so freeing! I feel 100 lbs lighter and breathing easier. DH just agrees with me even though I don't think he understands my excitement. Next challenge is "my" room. Too many nic nacs. First have to clear out stuffs we just put in there!

    Barbie I have been pumping gas so long, that it is strange to me when someone else does it. I did have to call the Mazda dealer the first time I had to fill it as I couldn't get the door open. Apparently if doors are locked, gas door won't open. You are doing so well!

    Pip Love the reuse of those jars.

    Mo Thank you for what you do!

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    Stay safe!
    Make the best choice you can in the moment!
    Hugs!
    Welcomes!

    Much love,
    Kylia on wicked cold Ohio!

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