Difficulty taking advice from girlfriend on weight loss

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  • Mr_Knight
    Mr_Knight Posts: 9,532 Member
    Your current mistrust is based on your previous interactions, and there is nothing wrong with that. If it is reasonable for her to have an expectation that you "get" her change of heart, she also has an obligation to understand and accept why you're having a tough time hearing these things.

    Communication, in both directions, is key.

    Personally, the "eat nice things" bit sounds a bit dubious, to be totally honest....
  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
    Relationships can be tough. Personally? I recommend counseling for BOTH of you. Together and separately.

    Congratulations to on your determination to get healthy! :drinker:
  • mojohowitz
    mojohowitz Posts: 900 Member
    Dump her. You deserve support.
  • Brige2269
    Brige2269 Posts: 354 Member
    My hubby use to say, "come on, one piece, or one bit or one pizza, or one donut, won't hurt you". I had stopped talking to him about my diet and exercise. Now he is use to it, but I still get eye rolls every now and then. Especially, when I started logging here on MFP.
  • jayrudq
    jayrudq Posts: 475 Member
    Relationships are difficult and we ALL bring baggage to them. Dumping someone who you care about because of that is probably not the most practical answer. Examining how you feel and your own motivations to stay in this relationship may be a good idea.
    You cannot control your girlfriend or her actions. You can only control what you do. And how your respond. You sound like you have not resolved her being unable to support you and being at times, downright mean about your weight loss efforts. While she may be contrite, you doubt her sincerity. I am sorry, but only you can judge if she truly means it or not. And my guess is, this is a process for her, not a switch she can turn on and off.

    Do you want to continue in this relationship? If so, can you forgive her and move on? And that does not mean not holding her accountable for her end of the bargain. I would discuss it with her and let her know that you not only want, but need the space to give her meaningful feedback when you don't feel supported and she needs to accept that feedback from you.

    I wish you the very best of luck. I hope you can resolve this.
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  • LavenderBouquet
    LavenderBouquet Posts: 736 Member
    Keep in mind unless she has read up about things, she is potentially also spouting girl-science

    :huh:

    I'm gonna pretend I didn't read that.

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