WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2025
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Lanette - Non-fiction - observations and opinions mostly on the world as it is. Writing 800 to 1,000 words at a time. Possibly to publish as a collection later - already up around 40,000 words this year. Publishing over on Substack as an emailed newsletter—not always weekly, just pretty much when something pushes me to write. Because I do not restrain myself from our taboo subjects here, or the occasional curse word, I seldom say much about it here. In all honesty, my writing can be an acquired taste. I'm not necessarily everyone's cup of tea.
Melanie - The snow looks beautiful. And painful. Cold hurts my joints, cold and wet hurts worst. I absolutely loved Oregon, but don't feel I could have survived another winter there, and that was ten years ago, and significantly south of you. I absolutely admire and respect those of you who can love it.
Did my 15 minutes (I exaggerated earlier, inadvertently) on the elliptical, plus the weights and the shoulder exercises, then I got the bit of shelving put up in the shop. Then got all our tool battery chargers in place, safely set up and charging what needed charging. The last go-round discombobulated everything, so I had to straighten it out and make everything easy to reach.
And that's as complicated as it's going to get today. Time to relax,
Love,
Lisa in AR4 -
My middle sister was very athletic in high school playing golf, basketball, and volleyball. She also was the major accompanist for the girls glee, the barbershop quartet, and the choir in high school. Plus she had a piano teacher that challenged her to do recitals etc. So athletic that they have a girls athletic award named after her! So its quite sad to see her holed up in her basement, in a wheelchair. 😥
Rebecca Whidbey Wa
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Four years post chemo. After my haircut last week, my hair, such as it is, is now all one length!
Flea, celebrating small victories
Willamette Valley OR
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I am stuck on page 16! I must be the most stupid person on Earth….Since my DH was ill and passed I am in a stupor. I cannot think straight, I lose things that should be right there, and I spend hours trying to correct things that I must have messed up. I have lost my Amazon account because I can't log in with 2 step verification and I can't seem to load up an ID scanned photo from Word to verify my identify. I got my old phone number deleted and now cannot get in with the 2 verification codes. If any of you could help i would love it!
Old and Stupid,
Carol in GA
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Hi, it's me again,
I had a patient who came in with possible cat scratch disease. It causes the spleen to enlarge, blood counts to be all out of whack, and intense pain. I told the family that if he has that, then the cat has to stay outside. He is a teen and wants to discuss everything we do. I put him on oxygen because his lung sounds were diminished, and his oxygen saturation went down to 85%; the brain needs more oxygen than that. When he got pain meds, my student asked me if we should wake him to see how he is doing. I told her no, that we will use the FLACC scale. I hate to wake someone up to see if they are in pain. They will let you know if they are. I saw a video of a nurse waking a patient from a deep sleep to give her a sleeping pill.🤷♀️ I was wondering if anyone has ever heard of a cat scratch causing some illness.
Lisa, I love that sweater, it is stunning. I say keep it and wear it. Show off your talent.
Flea, your hair has a slight curl to it, and soon the ponytail will start. That last meal you posted looks so good.
Machka, your motivation posts are helping me keep them coming. Thank you, I needed it. So insightful. Have you been swimming lately?
Pip, I am so happy that you found your love for running again. How was the marathon?
Heather, your book sounds quite interesting. I can not wait to read it. I enjoyed your other one. Did the girls finish their bottles?
Barbara, I am so happy to hear the Tumble is doing great. Now pamper you. Do something that makes you happy, like a massage, alone time, mani-pedi, journal, or whatever floats your boat. In fact, we all should. This time of year, I tend to get the blues.
Tracey, I am glad you got to vent in Ceramics. I hope it all works out. Did Kaitllyn and Brody decide to take a break in their fertility? I saw her picture and see how she is with your MIL, and yes, she would be a great mom.
Terri, I am so happy that everything looks good for BIL. Will continue to pray for you all.
Debbie, those meals look great. I hope you get to walk around the wetlands again.
Okie, are you into crafts? Just curious since we wanted your storage room to be a craft room too.
Melanie, is that a thing at our age that our phones are always missing?
Lanette, how is that fawn doing? Does it still come around? Do you have many farm animals to care for?
Carol, are you going to have family over for Thanksgiving?
Rebecca, I purchased a box of Kodiak, made a waffle, and it was delicious! Thanks for talking about it. As for the 202 weight, it will go down. I was at 201 and excited, but then I went the wrong direction. I need to get back into step aerobics.
Yesterday, the appraiser came and went through my house with a fine-tooth comb. Rose thought he was there for her. It was a 2.5-hour process. We kept scaring each other. He would be in the pantry, and I was about to cut off the light, and then he would say I am here. I scream because I thought he was long gone. Then I would be in the garage, organizing my scrapbook stuff to pack, and then I scare him, and then he yells, and then I scream. It was quite the comedy act.
For Thanksgiving, I was going to buy a rotisserie chicken for Rose and me and all the fixings. Julia wants one more family dinner in this house. So, I will cook a turkey, make dressing, and order sides from the Corner Market. I don't want to marathon cook anymore. It is exhausting; I would rather run 10 miles than do that. (I am not a runner unless something is chasing me.) DH is flying in to be with me for a week. He can work remotely. He is traveling for work currently.
By the way, I did wash my hair before going to work last week and dyed it black cherry, and I love it. I think once-a-week washing for my hair is good enough, unless I swim. I want a bike for Christmas, and I will get myself one. It may be after Christmas, because I have to give to all my Munchies first. Munchies are my kids, my dog Rose, my Hubby, my mom, my framily, and my little patients that I love so much. Then my co-workers. Giving makes me happy, too.
Got an eye doctor's appointment tomorrow. I broke my favorite glasses at the end of my shift😫. So, hopefully, I can purchase another pair. Well, I talked enough now. Have a fantastic night, everyone.
XO,
Mo in Mississippi
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After work stopped at Food Lion and got my turkey since it was on sale. Also got some sweet potatoes (25cents/pound. At that price, we’re having sweet potatoes). Also butter that was BOGO. But seems they charged me the full priced, not the sale price on the hangtag so I’ll stop there tomorrow, get some more butter, and ask them why I didn’t get the sale price. Made another chocolate cake for /thanksgiving since I didn't like the way the one I made looked. Has good taste. Don't really understand why Jess feels the need to go to Crumble for dessert when we have the cake (the one that I didn't like the way it looked — it tastes fine, just doesn't look fantastic.
M– your garden sounds lovely
Beth– thought of you when I heard about the snow. Did you get a lot?
Melanie– you made me smile reading about how you get your steps in
Did I tell you about the gal at BK who was in the hospital with pneumonia? Well, I found out today that she died. It’s pretty sobering, I would have guessed that she was probably in her 40’s
Lanette – When Jess first went to vet school, she was told that as a female, if she went into large animals, she could write her ticket. She wants research, so that’s OK too.
Went to the dentist today. It seems that between two of my crowns(they are probably at least 20 years old) and my gum there was some decay so he put a filling there.
No work tomorrow so I’m thinking that I’ll do a 20-40-60 workout and then go in the pool for a bit then go to Aldi.
Why is it that what I would like to say has already been said by someone???? Guess that’s what I get for logging in late.
Michele NC
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stats for the day-
Walk w/family- 1hr 30min 55sec, 10374steps, 89elev, 2.80ap, 92ahr, 159mhr, 4.24mi= 414c
Strava app= 514c
Walk home to gym- 11.11min, 1324steps, 2.90ap, .54mi= 54c
Strava app= 66c
Various floor exercises- 30min, 10diff exercises, most 2x10ea, one jumping fast in place 2x100ea and other 2x20ea, 109ahr, 157mhr= 151c
Elliptical machine one w/bands- 12.47min, 2incl 2resist, 123ahr, 153mhr, 1mi= 106c
Treadmill jog- 5.05min, 6.1sp, 167spm, 843steps, 138ahr, 164mhr, 10.10min mi, .50mi= 64c
Walk gym to home- 11.04min, 1368steps, 2.80ap, .54mi= 52c
Strava app= 65c
Walk kids- 20min, 700steps, 2.0ap, .48mi= 67cTotal cal 912
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2025 two cities1/2 marathon-
2hrs 17min 20sec, 383elev,
11.31min mi, 142aw, 158ahr, 182mhr, 167spm, 22912steps, Apple Watch says 13.12mi= 1396c
Strava app= 1447c
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Mo -
I am the least crafty person I know! I can paint my backyard garden gnomes when they need refreshed, but that’s about it!
Okie in the TX Hill Country6 -
Carol,
You are not stupid and old. You are grieving. Have you had any sleep? Are you taking care of yourself? You are still here in the land of the living, and I know you miss DH fiercely. I know he would want you to go on and be happy. Now we need to find an IT person here to help you navigate through getting your life in order. I am terrible with computers, and my husband stopped supporting me when I went back to school. So, DS took over and helped me get my own Apple ID, my own email address, and more. Then he fired me and told me to figure it out. What I can't figure out, I get people at work to help me with. So you are not the only one who needs help with the computers.
Who can help Carol navigate the computer issues, and how can she get things in her own name?
XO,
Mo in Mississippi
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Hidee ho all
For whoever asked,im advocating for myself there isn't anyone else who will do it
Got my insurance worked out today,and contacted my GP I figured with no muscle tone ,I need PT ,so I will be getting that soon ,I think If I work on that I might feel a bit better.
Only thing that ticks me off is when you call customer service for the insurance, you get someone from India who you can barely understand, and never really gets you the information you need.
Luckily I got mail from them yesterday and figured out everything is still OK
Can't wait to go to N.H and see my brother
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I got up early to switch the heating on before its usual time, (we don't have it on at night), but it didn't fire up. Switching it on and off twice at the wall got it going, like the last time. The boiler man thinks it could be a faulty zone valve. I will get him to have a look. It's working right now.
Don't you just hate it when things go wrong......
Carol - Give yourself some grace. When I was 25, my SIL was killed in a car crash. I could not read for a month, and I mean just basic making sense of words. Nothing made sense to me. I lost weight. I did nothing but cry. Will your beautiful grandchildren help you with computer and phone stuff?
Our 21st wedding anniversary today. We're just staying at home and having a few nice things to eat. Champagne. It really does feel like yesterday when we met.
Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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You aren't old and stupid.
- Do you need to do these things now? Can they wait another week or two? Or even a month or two? You are still recovering.
- Can your son help you? It would be better for someone to help you in person.
I could help you. I have gone through the same sorts of things you are trying to do when my husband had his brain injury accident and was in a coma for weeks, then couldn't remember anything for many more weeks. I got quite good at accessing accounts.
And I am going through a similar process now as I have started getting rid of accounts we don't need.
But it is best done in person.
One tip -- never delete or get rid of your phone number or your husband's phone number until you are completely finished getting everything into your name and have ensured there is at least 1 active phone number and 1 active email address associated with the account.
It is still possible to access accounts without the phone number but it is a lot harder.
Why is your scanned photo in Word? Why is it not in jpg, png or possibly pdf? What formats does Amazon accept?
Machka in Oz
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Carol,
For Amazon, you are going to have to load your identity document in the following format and size.
File format and size
Formats: PNG, TIFF, PDF, JPG, or JPEG.
File size: Must be under 10MB.
Special characters: File names should not contain special characters.Document quality
Clarity: The document must be clear, high-quality, and not blurry.
Visibility: The entire document page, including all corners, must be visible.
Image type: Use scanned images or photos taken from a mobile device.
No screenshots: Screenshots are not acceptable.
Authenticity: Documents must be authentic and unaltered.
Color: Upload color images, not black and white.Do you have an email address associated with the account? If so, you might be able to use that for your verification codes.
Machka in Oz
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Had a lovely mini present opening with John this morning. We both had bought each other posh watercolour brushes! Mine is very superior.
The boiler man is coming tomorrow pm.
Done some essential admin tasks. Contributed to a couple of favourite charities for my Christmas 'balm for the mind'. Edited my Waitrose Christmas order, adding our lunch items, as we are using our celebration stuff up today! Sent an M&S birthday gift card to my brother's wife. It says, 'You are a star!' She truly is. It's been such a long haul for the two of them. He is much improved now. I do have a hand painted card to send her.
Now must wash my hair.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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A few tips regarding the "paperwork" stuff … when you're cancelling accounts or changing who is responsible for accounts etc. in situations where your partner or parent is gone or unable to deal with accounts anymore
- Do the phones and emails last or close to last. Figure out how to get into them so you can get the verification codes etc. but don't change anything with them until you are sure you've done everything with all the other accounts. In fact, I'd leave them for a full year before cancelling a phone number or email address so that you are sure you won't need them.
- If you're talking to a call centre located in a place like India and are having difficulty understanding the person, turn the volume up on your phone to improve your chances of hearing, but talk very slowly and quietly. One thing I've noticed over the years since mobile phones became a thing is that if Person A can't hear Person B on the other end of the phone, Person A will start talking louder and may start enunciating better. So be Person B. Talk quietly and force the person in the call centre to talk louder and enunciate better. It has worked for me.
- Google it. If you don't know, ask the question in Google. "How do I get into my Amazon account if I cannot receive my verification code?" "What validation questions might a bank ask me to prove who I am?"
- With the information you get from Google, write a plan of action.
Step 1, I need to do this. Step 2, I need to do that.
Create a table of possible questions they might ask and your answers.
Create a table of possible questions you might need to ask.
It might even help to write a script to follow when you make a call — they'll likely say this, so I'll answer with that.
To help you create the script, you can call the help number, make note of what number you need to press for certain things … and hang up. A few minutes later, call again, and go further, press a number and see if there's another set of numbers to press. If you go far enough that you get a person, ask a very general question: "I just wondered about the steps I would need to change my address on this account." If they tell you they can do that for you right now, ask them for what information you would need to provide, then thank them, decline their offer to do it for you and hang up. Use the information to put your script together.
When you've got all your ducks in a row, do the call for real.
With some things you might need to Step 1 on one day and then wait for the change to filter through the system, then do Step 2 a week later.
Machka in Oz
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I'm so sorry Carol. I have no help to offer, but big hugs. Hope you find some help here.
Yes Barbara... Just like in the oven. Pierces them with a fork and wraps them in foil. Leaves them there for 6-7 hours on low. House smells wonderful when I get home from work!
Love and Blessings,
Carla, in MN2 -
😱 Carol, first you are not old or stupid. Grief is a powerful emotion that shows itself in many ways. Technology is both a blessing and a curse. If you have a family member with computer skills, perhaps you can get help from them. The choice I made was to look online for computer repair near me and found a place to take my computer and ask for help. It cost money and time, but the man who helped me was patient and was able to handle my problems. I still have Jake's phone and phone number and email and I check them every day. Some days I am grateful for Jake's phone because I have to use it to call myself to find where I put my phone. I have and extra remote for the TV and have it in a drawer because I keep putting the remote in a strange place. Take it one day at a time.
😀 Machka, I read all your suggestions. What a great list.
😀 Allie, you are accomplishing more than you realize if you are dealing with insurance, spending time with Doris, and driving up to NH. You'll find your healthy eating plan one item at a time. A good protein shake for breakfast is a good start as is having groceries delivered so you don't default to fast food restaurants.
🎵🎶 Barbie in NW WA
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OOh glad you enjoyed them! With the thick and fluffy waffles you nuke them for 30 sec then toaster on lowest setting now. Don't think you can save time by just toasting the frozen waffle.😁👍🏼
Rebecca Whidbey Wa
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Last evening, I was able to video chat with middle son and kids, then birthday son finally popped on. We all talked for quite some time. It does my heart so good. I felt so awful for not being able to send anything to him, like I just failed in the Mommy dept! But its not my fault he's living in kind of a Navy void mail wise! At the end Athena left me a cute message on her Gizmo watch for me. Hearing a 6 yr old say you're the bestest grandma ever is like "ouch my poor heart, its just too cute"!
Rebecca Whidbey Wa
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Michele ~ Thanks for sharing your photos. The new deck looks NEW! Know you will enjoy using it.
Ginny ~ Healing prayers for you.
Terri ~ Glad your brother’s operation was successful and hope he heals quickly.
Lisa ~ I like your new cardigan, and I really like the blue outside walls of your house and the flower beds you created.
Barbara ~ Glad the massages and other means helped your sciatica. My back and leg pain finally subsided after all the walking I did in the hospital my husband was in.
Allie ~ So sorry about Doris’s eye problems causing her to move into assisted living. Glad you are finally feeling a bit better.
Barbie ~ Annie looks great among her toys. Thank you for your encouraging words.
Lanette ~ You are so lucky to have close friends who help you move through life. Your friend K is a blessing to the community.
Flea ~ Your hair looks pretty and it has grown out well.
Rebecca ~ Three sisters who all have talents in diverse ways. Know your parents must have been very proud of all of you.
MO ~ You and Allie are both giving people. You both are a blessing to those who receive.
Machka ~ I wish I had read your post about handling accounts before I messed up. You have good advice. I have printed it. Regarding Amazon, I finally downloaded a PDF Text reader program and was able to add the image of my driver's license to Word. I then sent this to the recovery link and hope I will hear from them.
Carol in GA
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@dvmmcw7442 - Melanie -thanks for the book ideas. Perhaps I can find them in an audio format. I would not doubt that the Low Back Ability-Brennan app that I am using (also on youtube) is similar. I will check it out. AKA: Dr Sarno his book "The Mindbody Prescription". Nicole Sachs podcast "The Cure For Chronic Pain".
Pretty snow - Looks cold. Today thankfully, we have rain in Memphis. AN indoor walking day for sure.Lanette - SO you get to see both Mt. Rainier and St Helens. - how fun is that! Interesting news on them for sure. I don't watch the news much.
Barbara - I enjoyed reading your post. Can't think of anything to comment on. So I will just say "hiiiiii"
Heather in UK - Yes - it is nice not to be in pain doing ordinary household tasks. My mom lives alone and I 13 hours away - thankfully my brothers are less than an hour away. As much as I love living in Memphis, Tennessee - (near by...not In the city) - Being this far away does have challenges like that.
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Carol the few things I needed to scan I did not use our scanner. It was too old and complicated to run. Instead I went to the library they had a scanning system that I could e-mail what I needed to my e-mail account. From there I downloaded it and then added it as an attachment to whom ever was asking for the info. They no longer hold any of the info that you copy or scan at the library. Doing it this way saved me much frustration and time in the long run.
You can do this! Agree ask grandchildren for help. When you are up to it prioritize the accounts that are costing you money or is a source of your income. This is partly why I never add to auto billing anymore. I figure it will be easier to close the accounts without it. Make sure you have the right documents you will need to close accounts. Most will need a death certificate. Some will return it to you. I was able to complete most of what needed to be done. The only thing I didn't get done was the credit bureaus. I sent what they asked for and then they turned around and wanted power of attorney documentation. I had already shredded this because power of attorney is set up for a living relative and is no longer legal once they pass. Social security was done by the Funeral Home…If you need to apply for Social Security Survior Benefits…That is one piece of business that is done sooner than later.
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When we came to the jars of faux caviar, I wasn't happy with the colour. I decided not to risk it, even though they were in date. I have had them in the cupboard for a while! I used anchovies instead and threw away half the blinis.
I then checked for sesame seeds for tonight's tuna steaks. None! Then I checked the date on the wasabi. 2020! And a weird colour! John and I decided to take a foodie trip into Hove as part of our anniversary. We bought Canhams famous Scotch Eggs and a rabbit to cook tomorrow. Then we wandered up to Tesco where we got the sesame and wasabi, leeks for the rabbit, asparagus for tonight, and custard slices for John. In the queue to pay, we got chatting to a bar owner about the difficulties in running a hospitality business these days. Passed the time beautifully! John walked home and I caught the bus as my knee was beginning to struggle. But I must have walked well over a mile. I wanted to see if my new brace made a difference. I hadn't taken any pain killers. It helped.
I have a couple of recorded programmes we can watch tonight, and I'm expecting a doctor's phone appointment at 7 about the estrogen pessaries I use for the cystitis. We should have eaten the main course by then. When I made the appointment, I forgot it was our anniversary.
The cards we made.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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Morning, my dears,
I really do love the big weather radar maps - they show how many of us are in one picture, without showing any of us! This current system stretches all the way down to Okie in the Hill Country of Texas, over to Rita in New Mexico, to Rori in Colorado, over my head to Sherry in Tennessee, and soon will be moving toward Kylia and Ginny in Ohio. I don't know why it makes me happy, but it does.
The rain is supposed to start again in about a half hour. I skated out between the raindrops and did a quick shop at Walmart to get some baking potatoes, which are now in the crockpot (thank you, Carla!) and a few other things we needed, like Red Diamond iced tea bags to brew a gallon at a time.
Not a lot else going on. Need to get bed linens in the wash, and then and go get my yoga and rowing done while that is swooshing. After that, just relaxing and crocheting this afternoon, I think.
Thoughts out to those in pain or distress, hope it's a peaceful and joyful Tuesday for everyone.
Later,
Lisa in AR3 -
I pulled a page from Machka's book and took a bike selfie yesterday. I went for a lunch hour ride as I didn't have anyone to cook for. So fun in the snow with these fat tires. I still love the speed of going downhill- makes me feel like I did in my younger years ski racing. I know I should be wearing my new helmet- it's something I have to get used to. The orange vest is so the hunters don't shoot at me!
Thankful to whoever invented fat bikes 🙂
Tired today. Fell out of bed last night!! Landed on my knee replacement and hip. They burned for a while but I am ok this morning. High bed. I know I was dreaming when it happened but boy was I surprised when I felt myself falling 😬
Lanette- we will continue to host students. Most have been pretty good up to now.
I remember when Mt St Helen's erupted. We were in our way to a summer ski camp at Mt Hood and the highway ditches looked like they were full of snow from the ash.Lisa- I have tried the mouse wall plug ins that are supposed to emit a sound they stay away from. Ours must be deaf because it made no difference 🤷🏻♀️
Mo- those medical records are sooooooo important. Most disciplinary actions in our profession have some degree of poor record keeping.
Rebecca- your sister's physical condition is sad. What led her there? She sounded so talented.
Your GDs message melted my heart. My favourite part of the day is when my 3 year old grandson comes in the house yelling "Baba where are you?!"Flea- nice do! Glad to see you are coming back from chemo 😊
Heather- Happy anniversary 🎉 I hope you enjoy many more.
Carol- Old and stupid?! Huh?! The brain protects itself during overwhelming times of grief.Be kind to yourself- your healing is just beginning 🩷
Sherry- hope you find something helpful in those resources. I try everything in my power to reduce chronic pain.
Take care of yourselves 💕
Melanie, Alberta
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Awe, sweet of you to say. It was hard to find my way Freshman year of HS because everyone was still singing praises regarding my middle sister who had just graduated. Shoes I couldn't fill! I remember going out for basketball, and I went up for a lay up, and it was pathetic. The coach said, "are you really Cindy's sister"? Uugh! Then like I tried to play piano but she hogged the piano all the time because she had to practice. But I found my own thing in time.
I must say Carol, you are doing well! You might not think so, but you are! We all will lose our husbands one day, and we look to the members here who have weathered the storm of it all. You are evidence that though death of a spouse is devastating, that you still stand. You are reaching out for support. Do you know how positive that is? Well I am proud of you. Keep showing up here periodically. We got you!💖
Rebecca Whidbey Wa
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