I'm back... and ashamed

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  • Janiot
    Janiot Posts: 187 Member
    There must be so many of us who have to begin again.
    i have put on 10kgs since last August.
    Jan
  • skylarbwell
    skylarbwell Posts: 40 Member
    Don't beat yourself up about the past. The important thing is you are here today! Good luck in your journey, you got this!
  • clairedrose
    clairedrose Posts: 121 Member
    Don't be ashamed. You can see lots of people in the same situation. I have done weight watcher, TOPS, south beach, work weight challenges, sugar busters,spark people, and on and on. One thing I have learned is the minute I stop weighing myself and logging, I gain instantly.so I have been taking it slow, trying to establish some new habits I can stick with. For me, the scale is my friend because it tells me the truth.
  • janer4jc
    janer4jc Posts: 238 Member
    The only reason that a person should be ashamed is if they throw in the towel and give up for good. If you're willing to jump back in, there's still hope.
  • Losingthedamnweight
    Losingthedamnweight Posts: 535 Member
    You're not alone bruh! When I started this thing I kicked so much butt I thought "wow this is easy and it looks like I won't have weight problems ever again because I have the knowledge on how to easily lose weight". Fast forward to all these months later and I'm as fat as ever. I'm a huge excuse maker that always finds reasons to reward myself with food so it's no wonder I am where I am. Until I fix that, I'll be suffering with weight issues forever. So more than anything, the mental aspect of it is the most important thing to fix.
  • SpunkiMama
    SpunkiMama Posts: 70 Member
    Me too!!

    From being 240lbs lbs, making goal in the 130's, now back to the 170's? (ugh!!)

    yes its hard to come back and face the music, but its better than hiding behind the curtain!!

    get out and dance...you can do this, you did it once, you can do it again...

    So can the rest of us on our 2nd,3rd,4th,5th... time getting up and going again...

    Friend me if you want :)
  • drvvork
    drvvork Posts: 1,162
    I hear you... (or read you) - I too feel from the grace of fitness but came back a few months ago. It took a bit but I'm back on track and almost to goal. I'm confident you will do it and it will stick with you this time. You can do it!!! Shame has nothing to do with it so feel proud of yourself that you are taking control of it now.
  • Poetic64
    Poetic64 Posts: 4 Member
    Don't be ashamed - most of us have been there more than a couple of times! Lord knows I have - LOL!

    My Weight Loss History:

    Highest 285 As a teen
    Down to 155 Loss 130

    Up to 185 In my 20s
    Down to 160 Loss 25

    Up to 220 In my early 30s
    Down to 160 Loss 60

    Up to 219 In my late 30s
    Down to 160 Loss 59

    Up to 200 In my early 40s
    Down to 160 Loss 40

    Up to 228 In my mid 40s
    Down to 195 Loss 33

    Now up to 212 In my late 40s
    Goal: 155 Need to lose: 57

    When I reach my goal I will have lost over 400 pounds. I did not even count the constant few pounds gained and lost in between all that time!

    This time I will not get comfortable and stop monitoring my food choices. Only we can control what goes into our mouths.

    I know you'll have some bad days, but I hope your victories outnumber your defeats! Blessings to you during this hard but exciting journey!
  • ljglivingfree
    ljglivingfree Posts: 44 Member
    Welcome back!!!
  • lleadbetter
    lleadbetter Posts: 5
    welcome back, i also am good friends with the yo-yo. we just keep trying, one of these times it is going to work. :smile:
  • ErikN
    ErikN Posts: 13 Member
    Thanks for the encouraging words everyone. I rarely made use of the message board when I was logging here before. But now I can see how it can be so great to go through this stuff with so many other friendly folks with a common goal.
  • pinkfink
    pinkfink Posts: 21 Member
    I'm in the same boat. Started out strong then stopped all together. I am determined to start again and keep it up. Losing weight and staying healthy is a constant battle for so many of us. We've gotta stand by one another and keep up the positive encouragement. Feel free to add me! Lets do this together!
  • caustin76
    caustin76 Posts: 3
    Same with me! I've been on and off here a couple times. I've lost 20 pounds 3x before and managed to gain it all back. I've been back on MFP beginning this week and determined to lose weight, hit goal, AND maintain!

    Please feel free to add me. The past few times I've been doing this, I did it alone. I hope that by adding friends I'll be able to do this together with you all.
  • SarBear00b
    SarBear00b Posts: 188 Member
    I'm right there with you, but that's the good thing.. we're in it together =)
  • Whiskeygirl3132
    Whiskeygirl3132 Posts: 7 Member
    I am doing the same thing today. Recently I was diagnosed with PMR and have to take prednisone everyday which has helped with my weight gain. I am determined to stick it out and do the work!!!!
  • Chrissy0601
    Chrissy0601 Posts: 1
    Me too!! I went from 225 after having my son to 165 in 3 months and dropping below my high school weight ..to 145lbs. I am now back at 165 lbs.. I went as far as creating a whole new username...the shame.
  • IndigoRey
    IndigoRey Posts: 15
    It happens!

    take it as a temporary set back and start afresh

    “Today is a new day. Even if you were wrong yesterday, you can get it right today.”
    (Dwight Howard)
  • IndigoRey
    IndigoRey Posts: 15
    Add me if you like
    I am also a MFP drop out and looking for new friends!:flowerforyou:
  • mgroberts11
    mgroberts11 Posts: 5 Member
    Thanks for the honesty. I think many (if not all) of us have lost thousands of pounds over the years.

    I am hoping to learn a 'new normal' as far as eating and exercise go that is sustainable for life. My weight is dropping slowly as I try to make incremental changes.

    Stay strong!
  • bridgie101
    bridgie101 Posts: 817 Member
    So back in 2010-11, I went from a pretty flabby 217 down to about 185 using (among other things) MFP and the calorie logging. I felt great. I couldn't seem to get below 185, but I felt good anyway (I'm 5-10) so I didnt worry about it. Slowly but surely, it crept back up as I ignored it, and I didn't come back here till yesterday.

    "It has been 20 months since you've logged" blech!

    I'm sitting at 220 right now, ready to start this whole thing over again. I remember what it was like to be going in the right direction, and I want that feeling back.

    You are my twin, aren't you. :p
  • samedame
    samedame Posts: 36
    Hey Erik don't beat yourself up about it. You would not be the first YoYo dieter. I have lost the same 25-30 pounds several times. I'm just glad you are back. Be strong!
  • GiseleT88
    GiseleT88 Posts: 17
    welcome back and you have nothing to be ashamed of! You're here now! work hard and you'll get that feeling back =)
  • ljwatts28
    ljwatts28 Posts: 3 Member
    Im right there with you, been gone for a half a year and now back, feel free to add me as a friend if needed cause im a believer in the more support the better you do.... Good luck
  • Piesmom96
    Piesmom96 Posts: 29 Member
    You've taken the first step . . . move forward from here. Welcome back.
  • jz0608
    jz0608 Posts: 11
    Don't get discouraged. You are back where you should be. Failures aren't failures if you learn from them. Look at it this way: you already know what things WORKED for you, so you are ahead of the game there. Now, think about what didn't work. What got in your way? How can you plan to not let those barriers affect you again? Get back up, but think about how you can be more strategic about things this time. I'd love to chat if you want!
  • theopenforum
    theopenforum Posts: 280 Member
    Just liked the others, I cant count the number of diets and attempts at weightloss I have failed at over the years. All you need is one to stick so definitely keep at it :)

    friend me and ill be honored to help ya along the way

    Tof
  • PaulHalicki
    PaulHalicki Posts: 576 Member
    Welcome back. Don't sweat it, many of us are here because we struggle with our weight. I've lost 70 lb., then gained most back, then lost 25 and gained most back, and now I'm trying again.
  • purplepool03
    purplepool03 Posts: 3 Member
    I totally understand. Tomorrow I start over for the millionth time. You can do it.!:happy:
  • mthr2
    mthr2 Posts: 158 Member
    F being ashamed. It's really useless and just sad. Welcome back. F the rest.
  • fultimers
    fultimers Posts: 153 Member
    Don't be ashamed! There are many of us who have come back to MFP with our tails dragging.

    I have pretty much made up my mind that I will have to record what I eat in MFP for the rest of my life. Especially once I hit maintenance.

    Welcome back!

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