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LightenUp_Caro

So tonight I went to visit one of my friends for the first time in a couple of months. I guess I hadn't seen her since I started trying to lose weight.
When I walked in she said "wow, you've lost a lot of weight". I thanked her (i've always been the awkward chubby one, never good at compliments) but then she said something that really struck me. She wouldnt stop asking me if I was eating. When I would calmly explain to her that, yes, I do eat, she wouldn't believe me. She went as far as to tell me that a celery stalk doesn't count as a meal (as if I didn't know?)
I guess it just kind of hurt my feelings that she thinks the only way I could possibly drop pounds would be for me to stop eating.

I know this is silly of me to get upset over, but its just something that I really hate. I have struggled with eating disorders in the past, so I guess she has a reason to question me, but I'm just really excited that I"m doing this in a healthy manner and no one believes me.

Tomorrow I'll forget about it, I just needed to vent.

LightenUp_Caro

So tonight I went to visit one of my friends for the first time in a couple of months. I guess I hadn't seen her since I started trying to lose weight.
When I walked in she said "wow, you've lost a lot of weight". I thanked her (i've always been the awkward chubby one, never good at compliments) but then she said something that really struck me. She wouldnt stop asking me if I was eating. When I would calmly explain to her that, yes, I do eat, she wouldn't believe me. She went as far as to tell me that a celery stalk doesn't count as a meal (as if I didn't know?)
I guess it just kind of hurt my feelings that she thinks the only way I could possibly drop pounds would be for me to stop eating.

I know this is silly of me to get upset over, but its just something that I really hate. I have struggled with eating disorders in the past, so I guess she has a reason to question me, but I'm just really excited that I"m doing this in a healthy manner and no one believes me.

Tomorrow I'll forget about it, I just needed to vent.

dshandt

Always good to vent and it helps to let it go, I have found. Do you feel comfortable telling your friend about this site? Then if she wants, she can come here and see what it is all about. Also, as time goes on, she (and others) will see that you are making lifestyle changes and not just on a fad diet. Hang in there, and keep exercising....maybe you can challenge her to a brisk power walk or something!!?

tiliquinones

I now how that feels. It's ironic how when I was not eating, taking diet pills or just doing some crazy diets, no one really seemed to care or worry how I was losing the weight they just saw it coming off.

Then when I became more educated on nutrition and started working out, I dropped weight much quicker and I looked healthier. My mom would tell me, "omg you are just skin and bones, you are probably not eating right" I would tell her " yes mom, I'm eating and I'm eating much more thatn before" I wouldn't even go a day without breakfast and snack when before I would never make time for it. Even some co-workers were worried about me telling me how worried they were over me, "i said guys, don't you see me ating every 3 hours...lol" They were just not used to seing me thin after being overweight for so long!

It did bother me a little, but after a while and a visit to the doctors, I knew I didn't have an eating disorder, the first thing she told me was " you must be doing something right because all your test result look very good!" I told her " yeah i'm eating right and exercising". .

Anyways what I'm trying to say is if you know you are doing this the right way, don't let comments like that bother you it can be hard for someone to understand that loosing weight can be done the healthy way!!

may_marie

I have a friend that said something similar, when she realized i lost weight she made me swear that i wouldnt let it take over my life and that i would eat properly and excersice in decent amount without exagerating, i though it was strange how she reacted and later understood that she had gone through a part in her life that she brush with anorexia and execsive workout, she said that she would workout 4-5 hours a day and barely eat anything and lost about 40 pounds in a couple months. then i saw that she was worried i would go down the same lane,

i guess most people's only experience with weight loss is a negative one, stop eating, diet pills or something else just as crazy, and therefor are worried about you because they know that its not heathy,

i least your friend cares for you,
may