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  • kowajenn
    kowajenn Posts: 274 Member
    Are people really flipping over 27 pounds or is your counter inaccurate?

    27 pounds is pretty significant. At my highest weight, I was only about 20 pounds overweight, yet it made a MAJOR difference in my appearance. Just because some people don't start out "obese" doesn't mean their results don't have a significant impact in their appearance or that they have any less reason to be proud of their accomplishments.

    Point taken, but if someone starts at 20 or 30 pounds overweight, no one is going to assume they had surgery to lose it. When someone starts at 100 pounds overweight, surgery is the first assumption.
    I am amazed at the way you are belittling the amazing accomplishment the op has made! And how can you say no one would assume surgery, do you know EVERYOnE?

    Op there is an adjustment period as others have stated. It takes time for people to see you as you are now and not as you were then.

    You are reading WAY into things. I've belittled no one. Good for her on her weight loss. I am saying that if someone loses 27 pounds, I find it hard to believe people are coming out of the woodwork accusing her of surgery and making nasty comments. I guess the exception would be if she started at a healthy weight and is now grossly underweight. Then I could understand concern.
  • TheFitHooker
    TheFitHooker Posts: 3,357 Member
    Are people really flipping over 27 pounds or is your counter inaccurate?

    27 pounds is pretty significant. At my highest weight, I was only about 20 pounds overweight, yet it made a MAJOR difference in my appearance. Just because some people don't start out "obese" doesn't mean their results don't have a significant impact in their appearance or that they have any less reason to be proud of their accomplishments.

    Point taken, but if someone starts at 20 or 30 pounds overweight, no one is going to assume they had surgery to lose it. When someone starts at 100 pounds overweight, surgery is the first assumption.
    I am amazed at the way you are belittling the amazing accomplishment the op has made! And how can you say no one would assume surgery, do you know EVERYOnE?

    Op there is an adjustment period as others have stated. It takes time for people to see you as you are now and not as you were then.

    You are reading WAY into things. I've belittled no one. Good for her on her weight loss. I am saying that if someone loses 27 pounds, I find it hard to believe people are coming out of the woodwork accusing her of surgery and making nasty comments. I guess the exception would be if she started at a healthy weight and is now grossly underweight. Then I could understand concern.

    Maybe if someone is truly jealous and being hateful because maybe they aren't trying to lose weight but want's to lose weight, it's possible for someone to be that cold and hateful. Nothing surprises me anymore to be honest.
  • klerato
    klerato Posts: 45
    You must look great then,Congrats:flowerforyou:
  • soapyapples
    soapyapples Posts: 18
    Jealousy is quite loud sometimes. Also, take the potatoes. Free food is awesome.

    :D
  • Deipneus
    Deipneus Posts: 1,854 Member
    I just look people up and down, burst out laughing, and walk away.
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    No one is jealous, they are just shocked at the change. There are so many misconceptions about weight loss and nutrition that people assume that unless you're eating salads for 3 years you cannot lose. And when they see someone successfully lose, especially if they are still enjoying food, they feel insecure about their own inability to manage their fitness.

    you don't think envy is a common outcome of that insecurity?
  • SherryTeach
    SherryTeach Posts: 2,836 Member
    Why did your boss have to defend you? You can't stand up for yourself? With this kind of work environment, I'd be looking for a new job?
  • hannahpistolas
    hannahpistolas Posts: 290 Member
    Why did your boss have to defend you? You can't stand up for yourself? With this kind of work environment, I'd be looking for a new job?

    YES.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    No one is jealous, they are just shocked at the change. There are so many misconceptions about weight loss and nutrition that people assume that unless you're eating salads for 3 years you cannot lose. And when they see someone successfully lose, especially if they are still enjoying food, they feel insecure about their own inability to manage their fitness.

    you don't think envy is a common outcome of that insecurity?

    Sometimes, but I think it is a bit more complicated than that. I think that it can make them feel bad about themselves and to combat it they decide that the person MUST have "cheated" somehow or are ill, because that is the only way it is possible for a "normal" person.
  • 1PatientBear
    1PatientBear Posts: 2,089 Member
    Why did your boss have to defend you? You can't stand up for yourself? With this kind of work environment, I'd be looking for a new job?

    Really? You're going to leave a job because somebody said something mean??? Wow. Talk about an overreaction.
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    No one is jealous, they are just shocked at the change. There are so many misconceptions about weight loss and nutrition that people assume that unless you're eating salads for 3 years you cannot lose. And when they see someone successfully lose, especially if they are still enjoying food, they feel insecure about their own inability to manage their fitness.

    you don't think envy is a common outcome of that insecurity?

    Sometimes, but I think it is a bit more complicated than that. I think that it can make them feel bad about themselves and to combat it they decide that the person MUST have "cheated" somehow or are ill, because that is the only way it is possible for a "normal" person.

    agree with that for sure.
  • greattimes
    greattimes Posts: 123 Member
    Just to let you know 27 lbs is just what I have lost since being here. All together I have lost 73 lbs in 9 months. My boss defended me because it was said to her.
  • jetscreaminagain
    jetscreaminagain Posts: 1,130 Member
    Well done with your acheivement. I suspect these comments feel like they are diminishing the hard work you put in. I understand being bothered by the comments.

    And

    What other people say about you reflects on them, not you. Try to take nothing personally as it does no good. They live in their perceptions and filters just like you do. What they say reflects their stuff. How you react reflects your stuff. We all have stuff. We get happier sooner when we stop getting discombobulated by trying to figure out other people's stuff and instead start figuring out our own.

    Again, it us about boundaries. Other people's thoughts and comments don't have to sink so deeply into your Psyche. You could develop a thicker skin through the conscious choice repeated over and over that you have a right to peacefulness and happiness and thus bunch of BS is sucking the joy out. So don't let the BS stick. Wipe it off your shoe and leave it behind.
  • idahoprincess72
    idahoprincess72 Posts: 48 Member
    You know that YOU WORKED HARD, and you can now ENJOY THE BENEFITS! Focus on the positive responses from everyone. It may be hard to ignore the negative ones, but keep in mind where they are coming from....especially as they are chowing down & over indulging on their meals!

    I am so proud of you and your accomplishment. Now you can go on a cruise with me and show off your new bod! ;)

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