I've never dated...ever!

FretheMJsmokingcannibal

It could be that but I doubt because that's not why I'm frustrated. I'm frustrated that I want to join the military (active duty) and this dude don't want anything' to do with the military or moving. (I'm a military civilian brat and well, IDK about him. I think he grew up in one city) I want to get to know him but I don't want to give up my dream...

ajharries

Ask him out over the phone. Just make the call...there's nothing weird about that.

And remember this...if he really fancies you...there is virtually nothing you can do wrong on the first date.

It's out of ur hands, so just be urself.

Yiazach

The cliches about love are, for good or evil, true more often than not, at least that's my experience. And if you think about it, problems of a romantic nature are almost as old as civilization so those cliches had a long long time to be refined! Now, will I be more specific? No! Why? Because i am sleepy!

FretheMJsmokingcannibal

What cliches are those?

anemoneprose

Unless he works in retail or at a coffee shop or restaurant or something like that, where it would be normal for you or anyone to just pass by, I think, maybe don't go to his work. (Like, if he works at an office, that *would* be weird for you to stop by.)

Instead, go to events he is likely to be at and make small talk.

Small talk = things that are happening around you *at that event*, local current events, weather, music... Show interest in him by asking questions, listen to what he says, build on that with your own information, ask another question... chit chat, fun and games.

FretheMJsmokingcannibal

Unfortunately, he's firefighter so showing up at his work would be super duper awkward....

determinedbutlazy

Put on a negligee and set fire to your kitchen.

FretheMJsmokingcannibal

I'm already under fire watch for my pyromania. One more incident with the fire alarm and I'm on lock up. That and his company doesn't work in my due. Now if I set fire to the neighbor hood, he and his company might come as back up...

FretheMJsmokingcannibal

Put on a negligee and set fire to your kitchen.

What do you think, show all or leave them guessing?

mayaocean

Limerence is an involuntary state of mind which results from a romantic attraction to another person combined with an overwhelming, obsessive need to have one's feelings reciprocated.

Above is from wikipedia

Read the whole article though if u really wanna know

I have definitely been in limerence several times

Holy ****. Lost it.

troy0

Limerence is an involuntary state of mind which results from a romantic attraction to another person combined with an overwhelming, obsessive need to have one's feelings reciprocated.

Above is from wikipedia

Read the whole article though if u really wanna know

I have definitely been in limerence several times

Holy ****. Lost it.

shared sentiment

FretheMJsmokingcannibal

Limerence is an involuntary state of mind which results from a romantic attraction to another person combined with an overwhelming, obsessive need to have one's feelings reciprocated.

Above is from wikipedia

Read the whole article though if u really wanna know

I have definitely been in limerence several times

Holy ****. Lost it.

shared sentiment

The joke totally flew over my head...

FretheMJsmokingcannibal

I found the guy I like on facebook...but I'm afraid he knows and I might come off as weird