Advice on Beating Negativity?

reasons2bemissed

Hey Guys!
So, I was hoping I could get some input from people out there... Or maybe just state my current mental roadblocks and get some motivation or tips...
I have been working on my weight loss for about two months now. I went on the 1200 net calorie goal, and exercising 5-6 days a week. The first couple weeks I was doing it I felt as if I was starting to see small results and I felt positive about it. But recently I've been feeling larger than I felt before I started. I haven't gained back any weight that I had lost, but I feel super aware of all of the 'fat folds' and other areas of my body I wish were different, and every time I notice these I get almost angry with myself for allowing them to get that bad in the first place. I know that true weight loss (that will actually last) is a gradual process, with a loss of approximately 2 pounds per week... But I think that the negativity that is starting to (re)arise about my body is causing me to have 'bad' days where I make very poor food choices. This, in turn, is slowing down my progress.

Any help would be super appreciated (and good luck on your own goals as well!)

Lizzy622

We all have good and bad days. Try to find ways other than food to feel better. You may want to buy some shapewear that holds all those folds in and then you can have a visual of where you want to get. I also like going on here and reading some of the success stories and realize I can do that too.

littleburgy

I have a tendency towards anxiety in general and I am a black belt in beating myself up. Over time I've learned that it's important to recognize negative thought patterns and to challenge them. No matter how much you weigh!

For example, noticing extra weight and feeling shame about it could be challenged with the fact that you are now aware of your health and taking positive action.

The problem with the nasty negativity that comes up is that it may still try to worm its way around even if you lose the weight you want. It may try to find something else to be negative about, which is why it has to be kept in check.


When I was at my worst with my weight and body image issues, I did get some brief counseling. Because these things really often aren't merely weight or body issues, often other emotional issues are at play.

Perhaps there are some good reads out there to address the emotional side of weight loss as well.

Overall I find support systems are important -- on here, or with trusted friends and family -- and the suggestions of reading success stories to stay inspired are good, too.

RLPearce92

Hey there! as you have stated yourself youre aware that it is a gradual process, which is great because it means youve got the attitude of youre in this for the long run!
i can understand your frustration but you should be proud of wanting to change your body and become more healthier, by the sounds of it you are doing everything right and saying you havent put any weight on means it is working.
one way i switched was to measure inches that i lost rather than the scales, even losing half an inch in places is a great success as it means your body is shaping!
2 months is only a short time frame, your body is adapting still!
if i am having a bad day or a bad few days i clear the cupboards of all crap and go on a health shop, if i dont have access to the foods i cant eat it!
good luck! keep on track the results will come, look at the success threads great motivation!

Keep_The_Laughter

I'm no expert, just a person making a lifestyle change like you and the poster above me. What I hear you saying is that you get discouraged, but that you know there are a variety of choices you make everyday about your health. If that is true, you sound like a normal person who just needs some support to get to the next good decision.

What I can offer you is respect for your honesty and self awareness, appreciation of how difficult is to change old habits, sincere belief that you deserve to be as happy and healthy as you can be, best wishes for you on this journey and the knowledge that tomorrow is a new day for us all to make more positive choices. Thank you or putting yourself out here and being strong enough to state clearly what is causing your frustration.

On the physical aspect of your discomfort, would you be interested in investing in some form fitting workout gear and undergarments? Perhaps having a little more structure in your activewear would bring some of the stability that women with larger busts and distance runners prefer.