Help with my calorie count?

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I am having a hard time figuring out how many calories to eat?
I am 5'4" and currently weigh 169, I am 52 years of age.
I try to work out 3 times a week, usually about about 30 mins cardio and some strength training. If I work out, I eat those calories back.
Right now it says about 1200 calories to lose weight, no matter what I do to change the weight loss per week.
Yet some ppl say eat no less than TDEE or BMR. I am really just confused and really rather hungry ;)
Can someone help me out please?

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