Non-diet: stop when you're full, eat only when hungry etc

ToFatT0B3S1ck

Even if you only eat when you are hungry, if you eat more calories than your supposed to you WILL gain weight. It's all about calories. Now, if you are watching what you are eating calorie wise AND only eating when you are hungry, that will work. I personally am on medication for Bipolar that kills my appetite. Eating when I am hungry won't work for me because I am never hungry and sick to the stomach on most days.

nikkiclaire123

id like to add that the paul mckenna book isnt about just eating when your hungry. its about mindful eating. that is, chewing your food, enjoying every bite, eating slowly and most of all stopping when you are full

EvgeniZyntx

I know I must be really frustrating but so fed up of feeling this way.

Ok, let's have this conversation.

How are you feeling and why are you so fed up?

I'd guess you are not happy with your current view of your body/fitness - either weight, looks or ability concern you in some way. You can focus on weight only but that won't address a measure of how flabby we might feel (I'm moving to my own interpretation and my own goals - in the hope that helps - feel free to tell me I'm total wrong)

I'm going agree with the books and say it isn't about weight loss. Although the majority of people I see posting here post about losing weight - I have a guess that this is mostly because it is easy to measure and it is a visible factor.

I'd guess/think that for many people it ius about feeling/looking sexy, doing things and feeling comfortable with oneself. It's more emotional than physical because 126 or 632 or whatever number doesn't mean anything by itself.

For me, it's about fitness - being able to do more, at a leaner (but not lighter) me - I have been pretty much at the same weight for over 6 months and this is mostly ok - because I'm way stronger, bf% is down by 5-7 points, etc. And most important, my mental status - comfort level is going where I want it to be. Sure I have bad days - but I work just as hard my thinking to assure the emotional part of the game is there.

Asking questions like. What are your emotional goals? How far are you from them? And what will you do to get there is way more important than the scale - or weight loss.
You don't have much to lose - so working on the other goals will help you to get there (or realize that they arent important for you.)

Weighing less for me is essential - it means I can do more on a bike (gravity), have less sleep apnea, allows me to better control my BP (family history of HBP), I can climb better (one of my sports). But it is a secondary consequence of getting there for the other stuff.

so what are your goals?

MikaMojito

Different ways of eating work for different people. I am ALWAYS hungry, so if I always ate when I was hungry, I'd be even more overweight. I don't feel limited by limiting my calories because if I want to overeat one day, I can make up for it the next day.

jaz050465

I know I must be really frustrating but so fed up of feeling this way.

Ok, let's have this conversation.

How are you feeling and why are you so fed up?

I'd guess you are not happy with your current view of your body/fitness - either weight, looks or ability concern you in some way. You can focus on weight only but that won't address a measure of how flabby we might feel (I'm moving to my own interpretation and my own goals - in the hope that helps - feel free to tell me I'm total wrong)

I'm going agree with the books and say it isn't about weight loss. Although the majority of people I see posting here post about losing weight - I have a guess that this is mostly because it is easy to measure and it is a visible factor.

I'd guess/think that for many people it ius about feeling/looking sexy, doing things and feeling comfortable with oneself. It's more emotional than physical because 126 or 632 or whatever number doesn't mean anything by itself.

For me, it's about fitness - being able to do more, at a leaner (but not lighter) me - I have been pretty much at the same weight for over 6 months and this is mostly ok - because I'm way stronger, bf% is down by 5-7 points, etc. And most important, my mental status - comfort level is going where I want it to be. Sure I have bad days - but I work just as hard my thinking to assure the emotional part of the game is there.

Asking questions like. What are your emotional goals? How far are you from them? And what will you do to get there is way more important than the scale - or weight loss.
You don't have much to lose - so working on the other goals will help you to get there (or realize that they arent important for you.)

Weighing less for me is essential - it means I can do more on a bike (gravity), have less sleep apnea, allows me to better control my BP (family history of HBP), I can climb better (one of my sports). But it is a secondary consequence of getting there for the other stuff.

so what are your goals?

I suppose that is my problem as I keep changing my mind. As I'm in my healthy weight range, its not REALLY about health, or being able to fit into rides, or keep up with my kids ( I don't have any). These are all goals that are very important for some people.
I suppose its to not feel tired, not feel stuffed or have indigestion as I've over eaten, for my clothes not to feel tight. Looking better IS important but I think not as important as FEELING better. I generally eat healthily except when I go a bit made and eat chocolate etc and I'm a vegetarian. I suppose its also that I feel I'm a failure that I just can't seem to keep motivated long enough to lose fat- maybe that's what's as annoying as the rest of it.