I think I'm done with MFP

Halloweenmom2

Don't get me wrong, this is a very useful tool, the people here are SUPER amazing - they encourage me to continue this road and help me get up when I am feeling down. I love the fact that I lose weight and that I make friends at the same time. But, I think I'm done with mfp - I can't do this anymore, I just can't!

Why, you ask? Because this has for some weird reason kept me worried most of the time, I worry about not logging in, about going over my calories, about what to eat, about not being able to find certain foods, about not having enough time to log in ALL of the little things that go in my mouth, I feel like I have someone on my back all of the time, Mr. Sargeant, which in MANY cases is GREAT! But I think I've gotten to the point where I can let this go and do this on my own, under my own rules, without WORRIES! The times that I have given up or where I eat something that I'm not suppose to eat it's mostly because I didn't log in the day before or the current day and I feel like "blah" about that large meal. This tends to happen on the weekends. I wondered why? So, I realized that since I didn't have enough time to log in to MFP I just decided to "give-up" - If I don't log in to MFP - I don't DIET. When Sargeant isn't around - Diet isn't around!

So, you think that I'm just going to gain weight then, right? No MFP - No DIET! I said it, so... most likely it will happen? No! I think I need to prove myself - I want to be able to do this on my own and relax my mind. I don't want to DIET anymore, I just want to do this as a way of life - & I'm sorry but I won't be able to log in EVERY day for the rest of my LIFE! I don't want to have to count what my "walks" mean or what my "apple" means, I just want to eat it and walk it and ENJOY IT! It'll be part of my LIFE!

I feel like I'm letting my MFP's DOWN & I feel bad, but I think this is a personal choice to prove myself, to see if this is really what's making me stress so much. I need to test myself, not count anything and start living a REGULAR life, only with GOOD, HEALTHY choices and exercise. I think I can do this, I know people have done it - with NOTHING but their will and their strength in hand. I will be back once every month JUST to weigh in - but I think it's about time I enjoy my apple and not think of it as "70 cals" - I think it's time I begin to lose weight without depending on Mr. Sargeant.

Thank you Mr. Sargeant but I think i'll be okay on my own, thank you for pushing me and keeping me focused during times of "weakness" - I'll come back to you every month and let you know how I'm doing; I'd like to thank you for your free services, they are TRULY appreciated. I just think it's time that you let me prove myself, let me show you how much I've learned and let me do this MY own way. I know what's right or wrong and I think it's time I stop depending on you to tell me so. I'll be good, I promise, PLEASE don't be scared. I'm scared myself, but I'm sure everything's going to be ok. I just don't want to feel the "tension" you give me every time you're around - and when you're NOT around I feel like I let you down so might as well LET YOU DOWN. I'm so childish, I know, and I think it's time that I grow. I will do this, trust me, I will. Again, THANK YOU so much for your time. You are appreciated.

I love you,

Adri

tex43

Best of luck to you,what you are saying actually makes a lot of sense,I to have the problem with weekends,wish they would hurry up and get an app for my phone,but again are we going to be able to do this the rest of our life?

anyway,if you need to you can always come back right?

ashlee954

Good luck to you Adri! MFP 's intent was never to worry you or stress you out so if that is happening then it is probably a good thing that you are letting go except once a month. We'll miss you!

cdsledge09

I can respect your desire to go it on your own. I agree that there comes a time when you need to prove to yourself that you've made life changes. It sounds like you understand the need. It also sounds like you've educated yourself regarding good food choices, and the need for regular exercise. I don't think you sound childish, or that you have anything to feel guilty about we each have to do what is best for us. I sincerely wish you the very best in your efforts. Just know that "Sergeant " and all of your friends will be here, for you, if you should need us again.

Take care

Chris :flowerforyou:

xarrium

I'm sad to see you go--you always motivate me with your messages of "I *CAN* do it!"--but don't for a moment think you're letting anyone down!! Always remember that you need to come first, even when it's tough to believe (since it's so easy to fall into the trap of feeling selfish if you don't put everyone else first), because if you aren't happy then how can you make others happy? I'm glad you see that a diet isn't the solution, that you need a lifestyle to maintain any given weight, and that that lifestyle shouldn't have to rely on thinking of foods by their calorie counts.

I have faith that you can do it without MFP (I laughed when you said "Sargeant"--that's how I feel sometimes about my food log), but feel free to come back for support or if you need to vent about something!

All the best in your future!

Lauris83

true, you can always come back. The way I see it if I have to log everything, it'll make me think twice about eating it, especially after making my diary public. I'm def. hooked on the website but so far it has been to my benefit. If it is stressing you then maybe you do need to take a break. Good luck!

obifatkanobi

Not to sound "down" about your decision, but if you don't have the self discipline to keep track here, with help, your only fooling yourself. Bottom line is, this site is a tool for us to use. It's like a carpenters hammer, it doesn't build the house, it only helps. Even so, you don't see carpenters giving up because they smack a thumb once in a while. Nope, instead, they set their minds to mastering their use of the tools of the trade. It sounds to me like your a victim of excuses, and this is just another...

You said it yourself, on your own profile,
"No one can do this but me and I think its time that I stop messing around and change."


Just my opinion, and if I'm wrong, well then prove me that way and succeed at this instead of just giving up, again!

RoadDog

Good Luck. You can always come back.

jheller

We all have to fly at one time or another and knowing when its your time means you've come a long way.:drinker: Cheers!!

vineas

That's exactly what my plan is once I pass my goal and I'm comfortable enough with my new eating habits that I don't need to log anymore - I'm thinking it will be about 2-3 months after goal. Good job for getting to that point already.

Allibaba

I found that when I waws about a month into this site I felt obsessed and crazed about my "diet", now I see MFP as a way to know that I am eating the right balance of foods, and most important, I like the social and support aspect. For me it is the opposite, I could never enjoy certain foods, but now I know how to plan things out and I can feel good about my choices since I see all the numbers there. I also pre plan most of my day in advance so it only takes me a few mins to complete my diary, then if things change it is not too hard to go in and change it. It is all about attitude and viewpoint.

Best of luck in going it on your own, I really hope that you can be happy, healthy and enjoy your life. That is really what it is all about! :happy:

EpiGaiaRepens

I think you are doing the right thing. In my opinion, this is just a tool to unlearn healthy habits. Once you unlearn them, and you have developed new healthy habits, it's all good. I don't plan on putting everything I eat into a website for the rest of my life. Seriously...I got better things to do as well!!!!

So I wish you the best of luck! Congratulate you and being ready to go out on your own and live life to it's fullest and continue with the healthy habits you have learned! ROCK IT!!!

SoldierDad

Good luck baby doll! I support you no matter what you do.
Love,
Ed

smuehlbauer

Did you just seriously break up with MFP?
LOL

JennaM222

Tear..Sniff Sniff