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CassandraBurgos83
CassandraBurgos83 Posts: 544 Member
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12 yr old girl, not much older then my baby girl, killed herself over being bullied.

http://gma.yahoo.com/sheriff-arrest-cyberbully-suspects-parents-could-114158118--abc-news-topstories.html
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  • leduque
    leduque Posts: 37 Member
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    That was pretty dang sad and what is more troubling is that the parents are complicit in the matter. Some people have no business reproducing if they can't teach right from wrong.
  • thekyleo
    thekyleo Posts: 632 Member
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    This is similar to the post I did a few days ago about a special Ed teenager in Plano, Texas who is being bullied and being sent the most awful, hateful and disgusting text messages. It's gotten so bad her mom has to be with her at school. Luckily there is a large community now that supports her the police are tracking down the teens responsible.
  • CassandraBurgos83
    CassandraBurgos83 Posts: 544 Member
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    This is similar to the post I did a few days ago about a special Ed teenager in Plano, Texas who is being bullied and being sent the most awful, hateful and disgusting text messages. It's gotten so bad her mom has to be with her at school. Luckily there is a large community now that supports her the police are tracking down the teens responsible.
    Thank God she has a support system and people are being proactive before something happens that they cannot reverse.
  • Holly_Roman_Empire
    Holly_Roman_Empire Posts: 4,440 Member
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    Let me ask a question: Why didn't the parents of the bullied teen get her a new phone number after they switched her to a new school? That's what I would have done. Well, that's what I would have done if my kid had a cell phone (which I think is ridiculous, but that's another topic).
  • WeepingAngel81
    WeepingAngel81 Posts: 2,232 Member
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    It is heart breaking. The radio station I listen to on the way to work was talking about it this morning. I don't know a whole lot about the case, but what stood out to me was that the parents are trying to say that their daughter's facebook accounts had been hacked. I can't honeslty say that I know how I would react if I found out my daughter had bullied someone to the point of killing themselves, but I would like to think that I would not make excuses for her.
  • cleotherio
    cleotherio Posts: 712 Member
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    Let me ask a question: Why didn't the parents of the bullied teen get her a new phone number after they switched her to a new school? That's what I would have done. Well, that's what I would have done if my kid had a cell phone (which I think is ridiculous, but that's another topic).

    This post is ridiculous. Yes, please pass more judgement and tell us all about how you would have prevented this.
  • goalss4nika
    goalss4nika Posts: 529 Member
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    This is not acceptable at all! I blame the parents. I see alot of little children & teenagers who have fb/instagram accoutns. They are too young for this. My 9 year son wants a fb account because all his others friends have one. NO thanks! There is a greater focus on being "friends" with your children rather than parenting. Well, I'll be the parent.
  • CassandraBurgos83
    CassandraBurgos83 Posts: 544 Member
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    My daughter is 10, she wants FB and a cell phone(Keep in mind I was 19 before I ever had my own phone or needed it)... And she is not getting it, period. She is not old enough nor mature enough to handle the online situations. She is my baby and always will be and she and my son's health, safety etc are my first priorities. Does she agree with me? Not at all, it's this But mom all my friends have it rebuttal. I will protect and fight for my kids. I will stop at nothing to ensure my children safety and over all well being,.
    As parents we need to quit being their friends and put out foot down and be their parents. It's our responsibility to provide them with what they need and not give in to their every want.

    I dare the child, the parents of the child or the school and support systems to ever treat my children that way.
  • BigDaddyRonnie
    BigDaddyRonnie Posts: 506 Member
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    This is similar to the post I did a few days ago about a special Ed teenager in Plano, Texas who is being bullied and being sent the most awful, hateful and disgusting text messages. It's gotten so bad her mom has to be with her at school. Luckily there is a large community now that supports her the police are tracking down the teens responsible.

    Glenn Beck was speaking about this. More shocking is the school is not assisting in a way we would hope.
  • CassandraBurgos83
    CassandraBurgos83 Posts: 544 Member
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    Let me ask a question: Why didn't the parents of the bullied teen get her a new phone number after they switched her to a new school? That's what I would have done. Well, that's what I would have done if my kid had a cell phone (which I think is ridiculous, but that's another topic).

    This post is ridiculous. Yes, please pass more judgement and tell us all about how you would have prevented this.

    Not as ridiculous as your reply with "I'm just here for the horse porn. I mean cat gifs. I'm here for cat gifs."

    This is actually pretty serious. I assume at your lack of caring, this has never affected your own children, Thank goodness.
  • BadKittie05
    BadKittie05 Posts: 157 Member
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    If things were that bad at my child's school, I think I'd be looking for another school or looking for alternatives. I was bullied as a kid because I didn't wear the same clothes as the "popular" kids. Even got made fun of because in the 5th grade I wore a pink shirt that "didn't match" the pink on my overalls! Bullying is NOT okay and I will not tolerate it happening to my children! I work hard to ensure that they are strong individuals that are accepting of others and their differences because our family is a mixed family. Both race and multiple parents.
  • TheSlorax
    TheSlorax Posts: 2,401 Member
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    horrible. I need to stop reading things at work because I cry every time. :cry: :cry: :cry:

    makes me ****ing sick that the parents are in denial... no wonder their daughter behaves the way she does.
  • ren_ascent
    ren_ascent Posts: 432 Member
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    Ok, as for the parents of the teen bullies. Parents obviously have a role in the values children have. However, teenagers/children can be cruel despite the best guidance. With something this serious they will be in shock/denial because they LOVE THEIR CHILD TOO! I don't tend to judge unless something indicates a reasonable level guilt.
  • Mutant13
    Mutant13 Posts: 2,485 Member
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    My brother was around this age when a school friend of his did the same thing. Kids name was Gary. My brother was pretty cut up.

    Worse part was, a few weeks later when the kids who were the source of the bullying started hassling my little brother, and turned around to him one day and said 'Hey, why don't you go do a Gary?'

    My brother being in the state he was, turned around and cracked one of the kids in the jaw. My brother got a two week suspension. The bullies had their patents called in but received no punishment.

    After that we both joined an anti-bullying committee run by our local council. Bullying is not cool.
  • InForBacon
    InForBacon Posts: 1,508 Member
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    Let me ask a question: Why didn't the parents of the bullied teen get her a new phone number after they switched her to a new school? That's what I would have done. Well, that's what I would have done if my kid had a cell phone (which I think is ridiculous, but that's another topic).

    This post is ridiculous. Yes, please pass more judgement and tell us all about how you would have prevented this.

    Not as ridiculous as your reply with "I'm just here for the horse porn. I mean cat gifs. I'm here for cat gifs."

    This is actually pretty serious. I assume at your lack of caring, this has never affected your own children, Thank goodness.

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  • bethannien
    bethannien Posts: 556 Member
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    If things were that bad at my child's school, I think I'd be looking for another school or looking for alternatives. I was bullied as a kid because I didn't wear the same clothes as the "popular" kids. Even got made fun of because in the 5th grade I wore a pink shirt that "didn't match" the pink on my overalls! Bullying is NOT okay and I will not tolerate it happening to my children! I work hard to ensure that they are strong individuals that are accepting of others and their differences because our family is a mixed family. Both race and multiple parents.

    The Mom did switch schools. It didn't matter, they found her via technology and continued the torment even after the girl wasn't at the same school.

    I do think many teens can be cruel but the parents of the bullies had to know what was happening (there was a physical altercation) and yet they did nothing. In my opinion, you should ALWAYS love your child but you can't always support their actions.
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
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    Let me ask a question: Why didn't the parents of the bullied teen get her a new phone number after they switched her to a new school? That's what I would have done. Well, that's what I would have done if my kid had a cell phone (which I think is ridiculous, but that's another topic).

    I was a bullied child (to the point suicide looked like a very good idea). I had a fantastic support system at home but sometimes it gets too much. Moving schools doesn't always fix the problem, Text messages are just one way to bully a child. Getting the kid a new cell number would not have stopped it. There is email, and text and facebook, and in person and it just does't stop anymore.

    People in general are cruel, and how hard is for the bullies in her old school to befriend someone in her new school and start over? I think it is horrible that her family is dealing with the aftermath, I think its horrible that these girls have to live with this forever - they act pretty tough now but wait until the reality sets in they are responsible for taking someones life. This is not something that goes away.
  • TheSlorax
    TheSlorax Posts: 2,401 Member
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    Let me ask a question: Why didn't the parents of the bullied teen get her a new phone number after they switched her to a new school? That's what I would have done. Well, that's what I would have done if my kid had a cell phone (which I think is ridiculous, but that's another topic).

    This post is ridiculous. Yes, please pass more judgement and tell us all about how you would have prevented this.

    Not as ridiculous as your reply with "I'm just here for the horse porn. I mean cat gifs. I'm here for cat gifs."

    This is actually pretty serious. I assume at your lack of caring, this has never affected your own children, Thank goodness.

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    uhhh yeahhhhh. this will teach me to read the replies before I post something
  • bethannien
    bethannien Posts: 556 Member
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    Let me ask a question: Why didn't the parents of the bullied teen get her a new phone number after they switched her to a new school? That's what I would have done. Well, that's what I would have done if my kid had a cell phone (which I think is ridiculous, but that's another topic).

    I was a bullied child (to the point suicide looked like a very good idea). I had a fantastic support system at home but sometimes it gets too much. Moving schools doesn't always fix the problem, Text messages are just one way to bully a child. Getting the kid a new cell number would not have stopped it. There is email, and text and facebook, and in person and it just does't stop anymore.

    People in general are cruel, and how hard is for the bullies in her old school to befriend someone in her new school and start over? I think it is horrible that her family is dealing with the aftermath, I think its horrible that these girls have to live with this forever - they act pretty tough now but wait until the reality sets in they are responsible for taking someones life. This is not something that goes away.

    I don't have any sympathy for the bullies, least of all the older girl who is proud of her actions. Maybe it will cut her up later in life but her utter lack of remorse now makes me seriously doubt she is capable of feeling like anything but a victim in this situation.
  • JUDDDing
    JUDDDing Posts: 1,367 Member
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    My brother being in the state he was, turned around and cracked one of the kids in the jaw. My brother got a two week suspension. The bullies had their patents called in but received no punishment.

    :)

    We had something similar happen. My son had been hassled for a couple years at a school that, outwardly, cared about bullying.

    They pushed the whole, "Run away", "Tell an adult" thing, had assemblies about how to deal with it, all the usual crap.

    But in reality, they seem to be trying to create psychopaths.

    When he would report getting hit, tripped or kicked to adults - or even when they would _see_ it happen - _nothing_ would happen. When I complained, they would offer us BS platitudes about, "he has a tough home life and we're trying to be cognizant of that" - and NOTHING would happen.

    Finally, one day the kid pushed my son into a locker and then spit on him. And then my son punched him in the face several times.

    The school suspended my son for a week - even though there were witnesses to the whole thing - because he did not run away and tell an adult - an approach that has utterly failed him for years.

    End result? The kid leaves him completely alone now. And my son and I had a really fun week that week he got off from school. :drinker:

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