Starting over

dnhousewife

I lost about 40 pounds about a year ago. Then something terrible happened that shook my world, and I can honestly say that I am still not over it. I havent worked out a day since and now I am the heaviest I have ever been. I really dont know how I am going to get back on track. I have the normal obstacles such as time, money and resources working against me, but now I am lacking desire and motivation. Every time I think of excersice my stomach gets sick and I start to cry. I go back to that moment when I was working out and got the worst news of my life that put me on a path I never imagined I would have to walk and am still walking. I am haunted by the pain and disappointment that tells me all my hard work is pointless. I really dont know ho wto turn things around in my head. What is worse, I am completely alone. No one understands me. Is there anyone out there that can help me?

airdale8263

Starting over is not easy but it can be done. You have to make the decision to do it. MFP friends can provide support but it is really up to you. If you want it you can do it.
I will be glad to help provide support.
The start of a new lifestyle change begins.

socioseguro

Hi

welcome back

I would like to share a MFP link that mat be of help

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/912920-in-place-of-a-road-map-3-2013

MFP tool has been very helpful to me and I got rid of 20 lbs.

My experience is losing weight is calorie deficit.

You need to eat less calories than you burn in a day, week, month, year. The above link may help

Physical activity is always helpful but if exercise gives you allergy then do not do it. Try to move though: walking around your work or office. It is suggested to achieve 10,000 steps a day. You can use a pedometer to measure your daily steps.

Just take it one day at a time. You can do it.

Good luck in your journey

nancybuss

I'm so sorry you are still working out a terrible situation.

overall, you need to realize the fact that just because you were working out when you received that news, does Not Mean you are to never work out again. Its ok. Grieve whatever the situation is, but you need to take care of Yourself also.

Friend me if you'd like. We're here to help. Overall, I will say if its been a long time and you feel you cannot move forward with life, you may also want to talk to a professional.

you know how to do this. One day at a time. Better meals.... and get the exercise started again.
Good luck

piratesluver

I'm so sorry you are still working out a terrible situation.

overall, you need to realize the fact that just because you were working out when you received that news, does Not Mean you are to never work out again. Its ok. Grieve whatever the situation is, but you need to take care of Yourself also.

Friend me if you'd like. We're here to help. Overall, I will say if its been a long time and you feel you cannot move forward with life, you may also want to talk to a professional.

you know how to do this. One day at a time. Better meals.... and get the exercise started again.
Good luck

All of this was great advice!
I had to seek some help after I lost a loved one tragically, and it was the best decision I have ever made. It took years to come to terms with what happened, but I eventually did.
Plus, losing weight and getting active again will make you start feeling better. Just think... you've got the first step done!

cookiealbright

I'm so sorry you are having these difficult times. I've had bad times myself so I feel for you. Maybe your not ready to start over. You have to heal yourself. Time heals all wounds, that doesn't mean we forget about the hurt it just means we're ready to move on. Maybe you're not. If you need help we are here for you. You will do it when the time is right. :flowerforyou:

tjl2329

You aren't alone. Fitness for me is up and downs. Mostly downs. But I've learned only I control my body. My daughter has cancer. We've moved and moneys really tight. In about 2 months I've gaoned 10lbs. I was upset but then I realized its no big deal. Just start.thankfully its a number game so I just have to control how much I eat. You don't have to go to the gym. Try walking. I know my problems are an exscuse. Not said lightly. Just have to motivate myself and move on. You can do it. Good luck. Start out slow. Cut out fries soda junk. Then move on to other things.

yoovie

You're gonna be the shining star of comeback kids.

annieemmons

I am also recently returning to MFP. My husband and I were pretty successful using it a few years ago, but then his aunt became terminally ill and we stopped tracking calories/work outs while we were hosting family who while waiting on her to pass (she was expected to pass within 24 hours, but held on for 2 weeks- we ate horribly during that time!) We were stable for about a year after that until we had lifestyle changes including both of us starting grad school (on top of full time work) and me changing jobs.

We are both now determined to restart our weight loss. We know it is possible, though re-motivating ourselves has taken a LOT of time.

I can relate to your experience of getting off track due to traumatic experience. However, it is important to realize the grief shouldn't keep you from your goals.

If I may make a book recommendation that may help you dealing with your grief- check out "The Grief Recovery Handbook" from your local library for free. If discusses the grief process, and isn't specific about what type of grief it is. It doesn't weigh loss by type either. Whether you lost a loved one, sense of security, or what have you--loss is loss, and everyone deals with loss differently. It's not very long either.